I've just broken up with a pretty abusive person. I am having trouble concentrating. I have so much to do. I have wanted out of this for so long and I'm not heartbroken. I'm lost. My life has shifted and I know in time I will see this as a much needed breath of fresh air. I just feel drained and tired and anxious. If I could get lost in my work, I think that would be best. I'd like to work as many long hours as I have to to get through to the other side. But I can't concentrate. Any thoughts?
2006-12-12 02:34:48 · 4 answers · asked by donewiththismess 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You need to take the time to process what you have been through and decide what way you want your life to go. The truth is time will help heal but it will take a very long time before you feel whole again. You have been submerged in a difficult situation and now that you are away from it you internal fears are still raw and that is what is causing your own anxiety. You need to address the situation avoiding the problem will only escalate your internal feelings resulting your own inability to cope with daily living. You are a good person and your own happiness is waht is important and you should really make that the focus. I hope that helps.
2006-12-12 02:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by psychologist is in 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after such a significant change, your mind has suffered from a massive chock, and has thus lost perspective. you can't focus on work, because that will only ignore the problem, and it can build to the point where you wont be able to function normally. you claim to not be heartbroken, perhaps you are. or maybe the contrast of being in an abusive relationship, to suddenly facing your fears and leaving this person has traumatized you on a psychological level. I think you should find a close friend or family member and talk to them. vent out all of your thoughts and feelings abotu every problem you have, and every hardship you have overcome, or are trying to overcome. sometimes just having someone to listen to you, having a way to vent, is what you need to move on.
if all else fails, try seeking counseling to help you move on. good luck, I hope this helps
2006-12-12 10:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by Alex P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been in this spot... schedule your time - seriously. If you are scheduled to work between 8 - 10 concentrate on that. Allow yourself to think about other issues later.
Take a mini vacation - just for you
2006-12-12 10:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by Becki R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you find out do everyone else in the world a favor and let them know!
2006-12-12 10:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by B_U_T_FULL 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋