My son is a 6th grader, and last week was distraught because someone broke into his P.E. locker and stole his New Shoes and Body spray. They kicked in the locker damaging it and breaking off the lock. Yesterday he seen his friend wearing them. He told me that his friend said he would bring them tomorrow. My son wants me to stay out of it. As a mother I want to step in and handle it.. What should I do? I don't want the kid getting away w/ it again, nor do I want my son to be bullied. Help!
2006-12-12 02:58:47 · 19 answers · asked by mimi941 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That's tuff for a Mom of a 6th grader...
I would "set" a deadline date for your son to get the shoes back from the "friend" that swiped them....
tell him if he doesnt have the shoes back by the deadline date, Mom, Mamma,Mommy and his new definition of you as his Mother will step in and get the d*** shoes back! This allows him to "assert" his own independence to not allow someone to bully him and will also show him that you will ALWAYS have his best interest at heart, no matter how old he gets! Good Luck!
2006-12-12 03:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the kids parents about it! They DO need to know about this so they can talk to him so this doesn't happen again and so he can be told that this kind of action is not going to be tollerated. If this kid gets away with it once, he'll go it again to someone else. Whether your son wants you to get in the middle of it or not, as a mother you have the right to do so.
Also, you need to let the school know what has happened! Damaging school property and STEALING in school is not tollerated and I'm sure the school may also intervene somehow. They may make your son's "friend" return the stolen shoes and body spray and somehow either repair the locker or replace what has been broken.
This child needs to learn that this kind of behavior will not be tollerated at all. If he gets away with it, who knows what may happen later or when he gets older, he may do something worse knowing he could get away with it.
2006-12-12 03:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by kerrberr95 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that so far you son is handling it. Wait and see if the boy brings in the shoes tomorrow. If he does, let it go. Your son stood up for himself and didn't have to have his 'mommy' fix his problems. This will go far in improving his self image and confidence. However, if the shoes don't appear; then explain to your son that this has to be reported and that his friend will be called out. I would call the school and let them notify the parents. If you know the kids family, then you may be able to speak with them and let them know what is going on. Regardless if you step in...then your son will have to deal with the consequences. You just need to be sure that you are protecting your son's pride and not just yours.
2006-12-12 03:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
e is already being bullied. Call the School or his parents. I had a friend who child stole this kids cell phone and shoes from his locker and the parents handled it and left the school out of it. So if you don't want to get him in too much trouble with school then call the parent and try to handle it yourself.
2006-12-12 03:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by Diva Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand that your son wants you to not intervene...but he is a child...and you as a mother already want to step in...that's your mother's nature. your son was distraught and his so-called "friend" just happened to kick in his locker (which is illegal at any age) to STEAL his shoes. for the sake of you son and for the sake of the other boy...let the school know what is going on..this may not be the first time..and let the boys family know. hopefully, they will care enough about their son's future to talk to him and make sure that he understands that his actions were inappropriate and unacceptable. i know that you want to repsect your son's wishes and stay out...but when i look back in my own childhood..there are times that i asked my mother to stay out and i am glad that she didn't...as a child i could not fully understand what was causing certain situations. good luck...and God bless
also...i keep reading that everyone asks you to wait to see if the child will bring them back...if your son stole something from someone else or a store...would you expect your son to return it IMMEDIATELY...becuase he is in the wrong..or let him hang on to it until he is ready to give them back...LETTING THE CHILD WAIT TO GIVE THEM BACK IS WRONG AND NOT SHOWING THEM RIGHT FROM WRONG....IF YOUR SON HAD HANDLED IT (NO OFFENSE PLEASE) HE WOULD HAVE SAID FOR THE BOY TO TAKE THEM OFF IMMEDIATELY BECAUSE THEY WERE HIS SHOES!!!!!
2006-12-12 03:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by KristinDouglas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how your son feels and I know how you feel, been in both situations. This could be a learning lesson for your son. I'd tell him what you expect to be done and tell him you will let him handle it if he does these things. I would moniter things and future situations closer than he'd probably like to make sure this don't set up a pattern. He's got to learn to fight back and since this isn't a physical fight it might be ok. My parents ailinated me because they were always there to right those who wronged me. I didn't learn and hated them for a long time for the embarressment. I used to scream at them to not always blame the others and blame me for my own screwups but they wouldn't. It's ok now but we had a lot of rough yrs. due to my always being embarressed.
2006-12-12 03:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by Brianne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't really that hard, is it? The kid committed a CRIME. Theft was against the law last time I checked. Tell the principal, or better yet, call the cops. Your son is old enough to learn that you have to do the right thing, even if it means someone will be mad at you for it.
2006-12-12 03:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is right. Stay our of it. Just have a good talk with him, tell him this is a chance to realize how some people are. Teach him not to do such thing to anyone, ever. And he must not feel he is bullied as long as he knows that he KNOWS who had stolen, who had not kept his word of returning them back. It is just a pair of shoes but a good chance for your son to get useful messages about living with other people, sharing, defending himself and taking care of his belongings. Talk to him but do not DO anything. It is a childrens affair.
2006-12-12 03:08:22 · answer #8 · answered by Alice in Wonderbra 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What u should do is contact the school an tell them what u know an ask them to look into the situation or u can get in contact with the parents an settle it with them just some suggestions
2006-12-12 03:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by holdnem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i'm questioning is how the 'save human beings' allow you to get out of the save with the stolen footwear!?! in the adventure that they are asking you to carry the footwear lower back, how do they comprehend that you stole them? have they were given you on a digital camera stealing the footwear? Did your pal turn you in? i detect this all a touch demanding to believe that you made it out of the save and residential with the footwear and now the save is calling you to carry them lower back! Stealing is in no way an excellent idea. What made you imagine it replaced into an excellent idea to take your pal's dare and scouse borrow a pair of footwear? the in problem-free words persons dumber than you're the save persons that allow you go away with the footwear!
2016-11-25 22:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋