I know it's the right thing to do, but I'm having trouble ending an affair. I feel addicted. I get panicy when I think about leaving, but dreadful when I think about continuing this for years to come. How do I get over that inital hump? How do I accept loliness?
2006-12-12 03:43:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why do you have to be lonely, just because you choose to do the right thing.
Is this the only man on the planet?
Doesn't the fact that he chooses to cheat send a red-flag.
Being addicted is a red-flag, not to mention those "in-love" feelings cannot be supported long term. Love has to mature into something more than just feelings, but a long term comittment.
The fact that he is having an affair makes him a suspect candidate for such a mature, everlasting love.
2006-12-12 04:49:34 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way.....If he were to leave his wife and go with you what makes you think that he would not have an affair with another woman? End this affair and find a real man that loves you and only you. If this was the right thing to do, why would you be looking for a way to end it? You deserve better. A good relationship is based upon trust, love and honesty; not dread and fear.
2006-12-12 12:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by LMnandez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you call low self-esteem. That man don't make or brake you. It's you who do all of that. Like you say you knows it wrong, that tells me you at least been raised right. It's doing the right thing you have a problem with. What if he was your husband and some other female was asking us this question instead of you how would feel then? Just walk away!!!!!!
2006-12-12 11:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by Gail S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just like getting into the water for the first time. Once you get over the initial shock, the rest will follow. There is no particular way to end that type of relationship, just do it. The sooner, the better.
2006-12-12 11:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by Special K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have a problem. You didn't have one starting the affair. No ones willing to help you out of a relationship that should never have happened that could cause hurt & pain for too many people. No synpathy here!
2006-12-12 12:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to walk away no matter how hard it is. Just do it! If you get lonely spend time with friends or find an activity to make new friends or learn to do something fun & creative.
2006-12-13 11:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by PAMELA S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do it.....you have to finish something that is not driving you no were......you need to love more yourself and put your self stem high don't you think u deserve better?????stop destroying marriages make your own life....âºâ»
2006-12-12 11:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you let go you will feel so good about doing the right thing that it will be a relief. Do his wife and kids .... and yourself .... a favor. LET GO!
2006-12-12 13:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away
2006-12-12 13:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by kherome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
open your mouth and just say that your tired of being in a relationship with him knowing that he's married and you want it to end right now.
2006-12-12 12:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋