Last week I found a coworkers email address, which is a female, in his pocket. Then today he didn't logout of his myspace and she is on his friends list. I give him the upmost respect and I don't snoop in his stuff. But, I went thru it and this was the conversation:
Him --Wat'z up evil lady?
Her --I see you found me. Look don't get on my nerves on myspace like you do at work.
Her --And you marry it more than a relationship and i know ur wife think so
Him --I dont think so ! ! !
So I want to know an opinion on that conversation. If you think it's more than him not thinking so? Or is she just fronting on myspace? I'm gonna keep my guards up anyway it goes, being that he's been acting funny since I stopped working. And she has just been a little to funny acting even though I don't know her like that, when I take him his dinner at work now.
Should I confront the situation or just keep record of everything going on for a divorce lawyer, because I'm not going to play games!
2006-12-12 03:41:09 · 11 answers · asked by tlw773 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep snooping quietly. If you confront him he'll never trust you again. So far, you really have nothing. If something interesting comes up, act on it yourself with a slight twist. see what happens.
2006-12-12 03:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by steemshovel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't like it one little bit. Your husband should not be flirting around with other women. I would show him what you found. Ask him what's going on ? How would he like it if the table was turned. He's showing you 0 respect. I think something is heating up with this girl and your husband. If you cant trust him which it sounds like you cant then I would get into marriage therapy. There's a problem. Why waste time by snooping any further? Nip it in the bud. You don't need anymore proof. You have it on your computer right now.
2006-12-12 03:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am forty-three years old.I have been married twice.Both times they were cheating.My first marriage I was very young and dumb and couldn't hold my tongue about things I really had NO proof of.I would blurt it out in anger and this give him opportunity to change whatever it was causing me to think such things and give him the chance to turn things around to be me causing the problem.Needless to say,I really learned the do's and the don'ts.
What I am saying is no matter how bad you want to lay your cards on the table,DON'Tor you will never know for sure,keep your info.to yourself and your eyes open and remember where there is smoke there has to be a fire.I much more gratifying when you have all the cards and there is no doubt.NOTE:I know everyone needs someone to talk to,but do not lay all of your cards to your friends either.Unless they can be used to get information in a direction off course and to see if they are the ones who is true.Tell one of them a lie and see how it comes back to you.This way you know you only told that lie to that one .This is the only way to weed them out.Hold your cards or you will never know for sure. Good luck...
2006-12-12 04:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate men. I mean it's one thing to flirt wth another woman when you are dating, but when you are married it is a whole nother ball game! You get married because that person satisfies your every need and you are supposed to be 100% faithfull to that person. Yes we are all human and we all have desires but I wouldn't go and flirt with another man to fill that, I would turn to my husband! The logical thing to do would be sit down and talk to him calmly although he may deny it. Personally, me being how I am...I would snoop some and get actual proof before acusing. Print the e-mails and such possibles record house phone call. The meaning of marriage is precious and few treat it that way. Best of luck to you, keep us updated.
2006-12-12 03:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you but this is little to no proof. Of course if he is just thinking about it why wait until it is too late?
Is your marriage worth saving?
If so then nip this in the bud and no NOT allow him to go any further.
If you are already disgusted just by him thinking about it then by all means, play it cool, document everything, and get a lawyer asap.
2006-12-12 03:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your first problem is the word confront. you don't want to do that. What you need to do is mention your feelings to him. Do this by being open and asking him polite questions, this way he won't be defensive and he'll give you honesty. If this doesn't work with him, then you must wait to see if he slips up.
Good Luck
2006-12-12 04:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by sadiebabe81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait out a little longer and see if you can find anymore of these messages! Then you will know what is happening a bit more. Often when you write things down they come accross differently as they would had you said them! If you find out more then maybe talk to your hubby and tell him what you have seen! You werent snooping it was there for you to see, he didnt log out!
Good luck
2006-12-12 03:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should not snoop. Ignore it. He may be just flirting for fun. The less you try to know the better unless you are looking for grounds for divorcing your husband.
2006-12-12 03:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Record everything for a divorce lawyer.
2006-12-12 03:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why does man feel he needs to flirt with another woman? He would probably deny it to the high heavens but...you married him.
2006-12-12 03:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by Hawksflyn2u 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋