im wondering is he seeing someone else are the feeling between goingi feel hurt and he seem not to care say thetre nothing wrong and he spends all he time away for me and come home goes to bed
2006-12-12 02:13:50 · 6 answers · asked by .robin s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife and I have a set of 2 and a half month old twins. We haven't had sex since they were born. With them breastfeeding, she is always so drained and tired. Plus, in her mind, the touching of her breasts is putting her in "mom" mode and she is seeing it as a feeding supply for her children, and no sexual stimulation at all. That's her side of it, and I support her in that. I look forward to when we resume, but it will be when she is ready, both physically and emotionally. As for me, and a lot of men, there are jealousy issues, whether we admit it or not. Yes, the boys require more attention, just so they can even stay alive! And while I know this, I still feel somewhat neglected. Plus, those breasts should be mine! Yet they get some...and I don't. So while it is all understandable and normal, it is still difficult for me as a new father to deal with.
I'd suggest just holding on. Let him know that you want to understand how he feels and make sure to listen to him and see if there is something that you can be doing. But it's a two-way street. Let him know how you are feeling so that he can understand what you need as well.
2006-12-12 03:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by Guvo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there is something diffentlly up. I know it may sound harsh but it doesn;t look good honey. Sometimes after a child men seem to seperate themselves because they have another responsibility that he may not want to deal with or just doesn't know how. Maybe you should try and spicen things up a little. See what kinda imagination you really have. If things still don't feel right, you need to confront him. Also, how much effort do you put into spending time with him? Could be that he feels you spend to much time with the little one. Just give my suggestion a try, it might help.
2006-12-12 10:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say but I don't think so...
We have a 6 month old son and we've had sex twice in over a year. Timing is just way too tough and the stress of changing our lives to include a new baby is the reason. We both talk about it openly and reassure eachother that we are still in love but we both agree that we are just too tired and distracted. Sometimes we get "warmed up" but then one or other says that we're just not in the mood. New baby certainly changes a lot.
Just make sure you have a lot of communication with your hubby and that will help.
2006-12-12 10:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, for some reason for some men when their wives have a baby they now see you as a mother (kind of reminding them of their mother) and not a woman. It doesn't happen all the time but in some cases it does. You will need to talk to him and try to make him understand that you are the mother of HIS child and not his mother and that you are still a woman with needs. You might want to let your mother or in laws keep the baby why you plan a romantic evening with lingerie, etc.
2006-12-12 18:14:46 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur english woman ur english, I can't make out anything, wait may be I could but I dont have the patience
2006-12-12 10:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by virgodoll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this Ebonics?
The man may be a fa g/g/o/t.
2006-12-12 10:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋