ores me. and i dont know what to do is there any technique behind talking i am very nervous.
2006-12-12 03:22:59 · 11 answers · asked by maji 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
join the marines. that should help.
2006-12-12 03:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
to get the right answer you must first ask he right question. Your problem is not being able to speak louder, you definitely can! You just don't want to; people ignore you because you prefer it that way (as a subconscious level of course).
To change that you have to convince yourself that you want to be noticed. You can try this by putting yourself in situations where you have no choice but to be noticed, after a while you will become familiar with the feeling and will have less trouble with it in everyday life.
Try taking on activities that stand out or simply put you in front of a crowd. Activities such as theater, public speaking, playing a musical instrument that few people play. Nothing too out of the ordinary, you don't want people thinking you're some sort of freek!
:-)
2006-12-12 03:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by edouard.dumesnildubuisson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It first starts by removing shyness. Developing self confidence falls in second. In order to stop being shy, do things that make you feel good about yourself (go to the gym, meet a new friend, get a new haircut, etc). In order to gain some confidence, I advise you not only to do things to make yourself look better-inside or out, but also to socialize with new people and try to become involved in an organization or maybe a sports team. Once you involve yourself with others, you start to feel kind of comfortable with those people and began to open up and show who you are without being afraid....or shy. Its all a process and most likely cannot happen overnight, but if your wanting confidence, then do what it takes to get it. Hope that helps and good luck!!!
2006-12-12 03:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by justmeandsoccer88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not necessarily unattractive for a guy to be shy or have a low self-esteem. it can definitely be a turn off if the guy is TOO confident in himself. try to find an in between... just focus on being happy with yourself... that will be the most attractive thing.
2016-03-29 04:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by Diane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have the desire to be more extroverted than you are currently, so all you need to do is do it. The key is to realize that everybody's opinion of you matters, but it doesn't mean a thing. You know who you are, you know what you are all about, don't let anyone's image of you effect the way you see yourself, and you'll be fine.
2006-12-12 03:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are speaking in public, it's easier to look at one point in the audience, but rather than looking in someone's eyes, concentrate on their forehead. To them it makes no difference, but talking to a forehead is much less scary than talking to a pair of eyes looking at you intently.
Also, practice in the mirror lots, and then in front of your friends. It's less and less scary the more you're used to it.
2006-12-12 03:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by probablestars 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are still in school, take public speaking classes, try out for school plays. In short, do things that are painful as hell to you. You will gradually become much stronger.
2006-12-12 03:25:03 · answer #7 · answered by dana_osmundson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u think ur ideas are correct ,then it's not hard to express it.may be it become clear that it isn't correct,but untill u think it is correct u have the right to say it.
2006-12-12 03:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by ali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a chorus... you will be forced to scream your lungs out...
2006-12-12 03:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by Pedro ST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop thinking about other people looking at you. pretend that noone is there. just focus on yourself instead of other people.
2006-12-12 03:25:28 · answer #10 · answered by yahoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋