2006-12-12 03:08:54 · 30 answers · asked by badcrazygurl01 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First of all, you need to tell them. Remember they will love you no matter what. Second....you should look into your options. Are you ready to be a mom? If not look into adoption. My husband and I are waiting to find a baby to adopt so I can tell you how wonderful a gift it is for both the parents you choose and the baby if you cant parent it. You can always have an open adoption. Please feel free to email or message me if you need advice or just someone to talk to about this. my email is jvallery@hotmail.com and on yahoo my id angelic_monster04
2006-12-12 16:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by angelic_monster04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a comment about the user "One Race the Human Race"..
Your life will NOT be over if you bring the baby to term. In no way, shape, or form. You will get the wonderful gift of having your own baby in your arms when the baby is born, and that is the greatest feeling of all. Whether you keep the baby, or give them up for adoption is your decision and if you give them up you can be happy knowing they are in a good home and their new parents will love them, because they want this more than anything. You won't regret giving the birth to the baby. In the end it is your decision but I'm telling you that seeing a new life in your arms is a great joy.
On that note, to answer your question, tell your parents. They will be shocked, but they're going to be your support and they love you no matter what! And you'll feel much better to get it off your chest.
2006-12-12 12:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fanlight was 100% right with her answer to you. Please listen to what she said, and ignore some of the other hurtful posts. Some people do not know how to talk to other people sweetie.
You should definately tell your parents. They may freak out, and things will possibly be tough with them, but it's best to be honest with them right now. My best friend got pregnant when she was 16, and of course her parents like all parents freaked out, but given a little time and once the initial shock wore off, they supported her. Her son is now 10 years old, and her parents have been her biggest support. My friend has custody of her son, and although her life changed and it was hard having a child at her age, she has made it through, and she is a wonderful mother.
I wish you the best of luck hon. Just remember that everything will be ok.. just be honest with your parents. They might be really angry and upset at first, but they will respect you more later for being honest.
*hugs*
2006-12-12 11:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by rainbowbright 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents. Hard as it may be, the stress of hiding it is far worse for you and the baby, and after a while it will be impossible to hide anyway. They will be shocked and most likely upset, but ultimately they will be behind you as much as they can.
As far as what to do next, that's dependent on so many things. You need to know what kind of support you can expect from your parents and the father of the child. At 15 it is nearly impossible to support both yourself and a child, so be realistic about what it would take to raise him/her yourself. Beyond that, other options are entirely personal. As is evident by the answers already submitted, views on abortion vary wildly. I don't know what yours are, nor can anybody dictate them for you. I myself view it as an option, but that is entirely dependent on your own belief system. Adoption would also be worthwhile, as someone else will have the joy of raising a child. Best of luck in whatever path you choose.
2006-12-12 11:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Erin L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit your parents down and tell them. They may be mad, they may yell. But they are doing this because they care, I know that sounds strange but sometimes when we are scared we all act differently than we normally would.
Your parents should be able to help get you the care that you need. No matter what care that is.
Have long have you known about this? Have you considered your options? These are also things that you should discuss with them. If there is another adult that you trust and think will help you get through this maybe you can talk to them first and ask them to be there and lend support when you tell your parents. This might help your situation a bit.
2006-12-12 11:16:25 · answer #5 · answered by freyja5683 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Defenetly tell your parents. If they are good and loving parents they will understand and support you in your choice. Maybe it's better to get an abortion, because you're only 15 years old. You still have school and a whole life. I'm 17 now, and I probably will get an abortion if I were pregnant now. You're 15 now, and you're probably better in supporting a kid when you're older. I hope you'll make a good choice. And defenetly tell your parents! I know it sounds scary, but it's probably the best thing to do. And they can help you with making a choice. Good luck and take care!
2006-12-12 11:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by free_to_speak 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a sister who is 17 and she just told me yesterday morning she was 3 months pregnant. I just told my mom and she was upset and all parents think about is what will society think. At the end of the day, they will be there to support you. Is there someone in your family whom you trust? Maybe you can go to that person and help you break the news. It is a difficult situation to be in both as the pregnant person and as the parent, but the bottom line is that you now have someone else to look after and you need prenatal care, unless you want something to happen to you and your baby. The number one rule is be honest to yourself and to your parents and togetogether you can overcome this situation. Continue your education and try to make plans for the future for both of you, regardless if the baby's father is ther eto support you. Continue your education please do is the best reward you can give yourself and your baby. Talk to your parents and together you can work it out.
2006-12-12 11:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by rp12801280 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is going to be you need to sit down with your parents, or one of them, and tell them what is going on. At first, they are going to be upset. After everyone is calm, all of you need to figure out what the best choice is going to be. You need to think about what you want and how having a child is going to affect this. This means that you are going to have to think far into the future. What plans will you have to make if you want to go to college? How will you support the child? Do you think you are able to take of the child? Will your family help and support you? Abortion is not always the answer, sometimes it is. Adoption is also a choice. If you do decide to keep the child you need to be ready to give up some things and be ready to miss out on social activities.
It's okay to be scared, but you have to discuss this with your family. You are in the position of an adult right now and you need to weigh out your options and determine what you really want.
2006-12-12 11:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to 'One Race The Human Race'
Yes at the end of the day its your decision as to what your going to do, but talk to your parents, they deserve to know they might become grandparents. even if you give this baby up for adoption it deserves a chance at life. Having the baby wont ruin your life, if someone cant handle the possibility of having a baby and becoming a parent then they shouldnt be having sex. because as soon as you do whether you use protection or not your putting yourself at risk of pregnancy. This isnt a 'problem' that you have to 'deal' with, its your child, a part of you. That baby didnt ask to be created, it just needs to be loved whether by you or another loving family, it deserves a chance at life. Talk to your parents they will support you in any decision you make. my best friends sister got pregnant at 14 and she kept her. she now is haappily married and has 4 other chilren too. but my sister who got pregnant at 16 couldnt handle the responsibility of raising a child on her own, she wanted her to grow up with more than she could offer. So she let our mother adopt her. it was comforting for her to know she was being cared for, and can visit her as often as she wants. just dont let your baby suffer, what ever you decide you will be okay.
2006-12-12 13:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, tell your parents. They may freak but they'll find out sooner or later and they will be more mad the longer you wait.
Second, will the guy who got you pregnant help you? Will he stay with you or take off? What kind of future are you looking at with him?
Third, get to a doctor. A family doctor, any doctor, or even a womens clinic, and start on your prenatals. Your baby's health is your responsibility.
And I beg you please dont get an abortion. You chose to have sex and this baby is yours now, even if you choose adoption later, please allow this baby to be born. What is 9 months of your life compared to the 70+ years that this baby has yet to enjoy?
2006-12-12 11:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by m_thurson 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋