i've suffered quite lot ditchings from friends. now its kinda difficult for me to trust anyone, why am i so bad in judging people...?
2006-12-12 03:47:08 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
but yes i do trust myself and now the problem is even if am wrong i trust me. (though am always willing to discard all bad about me)
2006-12-12 03:55:13 · update #1
It is very hard to find good friends.... nevertheless true friends. I have only found a couple of good friends... and then of course the bad eggs. Dont put yourself down... and dont blame yourself. Its not your sense of judgement put on people that you have meet... and grown to like... and care for as a friend... you did your part as a friend.. and they screwed up.... and all you really can do is learn from what you have experienced... Set a side what they have said to you to hurt your feelings... dont take words to heart... expecially words comming from friends that turned out to be what you werent expecting. Seriously... you cant expect the world in a drop of a hat... trust takes time... you really cant trust someone right off the bat. Right now im dealing with a ex friend... lol that stabbed me in the back unexpectly... due to me breaking up with my boyfriend. She apparently decided to not be loyal... as she soo stunningly put it.. lol cause now he has been hanging out with her.. lol and shes craaaaaazzzzzyyyy!!! lol... But hey... They make their desicions... and they have to live with it... or dont... not your worry.. lol You cant dwell over little stuff like that... there is a whole world out there...
Someone told me that you only have 5 real true friends your life time... sooo far it is true...
Good luck!!
Hope that helped
2006-12-12 04:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by petalfushia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I came to this question for myself, the answer began with realizing I was not trusting myself. On many levels, I did not trust myself to think decisions through, to take my time in a relationship of any kind before jumping head over heals into it, I did not trust myself to make sure I was loving myself or holding others accountable to love me or holding myself accountable to release those that hurt me. I found out on many levels I was just not trustworthy to myself. When I started writing down all of the things that were important to me that only I could provide me I found out I was a terrible friend to myself and that is why I only attracted untrustworthy people to me. We attract those like us because our energy calls out to them and them to us. When I started keeping more promises to myself, I started making better decisions about who I should and should not trust.
2006-12-12 03:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by Love to Love 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust:
1.reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.
2.confident expectation of something; hope.
3.confidence in the certainty of future payment for property or goods received; credit: to sell merchandise on trust.
4.a person on whom or thing on which one relies: God is my trust.
5.the condition of one to whom something has been entrusted.
6.the obligation or responsibility imposed on a person in whom confidence or authority is placed: a position of trust.
7.charge, custody, or care: to leave valuables in someone's trust.
8.something committed or entrusted to one's care for use or safekeeping, as an office, duty, or the like; responsibility; charge.
Tis the hardest thing to do these day, I feel you may trust yourself, but others around you have misused or abused your trust, thus causing you to not be as trusting towards others as one before.
There is no simply solution to gaining someone's trust. often your left "holding the bag" sort of speak. I to have lost allot of trust, because I trusted to many people and they misused and abused my trust in them.
"Once bitten, Twice as shy" Your still young, Im assuming. So you'll have plenty of time to learn how person act, and view this word.. Trust.
2006-12-12 04:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by Not Applicable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋