would people worry about you i dont want to live at home anymore my moms friend is looking after me and my nonnie is keeping an eye on me as well i have somewhere to go but i want to go without anyone knowing i feel bad for doing it but i want to go i just dont know if they will worry and how i can do it without being seen you will think im stupid but i met a man who said he would take care of me and being with him is a better option at the moment will people worry and what should i do
2006-12-12 04:16:04 · 38 answers · asked by lucca 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
my mom died and was burried last week my moms friend is lokking after me and im 14 and this man met me on the internet and said he would help me we have arranged to meet
2006-12-12 04:36:34 · update #1
DO NOT RUN AWAY AND DO NOT MEET THIS MAN. I knew a girl who ran away with someone she met online, that man is now in prison for her murder. she was raped many times, she was cut and beaten, and the she was killed. stay at home and wait, things will get better soon, you can email me, but we will never plan to meet or give any of that kind of info. but i might can give some suport, beleve me i know what you are going through...
2006-12-12 06:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop and think love - you met a man who said he'd look after you ?? Yeah - I heard of a lot of kids who meet these men and the looking after involves getting them on drugs and working the streets. Dont do it !!! Of course people will worry and I think you already know that. Dont push peoples emotions to the limit - wait till you're old enough to go legally and you'll see that the man is a leech who wants to earn money outta you kid. Stay where you are and be safe heh ????? If you do ignore all the advice and go - dont be so silly as to not tell anyone where you are - tell a friend or someone at least - you could end up dead or in trouble - look at those poor women in Ipswich at the moment - they all belong to someone and it could easily be you if you go xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Just read your edit and my heart goes out to you - I lost my mum 3 years ago just before christmas and I know how hard that is - it must be worse as you are younger. Please dont go and meet this man love - you must have heard the horror stories about kids who meet men from the internet - they are no more than dirty peodophiles. You are hurting now and will feel much worse if you end up being raped by this guy. Talk to someone who can help you through the grieving which you have to do - either your doctor, your nonna, the friend who you are staying with - anyone but not this man who is preying on your grief xxxxx
2006-12-12 04:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are people on the internet and in this world that pray on the needs and dispair of young girls. I am asking you please dont do this. At the moment you are probably very scared and grief stricken but please dont run away and go off with this stranger. Men who offer help have other ideas like sexually assaulting you (rape) or getting you into prositution by giving you drugs and getting you addicted (hooked) and then forcing you to have sex with other men and then taking the money and keeping you a virtual prisoner until you are ugly and no good to have sex with men anymore. other young girls have diapeared and been killed and buried and their folks are left never knowing what happened to their little girl Please dont put people who love you (nonnie) in that situation when already people are greiving for your mother.
Also ask yourself this question why would a stranger offer to look after you unless he had some evil ideas? Why would he bother spending money on a complete stranger like a 14 year old girl?? Why would you want to trust a stranger? Also this man could get into a lot of trouble for procuring (talking a young person under 16 to go with him) He could be a chld molester. Please dont runaway.
I sugest that you speak with a school counsellor, an friend or neighbour or someone you trust. I am sure that the people looking after you and your nonnie would be worried sick about you. Please please dont runaway.
The streets all over the world are full of homeless young girls and boys who ran away. They are often hungry, dirty, ilkept and are always running away from something.They are often "talked" into running away from police and are told lies to keep them controlled. They get on drugs and are friends with people who are using them and will hurt them physically and emmotionally. Please go speak with someone.
Burying your mum must of been awful for you. And at the moment it must be terrible but maybe you could speak with your nonnie and tell her how you feel. Take care
When I was 15 I wanted to run away and I was going to go to Kings Cross which is a notorious Red Light District (It was the only place I knew - I read the name in the paper) And I am realy glad I didn't. I would not of lasted a week.
2006-12-15 18:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes people will worry about you. How old are you anyway? Why don't you want to live at home? It's good you have friends and family (Nonnie is your granmother?) looking out for you, but they would worry themselves sick if you just disappeared. Really, the man who said he would "take care of you" creeps me out. How did you meet him? It's not that I think it's stupid, I think it's dangerous. It sounds like you don't know this man very well, how do you know his idea of taking care of you isn't rape and murder? Or selling you as a slave? Trust me, it does still happen. Stay home, talk to the people who care about you to try and fix your situation to make it better. See a counsolur, they can help too.
2006-12-12 04:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by tabithap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your age from your question. I think the responsible thing to do to have no one worry is tell them. Maybe you are ready to be out on your own. Parents and adults have like this 6th sense when something or some situation is wrong. Who is this "man" is he your boyfriend?
Just running away will cause panic in this day. You would be a report on the news and money will be used to find you. What is going on that is making your want to leave if you are being taken care of.
I wouldnt just trust any man that said he would take care of you unless you have some kind of ongoing relationship and he plans on marrying you there is something else in his scheme.
I would think about what you are planning and what the end result could be
2006-12-12 04:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by Eq2Kitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am glad you have said your age now, thanks. DONT MEET THIS MAN.
OH! I'm so very sorry to hear about your mum, it must be so hard for you. Please read this and I hope it will help, there are some links for you.
DONT MEET ANYONE OFF THE INTERNET
MOST IMPORTANT How well do you really know him?
He may have a history of abusing other women.
He could be addicted to drugs too or alcohol, he may turn out to be very dangerous and hurt you.
KEEP AWAY FROM HIM!
Who is he?
If you need to talk you must call childline!
0800 111 111 <<
http://www.childline.org.uk/
It is free and they will chat to you and tell you what to do.
They will not tell you off, or shout at you! They will help.
Call them when you feel you need help DAY OR NIGHT.
They can help you. Even on Christmas day.
You can also contact Samaritans, make sure you tell them your age.
http://www.samaritans.org.uk/
If you really feel you have to leave home, go to a relative's house who you know! And trust!
And tell them contact the police, so that they can say that you are safe and are staying somewhere else for a while. You are old enough to say where you want to stay now.
The police can keep your location a secret.
A social worker will help you too, and talk to you about your grief.
You may also get help and advice from your DOCTOR.
If you are still attending school, talk to your teachers about your problems at home, this may help you too.
Talking to all the adults around you is a good idea.
Bye for now.
2006-12-12 04:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by My name's MUD 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should think twice on your decision. The decision you want to make is only an option at the moment. Staying with your Family is an option of a life time. I think no one is going to treat you better then the ones that truly love you. Your answer to people being worried about you, of course they are. Talk to your family tell them what you feel inside. In the long run you have to think further down the road will you regret it, or will you be better off?
Do a pro and con list.
Good luck!!!!
2006-12-12 04:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by ivonne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear child, never - ever meet any man, especially one that you met on the Internet. Stay with the person that is looking after you. be guided by your local social worker from the local social services. do not think for one second about running away.
Children, who run away end up on the streets, abused in every possible manner in ways I could spend a week explaining to you. If push comes to shove and you need help - go to your local police station and if you are distressed try the YoungMinds website. Good luck, and take care- heed me.
2006-12-12 06:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by greagues2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, people will worry and hurt for you, not knowing if you are safe, or if you have a roof over your head, etc, etc. I would be very careful about this man who said he would take care of you....Probably not a very good idea. Please be very careful, and tell your mom or your Nonnie (grandma?) about him, and do NOT go anywhere with him. How old is he, by the way, and how old are you?
Talk to your mom, or a guidance counselor at school, about how you are feeling, and do tell someone about the man.
Don't make any rash decisions.
2006-12-12 04:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't no if this will help i am a 45 mum got 5 kids and have a gran-baby so i am old now
But when i was 15 years old i ran away from home my dad was dead he loved me and i thought he was the greatest man who ever lived i was left with my mum and life was hard i grew up fast my mum remarried had a baby i was left out so that's why i left
i ended walking the streets then getting into things i could not get out of when i think back it was the most horrid years of my life it took me a long time to get into the real world please don't go and run
life will get better i promise please i beg you stay were you are if you need to chat i am about
but please stay were you are
take care
shaz
2006-12-12 06:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ran away when I was 14.
I went with a man to but I was with this man for 2 years.
I ended up in a one bedroom apartment with 8 other people in the middle of Chicago.
I regret it so bad.
What you need to do is talk about your probblems with a trusted adult.
Teacher, Doctor, School counselor, a friends parent.
do not run away from your problems.I didnt eat for 9 days and was beat also.
That is probably likely to happen.
And IM 100000% sure your family will miss you.
Mine did and i thought that they wouldnt. My mom and dad and step-mom and sisters and everybody was so worried.
my mom said all she did was cry. Im sure your mom's friend wil be worried.
Dont do it. There are other options beside leaving with this man that could kiil you. He could rape ou, get you pregnant and leave you.
Please dont do it!
2006-12-12 05:02:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋