Does it really heal?
2006-12-12 02:01:44 · 7 answers · asked by sandra b 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The idea is to get rid of the bitterness and anger one feels toward the other person because that is toxic inside, can cause illness, keeps someone from moving forward with their life, some people are obsessed with the wrong done and it invades every aspect of their life, and they can become depressed as well. It doesn't matter if the forgiven doesn't ask for forgiveness, it isn't about them; altho this happens too, where one person asks for forgiveness and the other complies and life goes on. Serious infractions to relationships or offences by strangers, tho, when forgiven should not be forgotten. There is a difference, important in relationships, that when you forgive, you do not forget what the person did; otherwise you may subject yourself to the wrongdoing again. One can forgive and never deal with that person who they forgave, ever again.
2006-12-12 02:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To forgive, you have to truly want to. If you just say you do, it won't help anyone. The saying "forgive and forget" is true also, but not literally. You almost can't erase something from your mind. But if you say you forgive, and still hold the fault against someone, it's not really forgiveness.
I guess when you forgive it heals.
For the forgiver: It is diffucult, and may feel like you're giving in to a bully, but it helps you-- you can move on to bigger and better things instead of always thinking about it.
For the forgiven: They could be healed by seeing you forgive them, and be more willing to forgive you.
2006-12-12 10:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by smartone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it heals, it is a two part process. first someone must extend their hand and ask for forgiveness, which is often difficult, but the toughest part is the other person, accepting forgiveness. if not approached correctly, it could damage the person's psyche, or destroy any chance of ever mending the rift between the two feuding people.
2006-12-12 10:21:41 · answer #3 · answered by Alex P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it heals.
One thing I have learnt is that you can't "make it work". By wanting to forgive, it is "given to you" when the time is right.
(Sometimes after there is new meaning in your life, from which you are able to approach it from a higher perspective.)
2006-12-12 10:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by charmme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to forgive yourself first before you can forgive another person. It can heal over time at least I believe that. Admitting it to yourself is key.
2006-12-12 10:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, I haven’t the slightest idea how forgiveness works.
I remember all the things that individuals have done that hurt me, upset me, angered me, et al, and although I don’t seek vengeance, I don’t forget and whenever possible, I don’t associate with the individual(s).
As far as it healing, I don’t know about that either.
‘They’ say prayer heals too.
I don’t know about that either.
I don’t know of any way that anyone can prove either.
2006-12-12 10:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It likely partially relieves you of the guilt and resentment factors.
Only time will complete the healing process.
2006-12-12 10:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by neutral 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋