Why do Indian parents want there kids to arrange marrige???

Question

I dont get It

Answer 1

jasmeen my dear
i would first warn u ... all arranged marriages are not great pleasure ... may be guys are great advantage in arranged marriage girls have lot of sufferin to do ... wat Mr J T kind heartedly explained the one side of story ... he has taken pain staking effort to explain and put it in filmy style

life my dear is different ... parents have lot of false prestige to go in girls marriage it is .. only to say to other ppl that their childern respect their decision and they are very loving towards parents .. that is one and only reason .... the have biggest ego when it comes to marriage ... any loving parent shall give importance to their childerns love and not to their prestige

in arrange marriage girl has to adjust with whole family and adding hell lot of troubles to her .. everyone will be having their own expectations from her ... even a maid servent will expect something from her .. thts arranged marriage

some aged bar guy running around the world can never understand wat the feeling of girls can be ... he never ,,, they live happily everafter without knowing each other ... they are stangers for life

99% of arranged marriages are rot ... u have closer look ma'am all that u see is superficial .. by the age of 40 they will fight like dog and cat ... if ur parents were arranged marriage then chances are their u will know the answer and suffering .. if don't ask for divorce and live like enenmy ... if thats success of arranges marriage then yes india has lowest rate of divorce with highest rate of unsatisfaction and domestic violence

Answer 2

I didn't get the meaning of your question at first look either. I am hazarding a guess to answer your question.
It is largely traditional. Modern, educated Indians are breaking this tradition by and large. It is still existent in the rural areas though. The tradition lacks any scientific rationale. Why this tradition? In Indian culture while arranging marriages, it is not only the bride or groom who are considered. Their families are also an important consideration. Most parents want to marry their sons or daughters to offsprings of so called 'good' families. If the marriage is settled or conducted at very young ages, the families have the advantage of time to find a groom or bride who not only comes from a good family but also inherits a sizeable family fortune in the later stages of their lives. When a boy or girl grows up, he might go sexually astray, if not already married. To prevent such a mishap, minors are married off.

Answer 3

Culture and religion thing.
Not all Indians though, just some. My friend had an arranged marrige and I asked her Mom why and she said it was their culture.

Answer 4

I'm not Indian, but I believe that it is part of their cultural beliefs that a marriage is a union of 2 families...no just 2 individuals. Parents choose the family that will be a good match and help provide economic stability to each other.

Answer 5

hi there Courtney, Im an Indian Sikh and that i imagine your hubby ought to correctly be a good guy yet his non secular outlook is suspect. Make double confident what your entering into only the way you adult males outline your 'white trash' maximum Indians actually have a trash classification - those are those who're from a blocked history - they have not been uncovered to at least some thing else yet their personal lifestyle, faith and society and can't imagine outdoors it. they have their social circle interior a clannish set up. maximum of this brown trash comes from small cities in India and that is this brown trash which generally emigrates to overseas lands. Which Punjab city or city or village did your husband come from ? examine it on the map - and also you may understand your husband. think ofyou've got chosen an Indian - will your daughter opt for it ? she will bypass to college like an Aussie and stay interior Aussies - even with each and everything shes 1/2 non Indian . Your husband ought to smash her with this outlook and also you want to entice lines NOW. i comprehend of a lot of Indian females ( both mom and father Indian ) yet offered up in yet another us of a who rebelled hostile to the Indian lifestyle their mom and father compelled them into because they were offered up in yet another lifestyle. Your daughter or son ought to get wrecked except you're taking your brown trash for severe counselling once your toddlers are born. Steelboy for once gave a good answer - provide him the perfect answer

Answer 6

Because they only want the best for their children and feel that they are the best one's to judge having had the experience. But, the child has a say in the matter, after all, it is their life that they wil live long after their parents so at the end of the day they have the final say, or should.

Answer 7

Its all depend on person to person. But everyone wants that his/her likes to be admired. And infact today most of the parents are not much bothered about arranged/love or love *** arranged marriage.

Answer 8

It's part of their culture, tradition. Also I think it has to do with chasity. It ensures that she will only have ties to that man. A girl who has relations before her marriage is a disgrace upon her family. It could also be that he is rich and provide her family as well

Answer 9

I am from India and I had an arranged marriage. This is how it went:
After my education, I worked in various places including the Middle East and USA. Before I decided to come back and settle in India, my parents and sister had prepared a list of families which had possible brides for me. Apart from their efforts, I had also posted many ads on Indian matrimonial websites, which is similar to a dating website in the western world and collected some addresses of families which I wanted to visit.

After coming to India, we first checked how many of the girls fitted the basic criteria (I had my own general concept of how my wife should be), by making preliminary enquiries. We thus made a short list and I started visiting these families with a friend or a family member known to both the families who will introduce me. After the introduction and general talk, the girl and I were left alone in a room for about 30 to 45 minutes to talk to each other in person.

To those girls of my liking, I gave me phone number and email ID for further communication and to those I didn’t like, I tried to convey we may not proceed further (not in clear cut words as it would be rude). This goes vice versa as well. After a while the list was reduced to 2 -3 best suited cases. The suitability was ascertained on
(1) Whether we liked each other in general (looks, mannerisms, first impression)
(2) Whether our educational and personality background matched
(3) Whether our family’s status in the society matched
(4) Whether our financial positions matched
(5) Whether our horoscopes matched.

This entire process took a total of about 6 months and my wife came out first in the end and we decided to go for the wedding. We used to talk on telephone during this time and we met once for lunch after informing our respective families. This happened before the wedding was finalised.

I had only one bad experience in the whole affair of arranged marriage. One of the girls who was a good match for me and who hailed from a family which had matrimonial ties with my family in the past, didn’t give a hint to anybody until the last moment. May be she thought something or other would automatically cancel further proceedings. But when she understood that the marriage may come to a reality, she suddenly backed off since she was in love with somebody else and wanted to marry him. I have heard many cases when either the bride to be or the groom to be deciding against going further not only because of “affairs” but also on various other reasons such as personal impressions.

I think the parents and in many cases guys like me prefer an arranged marriage, because
(1) Marriage is an important thing and we should take utmost care in finding a suitable partner, who is going to the most important person for the rest of our life. There is no use of "sentimentality" in doing something of this bearing, unless you are willing to have many divorces and marriages on your whim and fancy.
(2) Even while choosing a business partner for a small enterprise, we do a real analysis of where that person stands financially and socially. We seldom choose a person for the reason that "Oh that person always make me happy may be I should have him as my partner". Life is not "ALL" love and emotions. Life is much more than that and we all have to live it.
(2) It is quite possible to love a person if there is general match between the parties. We all have our siblings and our parents and we love them. None of these people were "chosen" by us, but we still live with them and love them. There will be “abusive” parents and such exceptions, but this is true in every walk of the life, including “love marriages”
(3) When we are in love, we show only the "best" part of us to the other party. After marriage, the "real self" starts to come out. This may cause problems. In the case of arranged marriage, both the parties show their real self from the start and relationship based on real stuff is stronger and enduring.
And finally,
(4) Though I met a lot of girls before deciding to get married, during my studies and during my work abroad, I never met a person whom I thought is right for me as my wife. If I had met a such a person, I would have forced my family to "arrange" my marriage with her.

Answer 10

Obviously it's a culture issue. They want their beliefs to keep going even if they live in the USA.