Well my ex left me over a year ago & I had my son July 3rd. He went back to his ex in AR who has his daughter. (who is almost 2) then when she found out I was pregnant of course she became pregnant too(their kid is like 2.5 months junior to my son). Well now they have 2 kids and last month (well end of october) he married her. Her mom bought the rings and her dad paid for the marriage. It was just in a courthouse.. He didnt tell his bro about it til I told his bro to ask him and he said "yeah." then he didnt talk about it again til he called his bro after being married and he said "well im married"
Doesnt seem that he wanted it. Do people still force people to marry a girl they knock up in the south?
the whole time he was with me he was telling her off (I know cuz she wrote about it in her journal) I am still not sure why he went back and esp after finding out I was pregnant why he did something that could result in impregnanting her so fast...
Has anyone been forced to marry?
2006-12-12 02:30:06 · 8 answers · asked by Bonnie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
PER JENS Q:
Yes, he had a kid with her, they broke up and he moved to wa and got me pregnant (we dated for 5 of the 8 months he was up here) then he went back there anf got her preggo again. So they have a two year old daughter and a 3 month old daughter. And I have a 5 1/2 month old son.
2006-12-12 02:41:50 · update #1
MORE INFO:
I am not after getting him back, That ships sailed. I am just kinda pissed cuz he cant call about our kid without her listening. They dont have a house phone so to call me their mom in law has to come over and be willing to lend her cell. But ever since she foudn out I was having a boy and she was having a girl the phone calls drastically cut. (from a couple times a week to like every 2 months)
I am just pissed cuz I think shes so jealous and insecure that she cant even give a call to us to see what our baby is up to.
I stayed single ever since he left me and I finally beiginnging to move on. (its been over a year)
But before he needed a babysitter to call me he was begging me to fly him back.. But now he talks completely different when she listens. I just dont know whats going on.
Funny though, the guy I want to date now has the same name as my sons daddy. I thought that to be a bit funny.
So.. Yeah. Theres the facts.
2006-12-12 02:49:32 · update #2
ANother issue:
When he and I got together was 22 he was 20. Hes about to turn 22 now and his wife is going to be 23. I will be 24 shortly after that. I think the ages maybe part of the problems too.
2006-12-12 02:51:38 · update #3
Irresponsible behavior. He is immature and not taking responsibilty for his actions. Let it go. Get on with your life and your responsibility to your son. If he wants to be in his life he will find the way. He has made his choice right or wrong, for what ever his reason. No one can be forced to marry. Take time alone. As much time as it takes to be truly happy with you and your life. Then and only then will you be able to select the right person to be a part of your life. You and your son deserve to be happy and secure but its now up to you to set a course that will take you there. Best of luck to you and your son.
2006-12-12 03:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by littlek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband got married at a justice of the peace before he married me. They got married for a legal situation they were in. He didnt tell anyone either and that didnt last very long. But in your situation, he has already chose something over you, once they do that just one time I would never take him back, because he WILL do it again!!
2006-12-12 02:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by TEXAS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I just really doubt he was forced to marry her. What, is he 15 or something? Otherwise I cannot see any one having the ability to force someone into something like that. The influence may have been there, but ultimately, for him to ever wear that ring, he has to want it.
2006-12-12 02:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jennalove311 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think he was forced to marry her. If her parents paid for everything, they just made it easier for him to lie to you about being forced to marry her. No parent wants their child to marry someone who doesn't love them. If he didn't want to be with her he would not have gotten her pregnant! First, you are so much better off with out this jerk. Second, I hope you are getting child support from him. Third, let him go, and find someone that really loves you and the child not someone who wants his cake and ice cream too!
2006-12-12 02:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Barbie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is why you don't date men who are in a relationship or have recently "left" a woman. Learned your lesson, I hope.
You were a quick rebound and you got pregnant, that's all. Get over him honey and move on with your life.
2006-12-12 03:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by Pashta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were used - he was taking a break from her, and probably married her because he wanted to - don't expect the marriage to last- unless she will put up with anything. You are better off without him. I seriously doubt he was "forced" to marry her.
2006-12-12 02:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by NAN G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So I am confused. He has 2 kids with her and 1 with you?
2006-12-12 02:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, ever heard of the term 'shutgun wedding'? where do you think the word originated from? You guessed it! The South
2006-12-12 02:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by Your Worst Nightmare 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋