I was separated 13 months ago and have been divorced for 6 months. Even though my marriage was short and my ex treated me like less than a person, I've found it very hard to get past this pain. Is this normal or is there something wrong with me?
2006-12-12 04:00:09 · 7 answers · asked by f119pw100turbofan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Completely normal. The faster you can tell yourself to move on the better. Some people hold onto baggage forever and hopefully you won't be one of those. My advice is to dispose of everything in your life that reminds you of him. Then start doing new things, at first it will seem useless to you but before long you will realise that you didn't think about him today. Don't beat yourself up over this it will get better. Be strong.
2006-12-12 04:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by Reisnoh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. However, I hope you are not sitting there in your self pitty. You dealt with your problem and divorced it. Now you need to find out what will make you happy. It's very difficult to get past the pain of divorce no matter who nice or bad the marriage was. Everything you are experiencing is normal. Find yourself some friends and don't think about men for a while. You will know when you are ready to stop asking if there is something wrong with you. Good luck and GOD bless.
2006-12-12 13:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok I must say I have been thru the same thing, He treated me like S**T!! I loved him and still did things for him and did my so called"duties" until one day I realized screw him I deserve better so I told him he had to leave.....I was hurt a lil but I think deep down really it was just my fear of being alone! I am very independent but just hate being alone but I started going out and having fun, and I got over him completley! And you know what, I feel alot better about myself that I ended it first before he took all of my self esteem away! So my point to you is your a beautiful person either wqy and there is someone else out there that will appreciate you for who you are and DONT let this man take your confidence and dignity from you it was his loss and you are better than that! So pick your head up and be who you are and live life to the fullest and have fun!! Good luck I wish you the best!!**HUGS** And bottom line NO NOTHING is wrong with you,sometimes it takes time to heal but just remamber your the one who is better off to hurt and heal now than to be in this marriage for years and have years and years of pain!
2006-12-12 12:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by Mamiinkcmo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, this is normal there's nothing wrong with you!She made you feel bad because something was wrong with her!Anyway not here to bash your ex, but to make you feel better, because you are worth what you was when you caught her!!Go fix yourself up and do something that makes you happy!! If it's going to Walmart' or going riding the town. Get up and do it!!!!!!!
2006-12-12 12:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by hot chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is nothing wrong with you. just go and get pretty and go hang out. don't just be lazy and get out there and have fun. dont think about the past. thats why its there to stay there in the past.
2006-12-12 12:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by ra ra 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOu will heal but for now sounds like you need to focus on yourself.
2006-12-12 12:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is normal to feel sad...time will heal you bepatience...â»
2006-12-12 12:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋