Im in college and pregnant. Im a swimmer in a division 2 college and i dont know what to do? I live 12 hours away from school and my boyfriend lives here. I dont know what to do?
2006-12-12 05:16:58 · 39 answers · asked by Kristin J 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's not a decision to make lightly, that's for sure. If you have an abortion, you might regret it later. Can you talk to your parents about it? I would talk to folks who can give you good information on ALL your options, then do what's in your heart.
Also, I would talk to your boyfriend to feel him out about it. I know I won't be popular saying this, but it's half his kid too... I'm be pretty bummed if a girl aborted one of my kids and didn't at least TALK to me about it first.
2006-12-12 05:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by I hate friggin' crybabies 5 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Consider adoption! There are so many families that are just dying to have a child and can't, this could be the chance of a lifetime for both your child (if you're considering abortion) and some other family. In fact, a teacher at my school (where I work) is looking to adopt a child. Pregnancy is a pain, believe me I'm 35 weeks right now, but think what joy you could bring to someone else? And then to know that your baby is enjoying a life they couldn't have had any other way (adoptive parents typically shower their kids with love, at least in my experience, because they had to work so hard to get them).
Good luck with your decision. It's the hardest one you'll ever make. If you decide for adoption, planned parenthood can help (or at least find you an adoption agency) and usually all the medical stuff is covered.
2006-12-12 05:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by Suliah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in the end its up to you, and you have to make the decision. However, I suggest you don't get an abortion...they're bad for you emotionally and sometimes physically, and you need to accept responsibility for your actions rather than taking the easy way out. I think it really depends on what sacrifices you want to make in the future...are you willing to give up college to raise your child? If so, you could have the baby, get your own place with your boyfriend, and get a full time job. You may even be able to go back to school eventually. If you're not willing to give up on school, you should consider adoption. Whatever you decide, good luck!
2006-12-12 13:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by jellybean24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in college then you are old enough to reasonably care for this child. Please do not consider abortion. My sister had one while she was in college and now she regrets it everyday. Plus now that she and her husband "want" to have children she has medical issues related to the abortion that is making it difficult to get pregnant again. Please seek out your parents or someone you trust. Talk to your boyfriend about raising the child. I agree that part time school might work better, but if your boyfriend is not in school then you should both try to work. You can still have a career once you have had the child and finished school. People do is all the time. Now, you have another life to think about. It may not be how you planned, but you can still love this child and give it a good home.
2006-12-12 05:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many institution's have daycares on campus that fee little to not anything. The staff within the daycares are scholars which might be incomes a measure in anything to do with youngsters. Don't stop in your desires of being effective simply in view that you're preggo. This must make you desire to move much more. It goes to be plenty more difficult however it is going to be valued at it in the end. You too can verify into Catholic Charities. If you're in tuition complete time without a sales they'll pay your whole daycare. If none of that is helping then ask your household for aid.
2016-09-03 07:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by darland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The part about Division 2 helps a lot. I mean, if it was Division 1, I 'd say you would have a whoooooole different situation on your hands.
OK, these people are idiots giving advice here. Look, you are a young, healthy woman- the PERFECT candidate to have a healthy baby! A college swimmer? That's the best nature could hope for! Do you know how many people pray for a healthy baby? If you have it, it will be healthy.
2006-12-12 05:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Is it too late/against your morals for an abortion? As emotionally painful as such a thing is, it might be the best option here. Otherwise, you're just going to have to stick it out. Maybe you could move in with your boyfriend, so that you could live closer to school. You can still go to school while pregnant--there were lots of pregnant women in my college classes--and maybe after you have the baby, you can start swimming again. If you do keep the baby, it's not the end of the world, I promise. Good luck.
2006-12-12 05:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by Casey 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
As a female that has been trying for years to have a baby, please do not kill this child!
There are other options!! Please consider your options. Go to a church, counceling there is free. Go to the city and get on Medicaid. They will even provide gorceries, pay for all doctor visits weather you keep the baby or not.
Just know that later in life if you terminate your pregnancy you will hate yourself for it. I have a freind who got pregnant her Junior year in HS and she aboted the baby. She is now 32 and she longs for that baby that would be 15 now. She morns its death every year on the abortion day and the due date. Please don't do that to your self.
If you are in College you have to be a smart woman. You know your options. Talk to real friends! Maybe even family. It will be hard in the beginning but I promise they will get over the inital shock and so will you. Look at the world, people with babies do everything people witout babies do, they just get a sitter.
I will be praying for you and your situation. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-12-12 05:28:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not have an abortion? That is the first thing, The second thing is it will all work out, meaning you do not have to quit school continue to go to school and get the best education that you can. You are going to be a wonderful mother and Have you decided what you are your boyfriend are going to do about you and him. If not just to let you know that you school can help you Financial, and Find you a job if you didn't have one and etc. It will all work out of you do what you know is right in your heart allow your baby to bring you joy and happiness each day.
2006-12-12 05:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by Callie B. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
should have never opened your legs in the first place. ..
Now you have to deal with tons of drama and stress, damaging your college career, your personal life, and the life of a newborn child. Then after you done the mistake, you come here to ask for help in the yahoo answers, what do you want us to do? ill go to fedex and send you a stapler so next time you can staple that **** and this will not be happen again. Instead of asking for help you should have thought about the consiquences of your actions.
and don't even think about abortion, you opened your legs and now you must deliver it, dont kill your baby.
2006-12-12 05:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are old enough to get married. I got married at 19, transferred colleges and went part-time while raising my kids. Finished college when the oldest started first grade. Got my Master's when the second one started first grade. Their dad was an amazingly supportive guy. Glad I married him. Hope you are as lucky. Maybe you have to give up swimming for now. Not such a big sacrifice to become a mother. Motherhood is WONDERFUL. Go to Planned Parenthood for advice.
2006-12-12 05:22:13 · answer #11 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋