Am I ugly ? ? ? Or do I just have a lack of confidence ?

Question

Iv bin told by my family and friends Im not but I never really seem to think its true, I dont no if its down to me feeling down n stressed or what...

Iv had times when Iv looked at myself and felt good, but when I look and pics of myslef, Im like eww "who would ever like me" :(

I no there is more to life then looks but I really cant help feeling like this, as I always think "why would a girl ever pick me over someone else that is much better looking"

I must have really really low self esteemand a big lack of confidence :((

you will see I have added a pic of myself, I dont no how ya make it bigger :-/

I guess you'll have to save it ........

Answer 1

beauty is in the eye of the beholder what you find ugly about yourself others may see as a great turn on i have met alot of beautiful people who are the biggest jerks you would ever meet and i have met alot of people that some would consider ugly and they are the greatest people you would want to know the biggest lesson i learned is not see what is on the outside but what is on the inside my ex is a great looking man but he was an abuser and a good friend of mine has burns on 60% of their body and they are one of the bravest most beutiful person i know because of how they treat others

Answer 2

You know, I used to think that about myself...back when I was 16. I've learned a lot since then. That beauty is more than outside looks. I've seen some beautiful ladies, yet when they opened their mouths, pure ugly came out. I've seen other, "ordinary" ladies who had the most wonderful personalities. That's where true beauty exists. The Bible is filled with statements that it's what's in the heart that matters most. Beauty comes and goes, but your heart remains the same. And this is what God looks at, not your looks. Why do you think all these movie stars get so many face lifts? If people saw them as they really looked, no one would go to see them at the movies! Just be sweet, honest and kind. Those who really care will notice. The ones that don't aren't worth worrying about. <*)))><

Answer 3

Im a male so im not going to judge you either way matey but i can tell you one thing you sound to me as if you have had a knock back in life for some reason.Dont let the negative side take control it can destroy you try to be more possitive pick yourself up give yourself a shake look in the mirror be possitive.After all beauty starts within your a nice person are you not?Then hold your head up and be proud of the fact you are a good and hadsome enough person.
If that doesent work get in touch and i will make you more confident in yourself ok.Smile and be happy you are healthy and alive.AB

Answer 4

Well, I have no idea what you look like. You could be deemed "ugly" in the eyes of the average human being, but you should know that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. My wife thinks she is (sometimes) but I find her very attractive.

Either way you do have a self-esteem problem and lack of confidence in yourself. Focus on things other than your looks, like your health, for instance. Eat right and exercise. Maybe if you feel good, and your body starts to reap the rewards of your labor, you will start to feel better about yourself as a whole. At worst, you might get a rockin' body.

Answer 5

Who will ever love you until you learn to love yourself? Once you become convinced that the majority of women are more intelligent by not judging a man by his looks you just might be happier.

So try to learn how to make up for the things you believe you may lack by being more caring.

Many people said my husband was ugly I say he was rugged and masculine, after all when you get right down to it, who wants a boy/girlyboy. Handsome is as handsome does, is an old saying which has a lot of truth to it.

Answer 6

It seems you have low self esteem. Here is a new exercise to do. When you get up in the morning you are to go look in the mirror and say "wow, you are the handsome hunk! Do not know how I am going to drive the girls away today! Not only that but smart too!" Do this everyday and also dress up nice and take good care of yourself to compliment the unique person that you are.

Answer 7

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and judging by your picture your not ugly at all!!!
Confidence is a major factor though, and lots of girls find this more of a turn on than looks alone!!!

Dont be down on yourself - not even the rich & famous are flawless!! - have you ever seen pictures of them without their airbrushed makeup (men inc) not a pretty sight at all!!
And even uglier than that is the ones that have had cosmetic surgery - and look all plastic and alien.

Answer 8

U don't need to be H-A-N-D-S-O-M-E for a girl to pick u. Most girls care about the mentality and attitude of their spouses, not looks.... Beauty lies within us, not in how much amount of "Fair and Handsome" u use everyday. Be good at heart, appreciate the same in others, and be satisfied with urself... There are those unfortunate who are uglier than u becoz they are handicapped.. You are fortunate to have a proper face with a nose and a couple of nostrils and all... God loves u however ugly u are and wud surely have made somebody as ur match.... Have faith in Him..... :-)

Answer 9

You probably do have low self esteem, but you can fix it! Looking at yourself and forcing yourself to pick the best bits(eg.eyes,hands etc) is often a place to start,once you start really looking at parts of your body then you start to see the beauty in it. And girls don't just pick a guy because theyre extremly good looking,in fact I don't go for guys that are 'hunks' because they often take their looks for granted and are really not that interesting or nice! I'm telling you,a brilliant personality is better than good looks any day!

Answer 10

Stop worrying about what you look like, and worry about your personality and general well being. If you have a beautiful personality, people tend to overlook what physical attributes you have. If you keep on thinking of yourself as ugly, then other people will think that. Hold your head high - attitude and confidence is an incredibly sexy thing.