she has been with her husband 4 20 years she was abused and ill treated she tryed to have a devorse he wouldnt let her go he doesnt love her but still he wants to control her, she has 4 kids have no source to live from and she is 40 now...any idea how can she suport her children? or shall she die trying
2006-12-12 02:11:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she gotta find a job and a guy who can support her..
then file for divorce..hope her kids wont get affected by this!/ she gotta revolt in her house and make him understand the situation if he doesnt cooperate God blz the lady
2006-12-12 02:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by HereToAnswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to contact a shelter. They have fantastic shelters available to women in this situation. And, they arent shelters, like homeless shelters. They are battered womens houses. They are completely anonymous, and they are in our neighbourhoods, and on one knows where they are. So, he cant find her. They will help her with childcare, getting a job, bank accounts, clothing, furniture and everything else she could ever need. As well as all the legal stuff including protective orders. They will even help relocate you to another part of the country! She has to move, otherwise she is teaching her kids that it is OK to be beaten, or to beat a women. And, that is just not true! Reassure her that more people than what she realizes are victims. Some of the strongest and most put together women are victims! I was very surprised when I first found out about the statistics! But, there are support networks, and fantastic volunteers that can help. Make some calls for her, get her the information. She doesnt need to be scared. She is doing the very best for her kids, and that is more impotrant than doing the best for her husband!!
2006-12-12 10:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by thelaundryfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to leave and go to a women shelter were they can better advise her on what to do. At least there she will be safe and he will not be able to hurt her or even contact her. They will help her to get on her feet and get a divorce from him. If that is what she wants. If she can not get the information of the nearest women's shelter then you need to get it for her. Either way the sooner she gets away from him the better. They will help her find an attorney to get child support and maybe even alimony. I feel so badly for people that are being mistreated by there husbands and even wives. It is even harder at this time of year. All the best during this difficult time.
2006-12-12 10:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to contact the nearest shelter and ask them about getting a Protection from Abuse Order. This is a court action which will prevent him from contacting her in any way, evict him from the house and also has the ability to give her temporary custody of the children. She needs to get help and fast.
2006-12-12 10:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by elephantfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have battered women's shelters and half way homes for women in this situation. Contact the local hospital and ask them abou tit. Also, she should report his butt the next time he abuses her, as if she shouldn't have done that a MILLION times already.
Get the cops involved, take her to a battered woman's shelter and they both usually provide avenues for support and getting out on your own. Also, she needs to divorce him. She might also want to get a restraining order against the guy for herself and the kiddos.
2006-12-12 10:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to go to the nearest shelter. Also, she needs to contact the police and have a restraining order placed on him. The shelter should help her find resources to help support her children and find housing. She has to make the first step herself.
2006-12-12 10:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by mslaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god! this is hard! there are a lot of government agencies out there to help financially. as for him, you should put him in jail for domestic violence and that will give you time to get everything set up with that agency. in the mean time, you should pack up your things and relocate. if that isn't good, you should join a witness protection program. it would just be so much easier to poison him.
2006-12-12 10:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I regret to inform that I can't help in this situation, even though, I wish I could. Hope it all works out for the best for her and her children.
2006-12-12 10:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by I Might Even Be a Rock Star... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is in an abusive marriage, there are programs that she can get involved with that Can help her and her children, like YWCA, Abused Mothers, and other programs.
2006-12-12 10:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by By Your Command 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out, get a friend to help, or get the kids to send for help. they have to go to school right?
2006-12-12 10:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by lilkitty4eva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋