Hey, I talk to this girl on the internet who ive known for a couple of months and she only lives 10 minutes away and wants to meet me as friends but im a shy guy and dont have much experience..should i not meet her to save her the disapointment?
2006-12-12 02:31:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That's your problem right there buddy. "Save her the disapointment?" Dude! You don't feel very highly of yourself do you? You need to change that and change that right now! You need to be confident. Confident of who you are, not necessarily how you look. But who you are! You need to do something positive today and every day! Something you really enjoy doing, do it! Something you're really good at, do it! This helps boost your confidence level. Hold your head up high. Sit up straight, stand straight, don't slouch.
You could be the ugliest guy on the planet, and have the most beautiful woman in the world under your arm. The way how is be confident on who you are. 100% of the time you are in public, you need to be smiling. Your life is good! Smile about that! You know what you want in life, smile about that! You're good at __________, and __________, and ____________, smile about that! The birds are singing, smile about that! You see a child playing, smile about that! You notice a sexy woman walking by, don't galk at her, look her in the eyes, and give her a genuine smile! Say hello! That's all. If it's the morning, say good morning! If it's a beautiful day, say good morning, wow what a beautiful day.
This girl you like on the internet, yes! Go meet her. Smile and be confident on who you are. Listen more than you talk. Women like guys that listen. That's why we have two ears and only one mouth. So we can listen more than we talk. Find a common interest and go with it. Talk about whatever you are passionate about. If it's your spin on life, talk about that and get her opinion. If it's a school subject tell her why you are interested in it and ask her what she is into.
Do not look at her assets. Look at her mouth and eyes. Looking at her eyes makes her feel comphortable. It also lets her know you are interested in who she is, not how she looks. Looking at her mouth lets her think you want to kiss her, so only look at her mouth when the time is right for that. If you notice something wrong with her grill, do not look at her mouth. She'll think you're looking at her flaws.
Just smile and be confident about youself. Women love that.
Good luck! Go get her!
2006-12-12 02:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are already telling your self that you want to save her the disapointment, then you shouldn't even bother. I am sort of the same way though. I have low selfesteem. I don't think anyone will like who I am and the way I am. You just need to have confidence in yourself. If both of you feel the way that you do twards each other, then there should be no problem with the two of you meeting. I guess it just depends on how much you want to meet her. Just remember, have faith in yourself. If she really liked the online you, then she should like the real you. Just be yourself and everything will work out for the best.
2006-12-12 02:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by Angelica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are able to communicate with her on the Internet, you can do it in real life. Your mind is the same. Besides, you guys are only meeting as friends. Just think of her as a relative you know well but haven't seen in a while.
Just be honest: when you meet her, tell her: "I'm a very shy guy, but I was really looking forward to meet you". Most girls like that and the ones who don't are bad news anyway...
2006-12-12 02:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by Pedro ST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking if you should meet a girl you met on the internet but, you are a very shy person. If I were you, shy or not shy, I would go and get to see how she looks and also,you might loose your shyness, when you get to know her better, but by all means when and if you decide to go tell her about your shyness and I am pretty sure she would not mind about it. I hope that she would be a very caring person, that you would like to keep as a friend and then you decide about her and she about you. Good luck, and don't loose your nerve about going I'll bet you would not regret it.
2006-12-12 02:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to be a shy guy.Meet up with her and if she is disapointment - Forget her meet up with the next girl
2006-12-12 02:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by That Guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i experience your discomfort, bro. i'm a shy guy myself. it type of feels that you and this female have a lot in elementary although. only try construction off of that. You adult males can relate to at least one yet another so only talk about those similarities. As you do, you'll discover out more advantageous about one yet another. also, i imagine that is a lot less demanding for 2 human beings to make a pal mutually, than for one human being to make a pal with techniques from him/herself. complicated, i comprehend...yet when 2 human beings attempt to befriend someone, then it will be powerful because you're literally not on my own. So making one pal ought to commence a chain reaction. only attempt to stay constructive, save your head up. It sucks being a sparkling pupil and this is even worse once you're shy. I have a lot of recognize for you. you're very courageous to bypass with the help of all this and also you're very good to ensure to advance the issue with techniques from making pals. you're off to a good commence. good luck, guy.
2016-11-30 11:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude meet with her, and why should you be shy? You got nothing against her and she has nothing against you right? It's not like she's gonna embarass you infront of many people... It's just a friendly meeting so do meet with her... Just an advise...
2006-12-12 02:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by Dark Valentine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have been talking to her for months she already knows ur shy and she still wants to meet u so go get pizza or coffee and just talk she may be able to bring u out of ur shell
2006-12-12 03:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by ypsilady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself! if she wants to meet you for who you are on the internet, just be that person. saying stuff like 'i'll be a disappointment' is just gonna lower your own self esteem, which you need a lot of at these times.
2006-12-12 02:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by marajader2d2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself...she might like you when you guys meet.. you don't know until you try. Make it easy, and meet up for lunch or something fun, like bowling. Good luck and cut yourself some slack here! :-)
2006-12-12 02:38:31 · answer #10 · answered by *Droogie* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋