do you think putting them on it encourages them to have sex?i have a 14 year old and twin 12 year old girls.
2006-12-12 03:22:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It is never to early in life to start setting morals and expectations for your children. Let them know if they need birth control that you will not judge them and will take them to the doctor. In most states a girl over the age of 16 does not need a parent with them to see a GYN to get put on the pill. However, the pill does not protect against STD's. Get some information on STD's and what happens when you get them. Girls need to be made aware of the results of having sex, the reality is that most people think that it can't happen to them. If your girls have boyfriends, it might be a good idea to discuss this with them. Even if they do not, being open with them now will help them come to you as they get older. Good luck.
2006-12-12 04:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jinny E 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say the time is now. My mother gave me the sex talk when I was in the 4th grade but I didn't really "get" it until sex education in 6th grade. She discussed birth control when I was about 12. I did end up going on birth control for just over a year when I was 13 because of very heavy and irregular periods, but didn't even think of having sex. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 19. So I do not think that discussing it at an early age encourages that type of behavior at all. It might have to do more with friends, peer pressure and their overall environment in general.
2006-12-12 03:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by october g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should all already be on birth control. I am 22 and I lost my virginity at 13 so that's almost ten years ago and every year girls start having sex at younger and younger ages. SO I don't think that putting them on it encourages sex I just think it encourages safer sex. Don't be afraid to talk to them about condoms too. Boys aren't as responsible as girls. I think you are in denial and as the parent of three girls you need to face the truth that your girls are already having sex or are going to be very soon. Sorry if this scared you but I know that at that age I wasn't on birth control because I didn't have a car or liscence to go get some and my mom didn't even talk to me about it untill way after I was sexually active.
2006-12-12 03:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by hot like me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to get her on birth control. She is youthful, yet you are able to't stress her to end liking boys. She probable received't end having sex, no remember how a lot you want her to. She for sure is regularly occurring with the magnitude of secure sex, so that you need to be happy that she's being responsible. do not punish her for doing something that all women do, even even with the reality that she is too youthful. If she's on birth control, you are able to sleep more effective understanding that she received't get pregnant at 13.
2016-11-25 22:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by mccay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is as good a time as any. Statics say girls are having sex as young as 12 so if you don't prepare her who will? It is a scary world and birth control, hygiene, and std talks need to begin as soon as you feel your child is getting information elsewhere. There are loads of books on the subject and if you have trouble with some of the questions they may have a referance book may help. Good Luck!
2006-12-12 03:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in this day and age i think it would make the most sense to tell them about the birds and the bees around the age of ten or at any age they ask , then wait for a few weeks to allow them time to absorb the brutal truth.... then have the birth control talk... i do not think ten would be too young ..also answer all questions honestly but use age appropriate language..
2006-12-12 03:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by pbear i 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start talking to your 14 yr old daughter but don't put her on birth control, just tell her what it is. If they have terrible cramps from their period, take them to a FEMALE doctor to discuss what to do. No teenage girl wants someone looking up their "down there" parts, especially a man. You have to get checked on in order to get on birth control.
I hope that helped.
2006-12-12 03:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by Mollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discussing all aspects of sexuality is a very positive thing to do! They are all old enough. Leave nothing out.
But I'm old (and old fashioned too). IMO, putting your daughter on birth control pills sends the wrong message. Keep your lines of communication always open. Impress on them the benefits of waiting. Encourange them to love themselves enough to say know. Help them develop their sense of self-respect and self-worth.
Good luck Mom :-)
2006-12-12 03:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I started having sex at 13. Talk to them and talk to you ob/gyn about Birth control. I personally don't think it would encourage them, but if I had a daughter I would never count on them telling me when they start.
2006-12-12 03:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by tabithap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They probably know what sex is and what goes on with that. But they may not completely understand birth control. You should probably discuss it with them. Don't forgot though. The pill is only effective when taken properly. My mom put me on the pill when I was 15 for menstral problems. She explained to me that by putting me on the pill she wasn't saying it was okay to have sex. But that if I did, she wanted me to come to her so she could help me if I needed it.
2006-12-12 04:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋