over the weekend i talked to a friend... she said she tried to have sex with her 16 year old boyfriend...she is 14 and a 1/2 and she tried two different times. he stopped both times in the process of trying cause he promised. he said it in a sweet way i guess. he couldnt but then they talked about the promise and they did it on sunday. is that bad that she is doing it at her age? she told me she has done it beforebut still? she really likes the guy supposly. i dont know what to tell her. she really likes him and he seems like he likes her alot. they are really cute together too but i just dont know what to tell her
2006-12-12 04:37:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes 14 is to young in my book but that is to late for her story. I would tell her to make sure that they are protected. If they felt it was right then let them enjoy their decision. I was 16 when my first time happened I thought it was right, we all learn from our mistakes. Support her in the decision and be a friend .
2006-12-12 04:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by odd622 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know she is only 14 but her body is still trying to develope.. women don't stop developing.. until I believe there 19 or 20 I was reading it up on in medical class at on one point... by her having sex at such a young age it could mess up her developing.. her body is not ready for such actions.. just because you think you like someone now doesn't always mean your going to be with them forever who knows what can happend.. and its worse if she ends up getting pergo.. she will mature quicker.. and things wont be much the same she really has to be careful.. if she contines doing that.. guys will think she is easy and guys will just use her.. with the risk we have today.. you have the chance of getting dieases.. aids.. alot can happen no one really sleeps with one perosn these days of course that's if they really have morals and self respect..
it's a really good thing she has a friend like you... because it shows that you really do care and I do hope you find the best advice to help you help her.. all the best.. and remember because your helping her makes you a good friends somewhere inside of her she will no that too.. don't ever let anyone tell you your wrong.. because she's too young to understand I know because I'm 22 and honey I lost mines last year.. but I reget it sooo much and I can't take it back, thank goodness I didn't get pergo but I almost though that I was going to.. and scared myself to death it was not cool I had soo much going on and I just didn't want to have a child just yet and not with my ex..
but I hope everything works out for you sweetie
2006-12-12 12:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Miss Mimzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell her to focus on school first because right now that should be the most important thing in life.. and then after she gets a good job and a good education then she should start to worry about boys.. it sounds like to me that she has alot growing up to do.. and at her age she should not be messing around with boys like that.
2006-12-12 12:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TOOO young.
A young girl like that should wait.!!
She could get aids or other diseases as well as getting pregent and she probabally doesn't think that those things are that important.
Tell her shes too young, try talking to her, but she is her own person and she's going to do what she wants.
2006-12-12 12:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should tell her just wait.
because there are consequences...
she could get aids/hiv/pregnent.
i know anyone could at the age but 14 wow thats young.
i know a friend of mine that was in the exact same position and now she is 15 with a kid,and the man we all thought loved her left her.
So u need to tell her that they should just be love birds,but not the bees and birds.
hope this helps.
-LE
2006-12-12 12:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lovely[lauren] 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I started at 14. Kids start earlier and earlier now. It is normal sad but normal. She will realize that she should have waited later on.
2006-12-12 12:43:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um i think it's bad to do it before you're married. It is bad plain and simple especially at the age. Just make sure to warn her that there are consequences if they don't use protection..
2006-12-12 12:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by cavigirl17 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i all ready have @ a younger age but if they really love eachother then let her get her **** on!
2006-12-12 12:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
lighten up and don't be such a killjoy. Just make sure they're using condoms.
2006-12-12 12:39:46 · answer #9 · answered by alighier 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
YOU NEED TO TELL HER THAT IF THEY LOVE EACH AUTHOR THEY CAN WAITE .
2006-12-12 12:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by michael f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋