A week before my husband deployed to Iraq He Decides to welcome his friend which had tryied to sleep with me. All that week I was ignored. I had asked him to spend some time with me and tell his friend to go away for a few hours but he said it was rude. Well we need to get power of attorney for me since he was going to be gone for a year. This was suppose to get done the Saturday before he left. Saturday came around and by 9am they were out the door..all he said was all be right back. They ended up coming back by 6pm. By that time I was furiouse and shortly after arriving we start arguing well he starts yelling at me and calls me a whore (because his other co-worker wanted to sleep with me)he gets his friend involved in our argument and lets his friend call me a whore. I slapped him and he kicks me out of my own home. I call a friend to come and get me and my stuff and l leave. He left but we didn't resolve anything..am really hurt over this and I wonder if I should stay with him?
2006-12-12 01:48:42 · 14 answers · asked by LuLu 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry to say that sound like his friends are way more important than you. You have to chose to stay and be second forever or leave and do your own thing. Another thing to think about is fighting like that and him choosing anything over his wife will probly turn into abuse. It could be mental or physical, but I personaly have seen when men get in arguments like that and do crazy things while there mad will continue to see how far you will let him push you. A man should never kick his wife out of the house, if he doesnt want to be around you at the moment he should leave.
You said he called you a whore! Can you imagine what hes going to be saying while he is thousands of miles away. If you mail one letter a day to late or dont answer the phone one time, I bet you get a nasty message from him. Do you want to live like that?
I only believe in divorce for a few reasons and abuse is one of them. I would try everything in the world before you leave(ie. counceling, candle lit dinners). If things get worse, dont risk it, leave!!
Something else i want you to know; Ive been in that crapy relationship before and put up with it for years. I left him and found the most amazing relationship with God in our lives and happiness everyday. Of course we fight, but hes never called me a whore!! There are men out there who want to spoil you with random phone calls to tell your you are the best thing that has ever happen to them and stupid little suprises left around the house( roses, candy, notes). its out there i promise. And I dont know the whole story so mabie your mans it and he just needs a little help. But its hard to teach an old dog new tricks. good luck
2006-12-12 02:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by TEXAS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a military wife as well and let me tell you once he gets over there things are just going to get worse than what they already are. Now I'm not saying that everyone who goes ever gets divorced but since the ground work has already been laid I see a divorce in your near future. As for getting a power of attorney you can still get one it's just a matter of him signing a form and mailing it to you. Good Luck with what ever you decided to do but I would also get some counseling as well before you make any decisions!
2006-12-12 01:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by HARWOODH 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1) Did you tell your husband (initially) that he tried to get you into bed? 2) By what you state, there are more problems to your marriage than just what you describe 3) There is NO excuse to lose respect and to hit (once that starts, chances are things will get worse).
Now that he is gone and left you in "limbo" you need to decide if you want to stay in this marriage. From what you state, it seems your husband does not love you anymore.
2006-12-12 01:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by nowhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go...You didn't say if the someone was married or what the circumstance was. If he/she is married you are just letting yourself in for heartache. Come right out and tell this person you are getting mixed signals and need your questions answered. But remember people who cheat also will mislead the one they are cheating with so beware.
2016-05-23 08:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go for good. No woman should be treated that way and especially when he chooses his friend over your needs, and knowing he will be gone in Iraq and who knows when you will see each other next, he didn't seem to give a damn on that either! Best of luck!
2006-12-12 01:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by silversurferlady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinoin..you should leave. Any man that treats you like that is not worth sticking around. I stayed with a man like that for 10 years and got nothing but unpaid bills, heart ache and pain. He was very verbally abusive and physically harmed me many times. I stayed thinking I could change him..but realized no one can change anyone..you can only change yourself. Save your sanity and leave him before it gets worse! I give you my best and hope things work out for you..
2006-12-12 01:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by beemer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hes treated you really badly, he was obviously more interested in having fun with his friends than spending any time with you, especially considering as he's going to be gone for a year. hes not worth it, dont spend the next year waiting for him to come home and treat you like dirt again, move on with your life...
2006-12-12 01:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by Caz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hunnt obvoiusly his friend was more important to him hen his own wife.....i ould send him a letter cuz you can do that and i would tell him how you feel.....and if he acts like a dick then he obviously dont want it to work and if he wanted it to work in the first place he wouldnt of said those tings to you in front of his friend and he wouldnt of let his friend say those tings to you either
2006-12-12 01:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by xxrlhoodratxx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON. this guy is a jerk!! this pisses me off just to read it. he should be hurt really badly. The worst possible thing for you to do is to go back to him.
2006-12-12 01:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him and go on with your life
2006-12-12 01:56:27 · answer #10 · answered by looken4answers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋