As a guy i normally pay on the first date and really depending on the scenerio on who asks who on a date. I really don't mind going dutch rather than paying for everything but not all the time. Not that i am a cheapskate, but rather i have had so many girls take advantage. What do you think?
2006-12-12 05:21:56 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I am not ashamed to admit I have dated women who make way more money than I do (that isn't hard). IF they truly want to treat, I am man enough to let them. After all, women fought hard for equal rights. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-12 05:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation.
Who ever invites, should pay. Once you have been dating a while and are in a "relationship" going dutch makes sense, although I imagine there will be occaisions when one or the other will pay.
In what way have you been taken advantage of?
Frequently there's an expection that since the guy buys dinner, the girl owes some sexual favour. That's the only time I get nervous about the guy paying-when you don't know his intentions.
And if I don't put out after he buys dinner and that's what you call being taken advantage of, you're on your own.
2006-12-12 05:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by Tavita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things have changed allot. A long time ago, in a galaxy far far away, the guy would paid as a way of showing the girl how good a provider he is. He was treating the girl to something special that she could or would not afford on her own. Today, women work and earn as much, if not more, than men do.
I honestly don't have a clue how the younger generation views this. But I think it's an interesting question and I'll be sure to watch the answers, and come back to vote for best.
2006-12-12 05:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by TechnoRat60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Tavita in this: Who ever invites, should pay.
If you're starting to date, maybe you want to be a gentleman and pay but it wouldnt be fair for you to be the bank in that relationship. I am a girl and I dont mind to go dutch every now and then, and when it is my idea to go out to an especific restaurant or place I pay for everything. My bf doesnt like it very much but I insist. I think it is the fair thing to do. Also, when it was his ides, he pays.
2006-12-12 06:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by Mila S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should only invite girls out on "paying" dates if you really like them and think their company is worth paying for the food/entertainment that evening. After you have an established relationship, I think "dutch" is fine.
If you think a girl is taking advantage, don't ask her out ... but suggesting "dutch" early on when you are trying to establish a relationship with someone you really like ... well, it will only make you appear to be a cheapskate.
2006-12-12 05:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i love a dutch date it allows me to show a guy that hey im financially secure and im not a gold digger besides sometimes i cant get a date when the cobana comes to town know one wants to pay $65 dollars to see horses and acrobates perform together but everyone wants me to go to jail by sneaking a camcorder in lol its true i think this world should be filled with more dutch dates and you are so right people not just woman will take advantage of those dates when its not on them lol gl keep the dutch alive
2006-12-12 05:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tricky subject. Societal rules dictate that if a guy asks then he should be willing to pay for the bill. BUT it seems that you need to find a woman who won't live by the horrible standards that society tries to place on us. Simply, in my opinion going dutch is fair, but that is just me. Most women (speaking from my conversations with my friends) feel that if a man wants to spend time with them then he must pay, but then this only leads to conflict when the man feels that he is owed something. I think I am digressing from your question. All in all, I think you need to find a woman who is comfortable paying and allowing to be payed for and is willing to go 50-50.
2006-12-12 05:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by supa_wmn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On a first date, the gentleman should pay, or if it's an extra special evening. But otherwise, I think it's fair. My boyfriend and I go dutch sometimes, and I think it's fine.
2006-12-12 05:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by Seven Costanza 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your position is reasonable. The ladies should do their share of the inviting and the paying.
2006-12-12 05:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fair...why should girls always expect the man to pay, I mean we want equality on some aspects, but not others? Hypocritical.
2006-12-12 05:23:51 · answer #10 · answered by angel_of_thought 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋