2006-12-12 04:53:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Personally, I feel that the children today are much more privileged than I was when I was younger. They are showered with COOL gifts. They will always want something that they don't have, so having a lot of stuff does not necessarily create a monster. Character is built around earning the things that you want. But gifts at Christmas and birthdays are kinda excluded. The real question is do you give a 5 year old anything he wants when he throws a tantrum? That would be BAD, and would create a spoiled brat.
2006-12-12 05:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by freeetibet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have had the same problem for years. (It's really not a problem having lots of people that love your children.) My kids have 5 sets of grandparents and quite a few aunts and uncles, so the gifts add up, especially when each grandparent buys each kid 5 or more gifts. We have tried several times to politely ask them to cut back a little, but to no avail. They want the fun of buying for the kids and we really shouldn't take that away from them.
In our house, Santa brings one toy and the kids don't get toys from us at all, only clothes and stuff they need. If we've had an extremely overloaded year (once we had to bring the kid's stuff home from the grandparents in two separate vans), we discuss with the kid about donating some of their toys to kids who don't have as much as they do. That gets them involved and teaches them to be charitable. And of course, we have a toy purge before Christmas every year and clear out everything broken, missing pieces, or not well played with.
And, as overwhelming as it may be sometimes, take a minute to be grateful that your child is so loved, because there are many parents who don't know how they will provide anything for their kids at all.
Merry Christmas!
2006-12-12 05:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think to many gifts or 20 but i don't think you should a limit santa gifts because she only 5 yr old and it's going to be christmas.
2006-12-12 05:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by lil boosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, no offense when you're in this challenge yet when I had a thoroughly uncontrolled six 12 months old i does no longer get myself any presents for Christmas. youthful ones behave no longer out of bribery yet out of appreciate. If he did not appreciate me i'd seem at myself and attractiveness why. for sure, there is an project with the be certain no longer the youngster if the youngster is undisciplined adequate to be 'uncontrolled.' So, sure, i'd purchase the six 12 months old presents. i'd also do myself a want and ask for some parenting books for Christmas.
2016-11-25 22:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how many others bought, you should still buy for your own child.... Santa does the stockings in our house and one or two *big* gifts... the old guy gets too much credit, I think =-)
2006-12-12 04:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by erc_denise_childs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you try to limit what others bring, you risk insulting them. You should bring the subject up BEFORE Christmas and say that you are just worried that your child will come to expect that many gifts on every gift-giving occasion and you don't want to set that precedent.
2006-12-12 05:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't put a limit on someone's heart,but you can perhaps go through them and pick out a few for your child to keep,then if some have come from out of town or state,maybe you can still give them to an organization that still needs gifts for needy children.
2006-12-12 04:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My family has always done big Christmases. On the other hand we also have held presents back for future dates. Yes I believe you should limit and tell other family members that you are limiting too so that they aren't surprised. If they choose not to listen to you then you can always take presents and stash them away for next year.
2006-12-12 04:58:46 · answer #8 · answered by ambr95012 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-12-12 05:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son goes to his dads for Christmas and get about 20 things, here at my place he gets maybe 5 if that -depending on prices. I can tell you one thing...my son doesn't remember half of what he recieves at his dads but with me he can. Not that I'm bragging but I'm teaching my son you need to work hard for what you really want not just "lets get him everything he wants", as his dad has said me number of times.
2006-12-12 06:03:36 · answer #10 · answered by wyattj23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋