i just cant figure out what i what from life...im 14 and currently in 9th standard...please read on...?

Question

i CAN get excellent grades when i need them very badly but i can never make up my mind to study throughout the year...i just start studying 2 or 3 days before the exams...im also quite good at football...my house is very very very depressing... sometimes i just dont want to come home...sometimes i just want to kill myself... anyway coming back to the point...can anyone suggest a career for me...or any good site for selecting careers?

Answer 1

First of all, I completely know what you mean. I had exactly the same problem as you. In thew end, its your life and you have to do what you are happy to do. Even if its working in the fields, you can do it if you are happy doing it. Considering you are an Indian, the only way to do so, I am sorry to say, is by "fooling" your parents. Study well. Let them think that you are more interested in studies. Tell them that because you are studying well you need to go in for vacation classes for whatever you would want to do( I think football would suit you well because you are good at it and I assume you have fun playing football.)Once you get into football, try to get into a team, perform really well with the team. Talk to y our coach. Tell him to convice ur parents that you are really good at it. Then talk to your parents. Telll them that you would like to take it up as a profession. This is the way which I adopted. Be prepared to work a lot as this method is a lot more harder than othewr methods because you have to be good in studies and also in whatever you want to become. I graduated as an engineer, but work as a photographer and earn good money. The only reason I became an engineer was because my parents wanted me to do it. So study hard, Graduate in whatever you want to graduate. It wont interfere much with your sports. Its not easy, but the satisfaction of doing what you love to do as a profession is far beyond anything else. Good luck. And you are extremely lucky that youare only 14 now so that gives you a lot of time to work on the plan and prepare yourself for all the hardships involved. Take up a hobby other than playing football. That might help to get away from ur depression.

Answer 2

I personally don't think that work sucks.
I really enjoy my current job.
I did however work many jobs that sucked before finding and earning this position.

The thing I miss most about high school is the girls.
Their attitudes were vastly more open and fun back then.

anyways.....Don't kill yourself. That would be ridiculous.
The only gaurantee in life is that you will eventually die.
If I had the choice between sitting in a parked car listening to the radio bored out of my mind - and being restricted from such a simple act (forever) because i am dead, i would gladly take the sitting in a parked car and enjoy it for what it is.

And in response to you job searching.
It takes 10 years to get good at anything.
Consider NBA players straight out of high school.
Those guys were training since they were 5 years old.
So be patient and work at something you enjoy. Just keep practicing and reading.
The world changes because of many small steps - it's rarely or never some grand gesture.

At times i think about what i would do differently if i could go back in time 10 years. Then I try and pretend it is 10 years in the future and I have the chance to go back in time (to right now) and make changes.......
It's an interesting thought.

Answer 3

You know based on your question, I can perceive that you are an intelligent person. Why feel depressed with morbid thoughts? It is good that you are thinking about your future, because whether you like it or not, the family that you don't want to go back to will eventually be gone. It is the natural course of things. So concentrate on YOUR plans, on YOUR future. Make a good life for yourself. You are doing this for yourself, not for anybody else. As for your career, you have to select a field which interest you the most. Are you interested in science? Then enrol in B.S. Micro, or B.S Bio and the like, if you are interested in Math, then enrol in Eng'g. , If your interests lie in computers, then go into IT or B.S. computer science.
To avoid depression, appreciate what you have. You are normal (no physical disabilities) look around you at some disabled people who would trade anything to become normal. You are intelligent . (not all have your intellect, all you need is to study enough to get good grades) You have a house to go home to. (many are street kids). I could go on and on. Look inside you and be happy for the things that you have, for happiness is a choice. Opt to be happy . Good luck.

Answer 4

Babe, i'm 26 and don't know what i want to do with the rest of my life. You're 14. i know and remember the stress of those years. my home life sucked too. What helped me was finding outlets and things I liked doing. listening to music, concerts, finding new hang-out spots, going to movies.
I also, (like a lot of other kids your age) had thoughts of suicide. Don't feel like your alone there. I lost a friend to suicide at 16. And i now know that that is not an option for me.
i know others are just saying "have fun! enjoy being young" and it's good advice, but it's not always that easy. i know.
if you ever want to vent about a shittty day, or just talk, you can contact me through Yahoo.
it does get easier, i promise.

Answer 5

Hi abhinav.......life does seem very weird at 14.But its not as if not getting good grades is the end of life.And u've got ur whole life ahead of u.Sit down and analyze what u r good at.Maybe u have a hand of drawing,or a good voice or u can just simply listen to others.Whatever it is,just look thru ur strengths......u can always surf Google for whatever career u r interested in.U said u are good at football....unfortunately this country doesnt offer much in terms of a career in football.What else are u good at?Do u have any hobbies?Start cultivating the habit of reading,it will help u a lot.But one thing,plz dont neglect ur basic studies at this point coz whatever career u choose later on in life will be based upon the learning u've acquired in ur formative years.Everything is not lost,so be positive and all d best!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

You are so young and should not be wanting to end your life. Your life has just begun and you have so much to live for, all those exciting years ahead.
At the moment, forget the choice of career. I would say sudy all subjects that interest you and a handful that do not. You can never have too many qualifications. I say study a handful of subjects that dont interest you because if later on in years you want to change direction in career, you may be grateful that you did study subjects that you though that you would never use.
You say that your house is depressing but you dont say how. Is there not something that you can do, to bring laughter and music back in to your home? Try talking to the adults in your home, tel them you are sad and down.
Hobbies too play a large part in people's lives, if you can fnd an interest away from studies that you can do in your free time, this will help to relieve pressure. Try not to push yourself too hard on the studies, if you dont pass something, don panic, take it again later on.
Your life is for living, there is a fun filled world out there which will bring tears and laugher, grab it and live life to the full

Answer 7

As far as a career goes, talk to a guidance counsellor. Instead of figuring out what you want to life, maybe if you find what you have to contribute to life, you might find your answer. However, I refuse to skip over the "sometimes I just want to kill myself" blurb. I know you are not asking for career advice here. I see you. I care. Rarely what is going on in a dysfunctional home has anything to do with the children involved but they are the most common prisoner of war. Realize this. You are 14 years old. You have made it this far. In 4 years, the world is your oyster. You can leave home. Go live on a college campus. That way you are not only able to remove yourself from this situation but your are giving yourself the opportunity to better yourself. Even if you don't know what you want to major in, you can major in general studies. Most importantly, please don't glaze over this. Tell your parents what you are thinking. Tell a guidance councellor. Tell a teacher, just tell an adult. There are people out there who care about you. There are people who have dedicated their lives to helping people just like you! I don't even know you and I care. Don't loose focus! Love yourself! Get some help! Reach out to someone, it may just be the lifeline that you have been praying for!

Answer 8

At 14 very few people really know what they want from life. Please trust me when I say that you don't want to kill yourself over this. Life WILL get better then bad then better etc. Eventually things will get settled in your mind and in your life. Your school counselor can help not only with a career path but also with the depression you seem to be feeling. Is your whole house depressing? Can you change th colors of your room? Light blue or yellow will help you to feel happier, if not that's okay too. Sometimes if you pretend to be happy long enough it really works to make you happier.Talk to the school counselor for career advice and advice on the many ways to treat depression, one of them WILL work for you.

Answer 9

You probably won't know what you want to do with your life for some time. I changed majors in college 4 times before I found my passion, and in all honesty....I don't work in that field anyway.

Relax, enjoy your youth. Things will come to you as you get older and grow. Finding yourself is a long process, but it will happen. For now, just give yourself a break, do your best, and know that better things are ahead of you in this wonderful life you have. Don't be depressed. Things could be worse. Enjoy your youth, your vision, yoru hearing, your friends and family, your mobility and ability to discover and learn new things.

Answer 10

Well you said yourself that kobe takes more then GW shots then anybody so would that not mean by default his % for them would be lower. Dirk has better game 7s but you make it seem like kobe has never stood up and put his team on his back and you also make it seem like dirk never choked i mean c'mon now if some one really wanted to they could bring in alot of games and instances were dirk has not been clutch. "Dirk was second in the NBA only behind LeBron in 4th quarter scoring per game (6.3ppg) (Kobe not top 7)". 4th quarter is important but you also have to take into consideration that not all games are worth playing you franchise player. Let me give you an example. When kobe outscored the mavs in 3 quarters 62 to 61, did he play the rest of the game(4th) Nope if i remember correctly. Look at his 4th quater scoring and you go kobe didn't score in the 4th. Games where you have to do nothing in the 4th can hurt your 4th ppg average. And you and me know that LBJ plays like 39+ to juice his scoring