I am a workaholic, is it wrong to even want to return to work at 6 weeks? Does it really affect the child? What if I was able to bring my child to work? any advice or ideas are welcomed
2006-12-12 02:04:49 · 14 answers · asked by DONNA327 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It isn't wrong; however, you might regret it later. I went back to work a couple of weeks after I had my son (I clean houses), and found out soon that I wished I had waited a little longer because I felt like I didn't get to be with my son as much as I wanted to. I actually started hating work. It won't affect the child, though. Your baby will actually start getting used to the babysitter or daycare, and it helps them out with their social skills (how to get along with other kids or adults) later on.
2006-12-12 02:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by herefordsun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does affect the child.
It has been proven through various studies that the more time a mother spends with her child (especially an infant) the more emotionally secure, intelligent, healthy, confident, and happy your child will grow to be.
I don't mean this in a harsh way, but I have had to ask myself the same question. It all comes down to how selfish you are. And how selfish you are will really affect how happy your child is.
There is a balance between taking care of your personal needs and goals, but also providing enough time for your child so that they are not emotionally and psychologically neglected.
Ideally mothers should try to avoid frequent and prolonged separations from their baby. Babies have an intense need for the physical presence of a loving, responsive parent. Through daily care and loving interactions strong parent-child attachments are formed. Frequent or prolonged separations can interfere with the development of secure attachments.
Long separations can cause your baby to go through the stages of grief, and can affect his attachment to you. If separations are inevitable given your situation, then help your child to gradually work towards them.
Think long and hard about this - since you decided to have a baby, it's not just about you anymore.
Perhaps you should seek professional help, like a psychologist to help you with your workaholism. It can be as dangerous as alcoholism to your children as neglect creates severely debilitating life-long psychological problems.
All the best to you both!
2006-12-12 02:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by quay_grl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all about personal preference. If you are comfortable with it then go ahead and do it. I am guessing that you haven't already had the baby though...you may change your mind after it is born. With my daughter, I thought I would go back to work and ended up staying home until she was 2 years old! I worked for about 3 months then I got pregnant with my son and was home from then until he was almost one. Now, that was 10 years ago...but i am 36 weeks pregnant now with my third and I have been a stay home mom for over a year and plan to stay this way until my last one goes to school.
It is amazing how our lives change once we have children!
As far as it having an affect on the child....yes, it will. It is proven that children with at least one paretn home do recieve benefits from it...but there are tons of people out there who decide to go back to work...either by choice or for financial reasons.....and their kids turn out just fine! Just make the choice that is best for you!
2006-12-12 02:16:47 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not wrong. I went back to work 2 weeks after. Dad stays home with the baby. I miss him durring the day, but I love my job and enjoy being here. That would be awesome if you could bring the baby to work. I would say go right for it.
2006-12-12 02:07:54 · answer #4 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it. You might want to question why you are a workaholic, but that is probably none of my business. As for bringing the child to work that sounds more challenging. Does your workplace have daycare?
2006-12-12 02:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by braennvin2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are happy/healthy and have agreat bond with your baby, I dont see there being a problem with it... I actually think it would help if it is want you want to do. If you are stuck at home and really would rather not be, it could case you to fall into depressed mode... and being depressed due to being home every day SUCKS... I'm a stay-at-home-mom....I know! LoL If you and baby are both happy right now then I think it is a good idea, babies can sense stress so if it would cause less stress for you, then I assume it would be better for your new baby too. CONGRATS! :o)
2006-12-12 02:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by ღ♥ Katie ♥ღ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well.... when I had my first child... I HAD to return to work at 6 weeks.... because we could not afford for me to be home any longer. But wanting to return to work is not wrong. You need to do what is best for you and your whole family, and there is nothing wrong with that being you going back to work.
2006-12-12 02:08:02 · answer #7 · answered by KSmom24 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you had enough bonding time with baby? Do what is best for your emotional health. Happy mama = happy baby. Just make sure you still have plenty of time for baby. Maybe go back part time for starters.
2006-12-12 02:13:44 · answer #8 · answered by micg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to make sure you meet the child's needs as well as your own. Your new baby will be healthy and happy if YOU are healthy and happy. If working keeps you healthy and happy, I say go for it.
2006-12-12 02:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by not yet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
MANY women do the same thing.
As far as bringing the baby to work,talk to your boss about it.
2006-12-12 02:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋