Myself, his ex-wife turned the children against me. She was troubled when the kids accepted having a second mother, and they embraced me. From that point on she has done everything to harm my reputation with them.
I never went into this relationship hating her. I took their mother into my home just as I did her children. And it hurt when she attempted to turn the children and my husbands family against me.
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2006-12-12 05:26:32 · 12 answers · asked by November Hale 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the worst thing???
she breathes....LMAO
2006-12-12 05:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by celeste_moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I befriended the ex-wife so that all children involved including my son would feel good that the adults can get along. Well I learned the reason why she is an ex-wife.
She talked crap about me behind my back, two-faced, she did get the kids not to respect me and she is a lier. She always had an excuse or lied about the children. She never wanted us to know the truth about the happening of the children.
I try to be polite if she calls here but I do not have anything to do with anymore, I figured I wouldn't waste my time. The children are older and they see how their mother treats everyone, not just me or their dad. She is like this to everyone and we can call see right through her lies.
When I first came into the picture she did take a sledge hammer to my car window, which broke glass and lucky my son was not in the car but his car seat was. A while later I did get over and began the better person.
2006-12-12 05:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by wyattj23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you make it sound as though most ex-wives are some super-evil force that is out to make your life complete hell. I am an ex-wife and to be honest I could care less about my ex or his new chick beyond the context of both of them treating my daughter good when she is in their presence.
Would I like the fact that my daughter would look at another woman as mother?
To be honest, not really but my role in her life is not to per sway her to feel differently just to satisfy my own needs. If she sees that person as a motherly figure, no matter how much I dislike it I will try to accept her feelings and act accordingly. Just because she sees another in a motherly role does not mean that I am any less of a mother nor am I in any competition with her.
If you did your best to maintain a healthy relationship for the sake of the kids, then you are doing your best and should leave it at that.
What was the grounds for their divorce? I mean if you were the other woman or something and/or this was quite recent then perhaps she just has a lot of emotions and resentment that she is immaturely acting out by taking it out on you.
If not, I am sure it still evolves around feelings of insecurity and jealousy. Just because she isn't acting appropriate about it doesn't mean that you should sink to her level and from it sounds it seems like you aren't and have a good head on your shoulders. She will eventually get over it and learn to accept it and if she doesn't then it is her loss because the only person she is really hurting is herself and esp her children and at least everyone including yourself will be able to rest easy knowing that you did your best to do what was right.
I mean I hate to answer this question just on the basis that it sounds so broad and general that all ex-wives are unable to get over their ex and accept that he may have someone new in his life. I do have a lot of animosity towards my ex-husband and that goes without denying (check out my Q&A to see why if you want) but his gf never did anything to me and to be honest, I feel really bad for her because he isn't a trustworthy guy. (has tried unsuccessfully* to cheat on her with me, which was the whole basis of why I divorced him) but it is not my place to interfere and like I said my daughter seems to like her and that's all that matters to me because it could be worse if he ended up with someone who is just a scumbag and treats my daughter poorly and I am powerless to do anything about it.
So not all ex-wives are bad and I am sorry that so many have such horror stories:)
Take care and good luck:)
2006-12-12 05:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid her and do not respond to any of her manipulations and continue on in your life and do not allow her to ever see that she can affect you in any way. Keep interacting with your children and stay very close to them and nothing she can say or do now or in the future can affect them. When she tries to pull the loyalty issues on them remain head strong for the kids. Let her beat the hell out of herself and leave her to the miserable person she chooses to be. Move on in your own life and be true to yourself and always have a big smile when you have to be around her due to the children. be with a great and wonderfull new woman that she sees makes you very happy and one that may even create with you a new family that your other children you already have become attached to and connect to for the rest of their lives. The new children will be your bridge and your continuing bond that will keep you connected for the rest of your life with the other kids. Always include your other children and build a home with the security of your caring love for them that they always want to be there no matter what their mother has to say about it. In time the ex will realize and have to shut up that she has no power over any of you.
2016-05-23 00:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never had to deal with an ex-wife, but my mom always hated my dad's girlfriend. I loved her, though. She was a great lady. But then again, he DID cheat on my mom with her at first, for years.
In a way, I don't blame them for feeling so bitter. They married that man hoping to be with them forever, having children together, and then their wish fell through. They got short-changed. Maybe not because their husband cheated -- but maybe he did. I bet that's often the case. If my husband and I get divorced I will probably hate any woman he ends up with just because he was supposed to be mine, and our children were supposed to be ours. I can understand that feeling.
2006-12-12 05:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by Sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind an answer from a guy? I'm divorced, my ex is pretty mad at me but we have an okay relationship regarding our kids. They are older, though(youngest is 18).
My sister is married to a really neat guy, he is a minister and great as a father. His ex put them through hell. She was jealous of my sister cause she destroyed her illusions about getting my b-i-l back (I think anyway), phoned them repeatedly when they first got married. (They have a statement from Verizon phone company showing that she had phoned their house or my b-i-l's job 75 times in a two-week period. Phone company gave them free call-blocking at home but it still cost my b-i-l his job) Then they had all three of his kids with them at first, w/o any child support from her. Three years ago, she had so brainwashed the youngest one that he moved in with her so she could sue them for CS. He has felt so much shame and guilt because of it that he cut-off his relationship with his Dad. The kid doesn't realize that she doesn't really love him, she's just wants to punish my b-i-l and she's just wanted the money. She's just a monster who is a great manipulator.
The oldest boy is a good kid, but he was punished by her in many ways cause he wouldn't turn against his Dad. He's grown up now but it was really rough for him and for them for a while there. The sad part is the youngest is really mentally damaged--thinks he's been called to be a prophet and a missionary and that Dad (who was the one who always provided for him and was there for him when she moved her first boyfriend into the house with them) is a bad guy. I'm personal friends with the pastor of one of the churches that the kid goes to (and she sometimes attends) and I used to play on the worship team there, so I've let them know to be wary of him and whatever he tells them. So what I'm saying is: this is called the Malicious Mother syndrome. I'm providing a link here for you.
Oh, about the my b-i-l's ex: she's lived with two guys she met in chat rooms, married to one of them now but from what I've seen of him, he looks like he's a brick-shy of a full load. (She doesn't know that I know who they are and she's a grossly fat woman who tries to dress like a teenager in way too tight clothes. She's obviously got other mental probs. besides MM syndrome.) She also had numerous one-night stands and affairs before the divorce. I've seen some of the e-mails, letters and hotel receipts from her "meetings" so this is not just hearsay. She has tried to turn my b-i-l's family and friends against them and she is an excellent liar. I tried to get my sister to sue her but she won't because she pities her. She always says "How can a woman like that end up? Sooner or later, she will reap what she's sown."
My b-i-l and sister are both hard-working and well respected in their church and at their jobs. Honestly, I've never seen anyone that was more happy than them even without his kid around because of her! People love to go their house because its so peaceful there. You go inside and can just sit and relax--no pressure, no stress. If my marriage had been half so good, I wouldn't be divorced today.
Guess what I'm saying is that you should get educated about MM syndrome. My sister and her husband found out the hard way. They are using their experience to help other people going through similar stuff. They helped me a lot when I was getting divorced.
2006-12-12 06:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by french_frnd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would not let the kids come to our house she says they need to see their dad by his self so on the weekends that he has the kids he has to go rent a motel room and they stay there they are not allowed to come inside our home cause I am there and I have never done anything to this woman to make her hate me so much I have barely spoken two word to her the whole entire time.I have tried to be nothing but nice . My husband says it has to be this way untill we get the money to fight this in court .We are planning on getting joint custody so that they may come to our house . she is an awfull person but i have never said that to the kids. good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-12-12 05:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
besides turning 3 of the 4 kids against me she tried to run me off the road.she also kicked me in the stomach when I was pregnant with my first child
2006-12-12 05:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by lily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She hugged my husband and just waited for the right time to do it, because at first i wasn't looking and then when i turned to look, that's when she hugged him. Then she gave this look like "take that", i just looked at her and started laughing, and I flaunted my wedding ring right in front of her and she didn't like that very much. She so immature, I pity her.
2006-12-12 05:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by star-e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have nothing against the ex in some ways i think she was right in what she did...the only thing i dont agree with is she is keeping the kids away from his family.
2006-12-12 05:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds imature...and jelousy think god my husbands ex lives in another country....lol she may still have feelings also for him ..just be the better women dont let her get to you to much.. good luck
2006-12-12 05:31:22 · answer #11 · answered by bo_dela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋