Sick of being like picked on ..?

Question

Im 15 a 5 ft 6 lad but big built very powerful... i ve got "hard" mates and im quite popular etc.. only thing is just peeps in your class will call you not just me but each other etc and like hurt for no reason jus supposedly messin and they take me as a joke and im sick of it.. i could get someone "banged" if they annoyed me like but thats too far... i want to stop being taken as a joke and for them to think if i do that to him ill pay... so what shall i do smack next person who does something or smack someone who gets on my nerves??? because the "hardest" in my year dont get called etc and im sick of it help me thx

Answer 1

Meanwhile, out in the real world... this posting edited following advice taken.

I sympathise as I remember schooldays as a scrappy mess (well, what do they expect when they put together 1000 boys of age eleven to eighteen in a relatively small space? You won't get decorum and mutual respect, like fcuk you will!)

Essentially, fighting not to come out on top (because too many people wanted to challenge) but for somewhere in the middle with some elbow room: knowing there was always going to be some poor fcukwit loser on the bottom of the heap who would be Ground Zero for bullying, and doing everything I could do be invisible in the middle and to ensure that poor fcukwit was somebody else.

Once it is, you can breathe easy - you know it ain't going to be you who gets the flak.

That's what boys' school does to you - it makes you fit for the Armed Forces or prison as you know what the issues are going to be when there are a lot of males in too small a space to contain them all, and how to deal with them.

I was not a model pupil. I recall walking out of a class when the teacher was too sarcastic to me once too often. I told him to his face I wasn't taking that $hit, he tried to stop me leaving, there was a scuffle, and all of a sudden I was a legend for thumping a teacher (no regrets - he was a sarcastic $hit and I'd been his butt for too long). I don't think I actually hit the guy, though - it was school legend that made it a punch rather than a messy scuffle!

And it does brutalise you - this is something I can look back on with mixed feelings, as I'd have far preferred to try to ignore it or talk my way out of it. But in the real world nothing marks you down as a ***** or a pouf more than taking it without complaining - so sooner or later, FCUK school rules, you WILL have to **** somebody. Make it look good and a lot will be forgiven - a lot more than you think depends on the appearance rather than the substance of extreme violence. If you have to be pulled apart and you're still struggling, spitting and swearing and trying to land a punch or a kick, it helps your street cred no end.

And once you get a rep as an unpredictible maniac who goes in to hurt and cause damage - however underserved this is, well, it was amazing how even the REAL hard nuts treated me with care afterwards. The key word is "unpredictible" - people back off if they genuinely don't know if your response is going to include violence!





And be prepared to take any disciplinary or legal/police action on the chin - being seen to take it like a man helps your position too.

Yes, it's brutalising, but if you went to a school like mine you HAD to do it - their fault for throwing us all together, and expecting flawless behavour!

(Do I sound embittered about my schooldays? Gods, yes - I only felt I started living once I was out of that bloody place)

Answer 2

I know that your asking for help and I would like to do that but, I'm not sure of the question. But here goes. Smacking anyone should not be done at all. Lead by example. Make changes in your behavior. Tell them to keep they're hands to themselves please. Make eye contact with them and tell them they don't need to touch you to get they're point across.

Answer 3

The best thing is to ignore them. Its not worth your education or your time to worry about what others say about you. Don't let them get to you...they react by your actions. If you start ignoring them, they should ignore you...it worked for me in high school. That's what I would do...but you could try "throwing your weight around" and show them whose boss...but the best thing is to ignore them.

Answer 4

Ryan, fists dont make things right, tell the guys how you feel , threats will get you no-where but trouble. I feel for you , shame but take it easy ok.:))

Answer 5

hahaha wot a loser thnx for two point