My hubby wants sex all the time, whereas I am only in the mood on certain days out of the month. I sometimes turn him down and tell him that I am not in the mood, and he says that everything has to be on my terms all the time. I just think it's terrible to fake excitement when I am not in the mood. I love him very much, what should I do? Is there anything I can take to make me hornier? Should I fake it?
2006-12-12 05:15:49 · 10 answers · asked by tscheggl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Men show their love by making love. If you deny him too often, he will think that you don't love him. I'm 11 years married and I've learned that it is often best to give in....better than feeling the wrath the next morning!!
Also, if you fake getting into the mood, it often leads to actually having an enjoyable evening;)
2006-12-12 05:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by McBeth 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't fake it! Contrary to popular belief, many men CAN tell when a woman is faking it. It would be better for you to tell him I'm not in the mood. Give him some and let him know you are doing it just to relieve the tension.
We'd rather you just lay there than fake it really! Faking it is just like not being truthful. We would rather trust you than be deceived!
2006-12-12 13:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both my husband's ex-wife and my ex-husband lacked in being horny. First of all that is how we got together, of course we waited to leave them but it was a common factor for us. We were both very horny and affectionate people with partners who were not. They did not want to change and for us it wasn't just being horny it was the affection of the action that we loved and when we were denied too frequently we weren't being denied sex but affection in a language we could understand and give. Never fake it but do it with the thought of loving him in mind. I find that when I'm not in the mood but he is if I do it with these things below in mind I end up having at least one good orgasm.
1. I know I like the way he makes me feel, he knows what I like and he does it perfectly.
2. If I did not get there (orgasm) I can ask him to keep working till I do.
3. I make up a game or think of something really naughty to get me there.
4. I am satisfied knowing that if my baby was crying I'd hold it or feed it or change it and my husband is the same. I know making love to him I am giving him the love he needs. Not feeling like it and not doing it frequently is the same as not giving your child the love they need. I do not want him to ever feel he needs to get love from someone else.
Things to help you get in the mood:
Erotic Movies, Swinging or just watching others in real life, role playing, massage, drinking under a sexy atmosphere, wanting to please the other like only you can, taking time to make sure you feel sexy everyday. Stuff like that really can change your sex life dramatically.
2006-12-12 13:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by Love to Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All he wants is to have you sexually. He probably doesn't care if you are excited or not. Find a happy medium between the amount of sex that you want and that he wants and then lay on your back and think about items you might like to purchase. Men like this usually don't take too long.
2006-12-12 13:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by cirdellin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not about faking it. Haven't you ever had sex when you weren't "in the mood" and ended up enjoying it halfway thru? Women unfortunately are ruled by our hormones so we're just not as horny, but you shouldn't let yourself and your husband miss out on something so enjoyable over hormones! Damn they control our lives enough, don't let them control your sex life too! :-) Also, there's something to be said for your husband's desire for you. Its not that he's just a horn dog all the time, he wants to feel CLOSE to you, men come from women's wombs, they are all mama's boys at heart, so that means as adults too they get their feeling of acceptance and love from a woman and the best way for them to feel that is to be inside you. You have so much more control over the issue than you realize! This man wants to feel you, and feel your love for him and your appreciation and acceptance of him and he wants to feel like he is rocking his woman's world by giving you orgasms. Don't focus on the power issue of giving it up for him, focus on the GIFT that you give your husband by just taking 20 minutes out of your day for him.
2006-12-12 13:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have to fake it, but you should consider having sex even when you don't really want it at times. If you don't give him what he wants, he will go elsewhere.
2006-12-12 13:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that you shoud fake it but keep him happy or he will get it from somewhere else, just compromise
2006-12-12 13:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by PhillyDude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have sex with him sometimes even when you dont want to. and tell him that sometimes he will have to not have sex with you even tho he wants it. thats compromise.
2006-12-12 13:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by mickey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, at times you should fake it. it boost his ego
2006-12-12 13:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm no dont if u dont feel like doin sumthin dont
2006-12-12 13:19:29 · answer #10 · answered by LeaNels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋