he has put a new lock on the door and I can't get in,all my things including work clothes are in there,what can I do about it?
2006-12-12 02:48:09 · 20 answers · asked by Sarah G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call a locksmith, then move out once you get your stuff.
2006-12-12 02:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops (non-emergency, not 911).
There's not a lot they can do to force him to let you in the bedroom, since I think the law only covers that he can't keep you out of your HOME. However, I do know that it's illegal for a landlord (unless it's in your contract and you're given warning) to keep you from your belongings, so maybe you can use that to get your stuff back, anyway, but you may still be on the couch.
A locksmith isn't going to require you to have a key to change the lock, you know. Unless your husband is home to stop you 24/7, change it back. As long as it's your home, too (your name is on the mortgage or lease), you have every bit as much of a right to change locks in the bedroom as he does. It is a little childish to play the game for long, though, so honey, if your husband has locked you out of the bedroom, I think it's time to say bye-bye.
EDIT: To the girl who said "what kind of guy does this" the answer is "My father-in-law." I'm not sure I haven't just answered a question posted by my own mother-in-law. I never thought such immaturity was possible in adults, but since I've been married, I've learned of a whole new level of spitefulness.
2006-12-12 03:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation sounds very serious. First you do have a right to get your things and to use your bedroom. However, you need to ask yourself why your husband is doing this. If you guys are in the process of breaking up, then first try to talk to your husband to work something out. Whether it be you getting your things and leaving or asking him to leave. If you can't figure anything out then you may need to enlist the help of a neutral party of the police to help you get your things. Then one of you should leave because this is not a healthy way for either one of you to leave. If you two just had an argument but you believe that you will make up then you two need some counseling. This is not a healthy way for him to express his anger. He needs to learn how to "fight fair." Either way I would not suggest breaking down the door with him in their as it will escalate the situation. As him locking you out of the bedroom is a very controling and manipulative move on his part, you don't want the situation to escalate to violence. Good Luck and be safe.
2006-12-12 03:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by LLL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police. This is abuse--mental and emotional abuse. It is just as serious as physical abuse. Other than that, break down the door. I'm positive that they have Louisville Sluggers in AZ...get one and go to town.
One thing...when you are in there, get all of your stuff and go to a safe location. If your husband is crazy enough to do this...he isn't to far from doing something even more damaging to you.
I've lived this nightmare...my ex-husband started getting abusive after we had been together for nearly 7 years. It started as emotional and mental abuse...and then the last time it got physical. I waited until it got physical to do anything...that was a risky thing to do. I could have been killed that night. I'm lucky--I'm alive--I'm happy.
Needless to say...he was not a very nice person. But I was too proud, scared, and ashamed to do something about it before it blew up into such a big thing. I finally took a stand...it was hard but I am truly happy now where before I just thought I should be happy because I had done everything "right".
Anyway...long story here, but you need to get out. Its scary, its hard, and it seems impossible. But obviously he isn't going to take care of you...you need to take care of yourself.
2006-12-12 02:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
lol I know its not funny to you but I cant believe I'm reading this its kinda childish. If your clothes are in there and you need them and he's locked you out either break down the door or call the police to get involved. However either way you need to reconsider the maturity of this relationship
2006-12-12 02:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That guy has to be the biggest. most insecure, adolescent loser in the world. What person in their right mind would do that? Get your things and run away from that moron asap. See a lawyer and break the chain. Save yourself from a life of isolation, locked out of your own b-room.
2006-12-12 02:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call the police or kick the door in, if you guys are married , then everything in the house is community property and you have access to everything that is community property. Maybe he is trying to tell you something, but does not have the balls. I would consider leaving, and not looking back. Is he on any kind of medication????
2006-12-12 02:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
get a lock smith to not only open the door but then change the locks on him! Whats good for the goose is good for the gander...thats i think at least!
2006-12-12 03:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by me&onlyme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husband locks wife out of bedroom???? There's a new twist huh? Usually its the opposite.
2006-12-12 02:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is your husband and you guys live together, then you can call the cops! Acourding to the law, if you guys are married you have the right to everything that he has, included house or room!
2006-12-12 02:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Break the door down and take what you want. If he resists, call the police.
2006-12-12 02:51:42 · answer #11 · answered by jack w 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋