We've been married for over 5 years and don't have a sex life. As of today it has been a month since we had sex. I don't understand. He says that he doesn't neglect me on purpose but thats hard to believe. I don't know what to do anymore. I've given up trying. I need help!!!!!!!!
2006-12-12 04:13:14 · 30 answers · asked by Lonely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First look at his age. How old is he? If he is under 40, then he might just be boared with it. Try something different and new. Give him a reason to want to have sex. If you two just jump in bed and do it and go to sleep, then you need a change in your sex pattern. If he is not willing even if you try to change things and make it more interesting, then he's fooling around. If he is over 40, then he could just be having male problems. You have to take into consideration that if he is on blood pressure medicine, that it could be causing problems for him. if it is get him on a regiment of vit-e, vit-c, garlic, and omega-3 fish oil. It will take a month or so, but it will give results if you stick to it. Good luck.
2006-12-12 04:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by golden rider 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating or wants to, he's gay, or he has a medical problem.
Lets hope for number 3 because they can fix that!
Ask him to tell you the truth. If he can't then you go out to your nearest sex store get youself some great "hot guy" porn and a vibrator, and see how he likes it when you don't need him for that anymore. It's cruel to ignore the sexual needs of your spouse. Once, and only once, my husband turned me down. I was SO mad. I refused to let him near me for a month. He's never done that again. Was I right to do that? Maybe not...but it worked. Granted I consider it harsh, a guy can be hungry, or tired or whatever...but I reacted how I did and I can't go back now! You need to let him know that sex is important to you and if he can't give it to you, you have a right to know WHY.
HAHAHA Bert! I always wanted to try that...maybe I should.
2006-12-12 05:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by kherome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What love do you've on your husband.. you need to appreciate his decision. He probable thinks your a sik loopy woman off the different question. Why would you **** different adult males purely because he doesn't favor to **** you. You some loopy witch
2016-11-25 22:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the 'get naked' approach. Unless your man REALLY does not want to have sex it is hard to say no to a naked woman. When he comes home from work call him into the bedroom. Be waiting for him on all fours with you @$$ sticking up in the air like you're in heat. That would work for me. Good luck!
2006-12-12 05:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you bring to the table when it comes to sex? You don't say what, if anything, has changed concerning you and sex over the past five years other than he isn't interested in having sex with you lately. So what is it about you that has changed whereas he has lost his interest?
2006-12-12 04:18:55 · answer #5 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is a possibility which a lot of men seem to be facing today. For whatever reason their testerone level may be low in their body. What that means is that his body is not producing testerone like it once did. If you can suggest to him to go to your local family doctor blood tests can be done to see if this is truly the case. If it is then once a month he can get an injection of testerone which should help with his sex drive.
2006-12-12 04:17:25 · answer #6 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Dress up for him be sexy for him turn him on. Buy sex toys you guys are married so get freaky with your man girl.
2006-12-12 04:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you've gotten some good answers.
some good advice that i can also benefit from. I just have to DO IT!
Its been 10months for me...and not even reached 3 yr anniversary.
2006-12-12 05:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mikez Bad Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not sexy enough. If a guy isn't turned on by you he won't want to have sex with you. It's more than just physical too. He needs to feel like he's appreciated and not taken for granted just as much as you are.
2006-12-12 04:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont try anymore. Trust me, hubby is the sameway, so when he gets in the mood for it, turn him down to see how he likes it. It hurts i know it makes you think hes out cheating, it could be, hubby says it gets old having sex with the same person over & over.
2006-12-12 04:15:52 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋