I thought we had a good relationship. We are affectionate and laugh together. (when she's not being a bratty 13 yo) I know this is a tough age, and she doesn't have friends she talks with either. She's kind of a loner. I had just had a conversation with her days before I discovered she had her period, saying "How are things going? You know you can talk to me about anything." I even said, "you haven't had your period yet?" and she said no. I later found out she had bled for 6 days her first month and must have been bleeding a couple of days when I asked this. I'm really concerned that if something really serious happens, she won't talk to me about it.
2006-12-12 04:21:11 · 8 answers · asked by LAURIE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i used to be like that with my mom when i was thirteen. i'm sixteen now and my mother and i still don't talk much. but honestly, talk to her. don't yell too much and try to help her when things go wrong. she'll come to you, if you make yourself available. say;; ask her how her day was, boyfriends, who she likes, etc.. share your teenage experiences with her. and honestly if you give her the "sex talk" everything will be a lot more open. just don't be too judgemental about it. she's growing up and needs help. it'll be in your favor if you talk to her about. trust me. it'll mean alot to her to know that her mom is there supporting her through all of the boyfriends, friends, fights, girlproblems, etc.
2006-12-12 06:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by idontneedyoux3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The difference between teach and tell is so not the same but as people we think they are the problem is that you need to be a mother and a friend but to know the time and place for the title in cases like this you didn't need to ask her you should have already had thing in place like you knew when you period started and about what age you were so you should have already bought pads and told her that this is this and that is that and the day it happen if she felt it was one of those oh mom i got excepted to Harvard moments great or may be this is different and I share it when the moment hits stop trying to always be friends first they need parents first that is guidance and wisdom then you don't have to worry because just like the good good advice from our mothers sunk in yours will to. And plus no matter what they will always have to be our kids friends change do the mom thing first hope it helps
2006-12-12 04:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by alonda H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably not the you're relationship. She may just feel embarassed or whatnot.
Now that she has gotten her period, I don't think anything "serious" could happen but it is time to start getting her in to the gyno office for her yearly visits.
I remember i did a similar thing when i got mine way back when I was 12. i didnt want to tell my mom because I knew that the "dr visit" was coming and I was scared out of my mind.
2006-12-12 04:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by cawfeebeanz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I refused to tell my mother about that too...I was completely prepared to know what to do when my period started, I was not planning to tell my mother because I was bale to handle it and I did not need any more advice and It is a personal thing that only concerns the girl...the only trouble I had was that I needed to buy pads and I didn't have the money lol! any way that's why i told my mother otherwise she wouldn't know.
2006-12-12 04:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was 11 and a half and didn't tell me either. I found out because she thought something was wrong with her because the blood was brown and she didn't think it was right. They have health class in school and they tell them alot these days so it was no biggie to me . You should just be there if she needs you but don't push her for anything. Let her come to you and she will!
2006-12-12 04:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a lot of reasons. I would say just to continue to be open with her and non-judgmental. I wish I could give better advice, but there must be a reason she didn't tell you. You should continue to be as supportive as possible.
2006-12-12 04:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by probablestars 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When i was at that age i was uncomfrotable talking with my mother.
Its just nautral for a daughter to feel weird about that kind of stuff. And she probabally tried to tell you but felt kind of embarassed and uncomfrotable and just didn't know how to tell you.
2006-12-12 04:52:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do some mother-daughter things with her, and show her that you are there to help, not hurt or embarrass her
2006-12-12 04:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by Molly P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋