He spends most of his time with her. Takes her everywhere with him. Treats her like his best friend and never never disciplines her or let me me put her in at least time out.
2006-12-12 04:06:17 · 16 answers · asked by Andrea D. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A husband and wife should always stand by each other. I undertand that she is "his princess" however he should not spoil her and if she misbehaves she should be punished accordingly. A child does not learn from being treated like a princess but by making mistakes and facing consequences.
It is nice that your husband loves his daughter so much however he needs to realize that she is a child and you are his wife. There is a huge difference there. Try talking to him about how you feel and hopefully that will work.
Good luck and Merry Christmas! :)
2006-12-12 04:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss your role in your new family. He must make an effort to allow you to become a positive part of it. He must also set ground rules for the child and enforce them. You shouldn't take part of the discipline initially. Your first task is to develop a trusting and loving relationship with her while her father does the discipline. After some time, you should take a larger role in her discipline up to the point where you and your husband equally enforce the rules and administer punishments. Consistency is key to her healthy upbringing. He is running the danger of the child thinking she can do whatever she wants when she is with her dad. Whatever she wants means she will even do really bad things. Also, some kids who are not disciplined will even do extremely bad things as a cry out to be disciplined more. Children don't feel safe when they haven't any guidelines to follow.
2006-12-12 12:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So dad is too doting---not the worst of problems in the household, but needs careful examining.
How does the daughter behave with you? Do you have a good relationship? Is this relationship being hurt in any way because of your husband's behaviour?
Insist on being a part of the twosome---and make sure it is not "doll" love---some daddies can get that way, and it is not good for the upbringing of the child. I don't know how old your daughter is, but there are clear lines between "a friend" and "a father".
Arrange "family" outings---if husband still shuts you out, insist on joint counseling.
What I am saying is, make sure everything between daddy and daughter is on the up and up. You are very much a part of the upbringing and should have a place in your daughter's growing up activities.
2006-12-12 12:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by paanbahar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume that this daughter is from a prior relationship. First thing you need to do is realize that you are jealous. That is somewhat sad because the love a man has for his child and the love a man has for a woman are 2 different things. Look at the whole picture why are you excluded? Then try to lighten up be friendly when he speaks of his daughter be interested. Sooner or later after you will get over this ridicules jealousy then they may very well invite you to go along as well.
2006-12-12 12:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The daughter is not the problem you and your husband are why not step back and ask your self what is missing for you look and you and why you fill that you need to fit in to there time instead of making your own time with her and your own time with him find out what they need from you separately then after you have answered that then learn how to make romantic plans for you and him. If she is not your child together then find out from him what role he needs you to play in her life and put it in writing so when the episode of child s gone bad comes in to play then it will bite him in the butt. And if nothing else don't get so wrap up in them that you lose yourself then every one suffers hope it helps
2006-12-12 12:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by alonda H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby... One thing we must understand a man could find any one but his daughter will remain his daughter. Don't try to fit yourself in the midst of the 2 of them but try hoining them as a family thing. One thing if you have a problem with the way he disciplines his daughter tell him when you 2 are together
2006-12-12 15:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by smallebabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will assume this is a daughter from a relationship with another woman. Honey if this is the case you are never be number one in his book. You decided you want him no you have to put up with all the baggage that comes with it. You should be happy if he is not having ex problems too. That triples the baggage.
2006-12-12 12:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He loves you very much. There are different types of loves that people have. A dad loves his child(ren) different than he loves his spouse. Do not try to come between their relationship. Her future is lying in the way.
2006-12-12 12:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by danvil11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all if he loved you the same way he loves his daughter, that would be pretty sick, but I guess that's just me.
Just be cool and hang out with them instead of playing the jealous girlfriend. He might like you even more for getting to know what's important to him.
2006-12-12 12:14:30 · answer #9 · answered by Dahlia O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately men do not function that way. Normally it would take something dramatic like threat of divorce to make men realize what they have is precious. I am not telling you to hatch a scheme but this is reality.
2006-12-12 12:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by John C 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋