My ex and i had broken up (sort of) he calls me every other day we went to a movie this past friday.He seems very confused as to if he wants to get back into a relationship with me or not.He is there when i need him as for as car problems things like that.He said his feelings changed but he thought about us getting back together why does he hang on if there is nothing left and he claims that we grew apart?I told him i can never be his friend because it will feel like i'm living a lie.I told him goodbye so many times but he keeps coming back but he is the one that said he needed his space.He need to make his mind up.If he says there is no love there why keep coming around or feel like you should stay around?I wanted to cut all communication off until i felt he had enough time to think about what he really wants,what does he want?
2006-12-12 04:14:34 · 3 answers · asked by imacutie2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We haven't had sex in a month,because i told him i don't have sex with my friends.
2006-12-12 04:29:36 · update #1
Perhaps the problem here is you. Not that you have a problem but the problem is in your thinking. Think about a ... different ... sort of relationship. This is what it sounds like he wants. It's too bad you can't conceive of being friends. You never know what can become of a friendship. In time, you could end up back together but mind you: this should not be your primary objective.
I ended up marrying my best friend and our marriage ruined our friendship completely. Don't cut of your nose to spite your face--this guy must have some intrinsic value. If you need some time and space, fine, but the objective should be to become friends after you've had your space to grieve. By demanding he "make up his mind" you are forcing him away; and, I might add, being childish. If there's nothing wrong with this guy, you should remain friends, you can figure it out, negotiate it. That's what relationships are anyway, a series of negotiations...
He could be simply trying to figure out what it is he wants by hanging around. Being apart has its benefits but there are things you can only work out by being together. He is undoubtedly fond of you and enjoys your company.
Because he is comfortable fixing things like cars, and it makes him feel useful and he enjoys helping you, let him help you, but don't read too much into it. Friendship is far more important than any other relationship, so let the relationship turn into something rather than die completely.
The guy doesn't hate you. Right now, though, he isn't so much into you that he wants a romantic relationship. He wants to be taken as he is, where he is now--that's all anybody wants. When he says he needs his space he means he needs you to be independent of him but also need him as he is--not want him to be the "in love" version of him you want him to be.
It's only complicated because of your emotions. If you realize that he is a person too, who has the specific needs of friendship, which contrasts directly to your need to be in love, then you understand why it's so hard.
Have a cooling off period, then stay friends. Work it out in your head. You can do this.
2006-12-12 04:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by Vik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he wants to keep you on as a furture booty call. Find out what his intentions are and go from there. I would also move on and find someone else.
2006-12-12 04:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by 3000gthottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can drive you insane too...
2006-12-12 04:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋