I have a good buddy that I play football with and while in a late shower I came back to see him and another guy having sex in a bathroom stall. I didn't know my friend was gay - or bi-sexual, and it kind of shocked me. I don't want to be weird around him, he's still my friend and for that he's a good pal to me. But I don't want to embarrass him or be an 'idiot' like I see others who find out their friend is gay. He's still pretty darn masculine to me (though as it turns out he's the fem of the relationship) and a cool guy. Question is 1) I don't want to come across as a azz-hole, 2) I want to improve our friendship without him taking to a 'homosexual' level 3) maybe I'm freaking out but, I've never had to talk to a friend that hasn't told me he's gay but I found out - do I say something first or does he? Again, he's a good friend, please help.
2006-12-12 03:01:44 · 8 answers · asked by TexasLSUTiger 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't think you should say anything first. He'll come out to you in due time - maybe he's just experimenting with his sexuality? And since you're already OK with gay people, just be like that. Be the friend you always were make sure you are there for him. If he starts to get any ideas, just say that you're not gay, but like him as a good friend all the same. Good luck!
2006-12-12 03:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by Silver 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My ex is my best friend, and 2 other gay guys. That makes 3 best friends that are gay. If you have 3 gay best friends, I'm willing to bet that the leaf doesn't fall too far from the tree.
2016-03-29 04:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by Diane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I doubt he's too concerned about people knowing if he was having sex in a semi-public place so it'd probably be okay to bring it up. Personally I love it when people ask me coz it's a lot less awkward than having to tell them. Just don't make it sound too serious or like you're making fun of him and you should be alright. As for getting weird with him, if you don't see it as weird then you won't treat it like it's weird. It's great that you want to be a good friend and I'm sure he'll appreciate that but it's really not much more important than finding out he prefers blondes. You don't need to make big deal out of it
2006-12-12 03:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by creamy69 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need to say anything? Do you need to have some closure on this before he can be your friend? And if he is in a relationship, and h's a good pal to you, why not be a good pal to him?
If he's already telling you that he likes you romatically, then you can freak out. But as it is, it seems like you just busted on him having sex... it would seem pretty good not to tell him about it. How would you feel if you were busted on having sex?
2006-12-12 04:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Truth is, his sexuality is not your business. If you can't be around him without acting strange, it would be best to just let him know what you saw, promise to keep it to yourself, and drop it.
If you can though, it would be better for you to just ignore the fact. He's not trying to get into your pants, so don't worry about it.
If he was a good friend before, nothing has been changed by this discovery unless YOU change it.
2006-12-12 03:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by magequill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about saying anything. Just be a good friend to him. When he is ready to tell you he will. Especially if he knows that he can trust you.
I think you should be commended with how you are handling it. Some people would freak out and break off a friendship. It shows your maturity. Take care.
2006-12-12 03:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by sydney77 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remain his friend. Don't mention what you saw unless he brings the subject up in some way. You can do things like in general terms let him know that you are accepting of all things, gay, str8, black, white, male, female, doesn't matter. If he knows you are truly accepting it will make it easier for him to tell you when he is ready.
2006-12-12 03:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by Norman S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
JUST ACT NORMALL and just try not to but into his buisness and just be a frend...ok?
2006-12-12 03:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by skool_gurl001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋