A friend and I are having a debate over whether or not strip clubs are considered cheating. I agree that the majority of people really don't like strip clubs, but I think its because men in a commited relationship shouldn't be looking at other women naked, which in essence is cheating, I need other opinions.
2006-12-12 02:07:35 · 30 answers · asked by Debi E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
absolutly not cheating at all.
2006-12-12 02:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by Shocker3:16 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
That's a tricky situation and everyone see's it differently.
Does the club allow the men to touch the dancers at all. Does it allow lap dances and such? It makes a difference. Some of the classier clubs don't allow any contact other then tipping. But other sleazier venues allow more to go on.
If the partner has a problem with it I'd recommend tagging along for a night. Check the club out and make a decision based on that. If the partner is secure in the relationship and she knows there's nothing going on at the club then why not?
However, if the partner is not comfortable with it then the man shouldn't go.
It's not "really" cheating per say but it does raise questions.
2006-12-12 02:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by mrspunkmeister2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's cheating at all. I don't see how it is. I think if he was going there all the time and by himself there is a problem. However, if he has a group of friends that goes there every once in awhile, it's no big deal. Some women don't like them doing it, others don't care and if you ask me, it's the insecure ones that care. If a wife does not want a man going to a strip club, then he should be respecting those wishes.
2006-12-12 02:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you have the right be upset. But maybe he didn't know it would hurt your feelings. I personally hate strip clubs/pornography and I think it's gross when guys participate (or just watch) in it. But you can't control everything he does and I think that giving him an ultimatum of when you would see him again was not a good choice. Explain to him why you didn't like him and if he's not willing to give it up, is it something you can live with or is a deal breaker? At least he told you honestly where he was, because the only thing worse (I think) than going to a strip club is lying about it to your significant other.
2016-05-23 08:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it depends. If it is done behind your back, and kept a big secret from you, it is (minor) cheating. If it is something that you have discussed, and he has expressed a desire to do so, but you have told him you'd rather he didn't...and he still does, then it is cheating. If it's out in the open that he does it, and the wife doesn't really care...not cheating at all. If a husband and wife go to a strip club together...well...that's just plain hot!
2006-12-12 03:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by Guvo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting or Cheating? Going to a strip club?
The good news for those of you who are anti-exotic dancer: Half of men think that visiting a strip club is cheating. The other half? Going to a strip club is like going to a sporting event-there's lots of entertainment, lots of excitement, and lots of interest in watching the most talented players in action. In the poll, many men said that they feel there's no harm in once-in-a-while visits since there's no emotional attachment and only temporary, artificial physical attraction. "Sometimes, to be blunt about it," one man responded in the poll, "it's just a bit of art appreciation, and it's nice to see another woman naked."
2006-12-12 02:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think everyone has different views on what cheating is. Each couple needs to draw a line where they believe cheating starts. If they both agree such activities are cheating he shouldn't be doing it. In my case, I really would not care if my husband went to a place like that because neither one of us consider it cheating.
2006-12-12 02:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by hokiegirlvt79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be respectful, but it is not cheating by going to a strip club.Everybody checks out the opposite sex once in a while, it's human nature. If you tell me you don't, I'd call you a liar. What if he asked you to join him, would you go? Not all clubs are sleazy, dirty places. Bottom line, if your partner doesn't like it if you go to clubs, then you shouldn't go. Be respectful .
2006-12-12 03:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by yooper guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my faith it would be considered a sin if a man looks upon a woman with lust in his heart.
I have a sister who was a dancer and she felt wrong doing it but the money was more tempting than the feeling of being an old guys lust image (she did finally stop dancing because of this reason) . I think if a husband is looking for someone else to rev his engine it would be a form of cheating but it could also mean the wife is not providing something but even then it doesn't mean the man needs to use strippers as an excuse for a laking marriage.
2006-12-12 02:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by Noka 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I only go out with the boys once in a while, my wife actually says she prefers me to go to strip clubs. 1. I am only looking not touching 2. I dont have the money for lapdances let alone enough to buy the little whores time or drinks nor do I have drugs to offer them. so I go have a few brews see some naked chicks and go home. My wife simply states " dont plan on getting horned up by them and me satisfying you. Verses real clubs or bars where loose women go to pick up guys. You need no money to pick up a loose drunk chick, they hit on you, and its all about cheating and sex.
anyway, thats just one opinion.
2006-12-12 02:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your husband is going to a strip club for a bachelor party once in a blue moon, I would say no, that isn’t cheating. On the other hand if he is going there alone or regularly with friends, then I would consider that cheating. I think you can look but not touch. Unfortunately in strip clubs there is a whole lot of touching going on.
2006-12-12 02:14:55 · answer #11 · answered by bluechick 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋