am i a lesbian?

Question

i am 17, i am at the moment really attracted to the idea of lesbianism i dont have feelings for any girls i just think that it would be a lot better than a man. is this a normal stage that im going through or is it real?

Answer 1

Hello,

For some boys/girls this can be just a phase and you wont really know for SURE until you go to bed with another girl. Or if your thoughts just never change.

I was 13 when I first started thinking about other girls, boys just didnt interest me. Although i did see a few but when things became serious they did absolutly NOTHING for me in the bedroom department. It wasnt until I was 20 when I tried it for the first time. Some words of advice, please think very hard first if you decide to sleep with a mate!!!!! I lost contact with mine for a few years afterwards, and although we are friends now it will never be the same as it was.

Anyway, After i had been with her it got me out to gay pubs and clubs. Luckily there were two in my area that i knew of (theres now three). So i made new friends male and female.

I personally dont believe being a lesbian is any easier than being straight. You have the extra difficulty of "coming out" to your friends and family. Unless your going to always be a closet lesbian. Luckily my family were fine, but i did lose a few mates over it.

NO MATTER what type of relationship your in we all still argue. You can also still get into an aggressive or abusive relationship. The only thing i think is different is what goes on in the bedroom....LOL. You still meet people who dont know what they want and will play mind games with you. But there is also plenty of decent, kind, caring and lovable ladies, its just finding them. Im 28 now and things still arent any easier. But i am who i am and will always be the woman i am now.



Good luck in your search for happiness mate. Just please be careful

Answer 2

Hi! I think you are NOT a lesbian. Lesbians these days have become a seperate "species" though.You are just 17. You are an explorer now, like all teens. You like the IDEA of lesbianism.Not being lesbian . I was just wondering why do you think its "lot better than a man". Love is the ultimate binding agent in any relationship.Dont do anything just for exploring how the whole thing works. You may confuse yourself for your entire life. Be true to yourself. Never let yourself confused.I would advice you to just do some self- introspection. Ask yourself WHY? Why is it that you like to be with a women ? What if you like both man and women. Life will then drive you mad. If you could control your thoughts now, then you will never have to regret in the future. But if you really think that you are attracted sexually towards women then you should talk with your parents now or with your friends whomever you feel comfortable with and come to a conclusion about where you actually belong. If you still want to choose a life partner from women, then you should always try to justify and convince yourself that you really want it and you are doing it no matter whatever others say or do.It all depends upon YOU.I would say that being lesbian never let you free from committing. This relation is also based on love. This relation also breath love. It also need something to survive on.Dont follow others. If you follow you might find yourself confused in the long run. Listen to your heart always and be strong enough to support yourself. No one else can do it. I wish and pray that you find more clarity on what you are looking at.

Answer 3

Hmm.. let me dissect this...

You are attracted to the IDEA of lesbianism
You DON'T have feelings for any girls
You JUST THINK it would be a lot better than a man

Let me be Dr. Genius and say, YOU'RE NOT A LESBIAN. ;)

Seriously, if you're just attracted to the idea, then it's not different from getting attracted to the idea of communism. You can hold it dear, or grow out of it, but it's not built in within you.

In our lifetime, we get bombarded with millions of ideas, we entertain some, and we ignore some and we even loathe some... But they are just that, ideas, not really a part of you.

Just be yourself and don't dictate your sexuality, and don't be scared if you are attracted to the idea. When you've fallen for a girl... then come back to the LGBT section and we'll sort it out.

Answer 4

You are passing through a transient stage, not un-natural, but out of tune with the real nature. This lesbi. shall pass away as you become mature.

Live yourself. You are a girl. Be a woman. Become a mother. Have grand children. Live the old age gracefully. Every child does have to become an old person. Think of your entire life. Not the couple of years ahead. Best wishes also prayers for you !

Answer 5

Don't listen to guys on this subject, it's completely normal. I'm 22 and when I was in high school I was attracted to girls but you will grow out of it eventually. Guys bodies are just not very attractive at that age, they are hairy and gross. As you get older you get more attracted to guys. You will probably still be attracted to women and look at women but I think all women do that. I think that's the competitive side of us.

Answer 6

I don't think its as serious as needing to see a shrink. I think you should experiment a bit and find out what you really want. If your not lesbian then you will know way before anything gets too far, just remember, in any situation its you who has the right to stop it at any time if you feel uncomfortable

Answer 7

hard to say.. you might just be mad at guys and this is your mental idea of a better solution.. give it some time and see if these lesbian thoughts continue.

i'm going thru a new phase where i seem to be bi curious.. trying to decide if i've been in denial all my life, or if this is a phase..

don't worry about labelling yourself lesbian or bi. just be yourself and see how things go..

if you are bi, then there's nothing wrong with that..

Answer 8

It was said best on Sex and in City.

"Do you want to eat *****?"

If the answer is yes you're a lesbian.

A lot of women feel attracted to other women, and women's bodies are generally more attractive than men. Women's bodies are made to be erotic. But do you want to stick your tongue in some lady bits, or just admire and have the odd fantasy (as we all do!)? Only you can answer that one.

Answer 9

if you are feeling like that, don't be worry about that. In future, there will be a special quota for lesbians and gays in organisations and they will enjoy in seperate clubs. A lot more oppurtunities waiting for you.

Answer 10

if your fit then why not be both trust me men love 2 see a lesbian kiss. go on be greedy have a 3sum find which one you enjoy more the bloke or gal