How would you tell your wife to loose some weight?

Question

My wife and I have been married for two years. She was a medium size and very attractive person. Since then, she has has had a considerable noticable weight gain - - over fifty pounds. She doesn't eat right or exercise to take care of herself. I am an active and likewise would like the same.

I have tried uncsuccesful to get her to go the gym, walks, runs, and bike rides. I have even tried cooking healthy meals for us but she doesn't like to be pushed. She a is very insecure person and would not like it if she was told outright. She is still the person I married but I am no longer totally attracted to her.

Help!

Answer 1

Sit down and tell your wife in a loving way how much you love her and are concerned about her health. Let her open up and talk to you about it and then promise her that you will stick by her and do everything that you can do to help her lose the weight.

Also, forget about the weight for a minute and ask questions to see if there is some underlying problem...such as depression, guilt... or just plain old in need of REST. The issue may not be her lack of exercise or eating...but something much deeper.

There are many factors that cause a person to overeat, not want to exercise, be tired, etc. Also, on a medical tip have a doctor check her thyroid (hypothyroidism) and things of that nature which could cause her to quickly gain weight. Research Hypothyroidism and see if she has any other symptoms.... for starts symptoms may include excessive weight gain, dry brittle hair and nails, fatigue (regardless of sleep), irregular period, dry wrinkled skin, and yes DEPRESSION!

Hope that helps.

Answer 2

Weight is a very sensitive subject to any woman. You have to approach it with kid gloves. First, be careful not be be judgmental. Be as loving and as supportive as you can by letting her know that if she was 500 lbs that you would still love her. Then let her know that since she isn't 500 pounds, you wouldn't like to support her in getting things under control. So often weight is the underlying factor. There are almost other things that need to be addressed. I can tell you that being overweight causes low self-esteem. Be supportive, tell her that you want her around for a long time and that you will help her achieve whatever goal she has set for herself. She has to want to change, if not, nothing you say or do will make a difference. Find out what her real problems are, and then maybe you can tackle the weight issue. Good luck.

Answer 3

Tell her the truth. Don't sugarcoat this, as it has some real bad down the road outcomes. You will end up with a wandering eye because no matter what, physical appearance is a big factor in a relationship. If you are not physically attracted to her and that continues, it could become a serious problem that she may not understand. Also, she could have a health problem, like the birth control that she may be taking could be causing a weight gain. If not, be honest with her. It is affecting you already. If you don't believe it, show her this writing that you did. Perhaps that will wake her up.

Answer 4

Sounds like she is suffering from depression.
That could be the reason for the weight gain.
She needs help getting motivated.
Stop focusing so much on the weight issue
Why is she insecure?
You may be part of the problem.


When our minds do not feel healthy, we stop caring about the rest of our body.
People who do not suffer from depression can only see what is going on on the outside.

If you really care about her, you will sit down and ask her what is bothering her, and what can you do to help.
If you are not up to this task, I suggest you try to get a close friend or family member involved.
She needs your help, dont let her down.

Answer 5

Just try to in courage her more instead of pushing her to go to the gym. Go out to the clubs, dance that's one way to get her to lost weight without pushing her. Instead of parking in a close spot to the store park further away so she can walk more. Having more sex is a good way to help her lost weight, I know that's what i do when i don't have a exercise routine. But just in courage her to lost weight not only for her but for you. And that losting weight will not make her so insecure, but happy with herself and she will have a lot more energy to do whatever.

Answer 6

You have been married to this person two years and can't find a way to let her know that her marriage is in jeopardy? If you love her and want the marriage to work, you would sit her down and let her know how you feel about things between you two if she's not willing to loose weight. Let her know that you are willing to help her in every way possible, because the weight gain is unhealthy and you don't want to loose her behind and issue that can be controlled. If she loves you & wants her marriage to work, she'll try to get the weight down.

Answer 7

Wow, demanding one. If she's stopped, and he or she says you ought to love her for her, it really is going to be very complicated. you ought to attempt making fit dinners, yet in case you paintings 12 hours, you probable do not devour at the same time a lot, and if she's stopped exercising consultation, she's likely to really revolt by using eating worse once you aren't to any extent further round. probable, your best guess is to throw out the former "i'm afraid this is going to ruin your wellbeing and also you'll die, please strengthen previous with me" line. regrettably, for this line to paintings, you ought to be able to educate to her that you'll adore her no remember what, and he or she commonly has to achieve an ungodly weight that motives each wellbeing care specialist who sees her to act shocked that she hasn't died of a heart attack already. Your 2d best guess will be to inform her you want a divorce because she's too fat. although, there is about a 70% threat that she'll only take you up on the availability, and damage up. With operating 12 hours an afternoon, you're likely to have hassle getting the finest criminal specialist, and assembly each of the emergencies that a divorce intending calls for, so that you stand to loose lots in case you do this, and getting a sparkling female once you paintings 12 hour shifts would also be demanding. I propose chatting with her wellbeing care specialist first, if you're fortunate, he can tell her an excellent type of horror thoughts about the risks of weightloss, and then you'll stand a more desirable ideal threat of having her listen once you tell her you want her to be round once you strengthen previous. I also propose you spend some months a minimum of performing like you nonetheless love her very a lot for her, and do not care if she blimps out to three hundred, or maybe four hundred pounds.

Answer 8

you have ask one of the age old question how to do this. you can never tell a woman that she is to fat, or to old or to what ever without suffering a repercussion of like you have never seen before. the answer to this question can be very difficult to resolve. what would I do? my girlfriend has done the same thing in just about a two year period, I know what you are talking about. by no means, make her feel self conscious about her appearance. plan a lot of outings say at the beach, fancy clubs, where there are a lot of active people, she will get the message on her own and you will be no worse off for it. this is a really gray area do deal with. be careful, as it can backfire without warring. good luck, my hats off to ya

Answer 9

Take her to a very high class clothes store and make her try out all those beautiful outfits. If they dont fit, she will get the idea and she will know that she can fit into those clothes if she wants to!! Be ready to pay as well if she looses the weight.

Answer 10

Well, tell her you you want to be with her forever and that you love her--let her know you are concerned about her weight and want her to take care of herself so she doesn;t have health issues later on. Above all-help her to this and work with her--even if it means you two go for walks together and eat right and cook together.