Poop And Pee Everywhere! I'm Losing My Mind!!!!!?

Question

I'm 9 mos pregnant- the reason I posted this in pregnancy is because I am hoping some of you are also pregnant and I won't seem so crazy to you... LoL
My husband has a 9 MO Jack Russell Terrier and we have an 8 WO kitten... My husband did no research whatsoever on JRTs before getting the damn dog so now while he is at work all day, I'm stuck dealing with this obnoxious little fooker who gets nervous easily and cant hold is pee or poop overnight so every morning I wake up to his poop and pee in the hallway. My husband says he is "part of the family" so we can't keep him in a cage because we wouldn't do that with our daughter (I think his way of looking at it SUCKS). I have enough stress trying to get this stupid little cat litter trained without getting whatever disease or infection can come along during pregnancy due to cat poop. He also refuses to fix the dog so he'll calm down more because he doesn't want to "take away his balls". So the dogs "man" pride means more? WTF? HELP ME!

Our son will be here in 2 and a half weeks and I dont want him or our daughter in an environment with nasty little animals who poop and pee where and when they please... Please dont suggest dog training (unless you already have), my husband doesn't want to "waste the money" and is in the Air Force so definitely doesn't have time to do it himself and I REFUSE to unless the dog gets fixed... I also can't stand his freakin red rocket that he is constantly running around with... this dog is gross and obnoxious!! How can I make hard headed hubby realize I'm getting to the point where it's either me or the damn dog without starting a huge fight?? He is attached to the damn dog like a child... but I'm losing my freakin mind here!

My anger is not really towards the animals because I understand it is my husband's fault for not taking care of it the way he should be but who else can I take my anger out on when my husband is so damn hard headed and doesn't want to comprimise?! I've tried being nice to them and encouraging them but there is only so much I will put into a dog that I didn't even want especially when my life revolves around taking care of my daughter and husband as a housewife/mother and I barely have enough time for myself. The dog, to me, is not worth the stress or nasty smelling house. Not to mention... we live in base housing! Not a good place to let animals do whatever they please.

I agree that the cat needs to go... The dog I don't mind keepng or helping take care of/potty train IF my husband was doing something about it like putting him in a cage at night, fixing him or training him. I dont want to clean up after this dog every day feeling like I'm going to be doing it for the rest of my life. But when I threaten to get rid of the dog is hubby doesn't help, it just casues major issues with us. I dont think he understands how much this is bothering me.

And to be completely honest... I actually feel bad for the dog. When he does make a mess and I complain about it too much, my husband will kick him and throw him outside. I'm not asking him to abuse the dog, I'm asking him to take care of it. The dog doesn't have his own "area"...just does whatever he pleases and is always nervous and seems like he is scared to death of his own owners... I actually feel bad for the thing but my anger is targeted toward him to prevent marital issues.

To the person who said leave it there for him to clean... HA! I have tried that...my husband is 22 years old...he will NOT clean it up until he is ready and that could be the day after the dog makes the mess which leaves stains and smells! :o( But it was a good idea... my hubby is just too hard headed and, well, gross...

After seeing a lot of your answers, I ordered a dog crate and since it's already been ordered and paid for, my hubby will have to just deal with it. The dog needs rules and stability, not only for our family's good, but for his own good and happiness. I think giving him his own area to lay and have his toys will actually make him a happier dog once he gets used to it. He won't be pushed off the couch or our bed...he will have his own spot to lay that belongs to him. Hopefully my husband will understand and get over it because thats the way it is going to be! LoL Thanks for your answers! And just so I don't sound like Cruella- I do care about and love the dog (Who's name is Buddy, by the way), I'm just not the type of person who can keep their frustration bottled up for long so to keep from causing problems in my marriage (which is important to keep it healthy right now with a new baby and the hard work coming), I geared my anger at Buddy which isn't right but my hormones are crazy! LoL

Answer 1

getrid of the cat and dog NOW
you do not need untrained animals near newborns!

Answer 2

Okay, I SOOOOOOOOO understand your frustration. First, CALM down! What you need to do, since your husband refuses to act like an adult about the situation is, at night, put the dog in your bathroom, or mudroom. This will keep the dog on floors that won't RUIN your house. Second, and I'm assuming that you are a SAHM, just start putting the dog outside every HALF AN HOUR, during the day. Your dog is really still a baby, and UNLESS it is cage trained, the process for potty training is SLOW. But, the dog will get it. I would also suggest, that even though you seem to not really like the dog, act like you do. Dogs are VERY smart and they pick up on people that don't like them. The more love he feels from you the better the situation will be. But, like children, it all takes time and patience.

Our dog is very much a part of our family and is treated as our child. She KNOWS how much we love her, and it shows.

Answer 3

We've had my husband's dog a year now. She still uses my house as a litter box. She has a cage and we use it. At night she gets locked in. She won't go in her cage. We take her out right before bed and first thing in the morning. She still can go outside and pee and turn around 10 minutes later and do it in the house. So when she does it, I lock her up for awhile. I also have to take her pee every 2 hours. The other option was to baby gate her into the kitchen, but she chewed through my baby gate.... So now her butt stays in the cage when she's in nasty my floor mode. My husband isn't thrilled, but like you, I hate the nasty mess! Might want to get dog diapers. That is another option. My husband hates the idea, but I just got a new, expensive area rug. I refuse to have my house ruined by a dog!!

Answer 4

Tell your husband that you have enough to deal with being pregnant and he can take care of the animals,These animals are NOT the family. The family that should matter to him is you and the little one who will be coming into the world soon. Tell him he has a few options. One: get rid of the animals.Two: clean the messes himself. Under no circumstances should you be cleaning the cat box as that can cause harm to the baby inside you. Another thing is try to take the dog to the vet and find out if he has a problem with bladder etc. Could be he needs treatment. Good luck and DO NOT clean the cat box!

Answer 5

Bless her heart. And bless you for taking her. This is a problem that happens with a lot of puppy mill dogs, as well. They don't understand that pooping and peeing happens in a different place than everywhere else, because they are using the potty in the same place they eat, sleep, and play. I don't truly believe this is something you'll be able to combat on your own. You should seek the help of a qualified trainer or behaviorist who is familiar with these situations, and can give you the proper tools to help combat her fear. One thing you can do now though is make outside a good place. Toys, play with her, give her treats...bulldogs are very food-motivated. She can sense that when you take her out you are feeling frustrated and exasperated, and it will only intensify her nervousness. She is going to need a lot of love and care. She will definitely benefit from a trainer though. Good luck!

Answer 6

Just so you know with Jack Russells it never gets any easier lol. Even if you have him fixed that will only calm him down a little but not much. In my experience ( had two JR'S at the same time) the only thing that will eventually calm them down is old age and I promise you that is not a joke. Even though they are very smart dogs, they are also very lazy dogs. I put my dogs in on of those hard plastic crates every night and let them out every morning. Even though they carried on like something terrible for the first hundred nights it seemed like, eventual they got tired of pooping on themselves and having to sleep in it ( which is the downfall of the crates because you have to spray the dang thing out everyday which is so gross) that they finally learned to hold their movements until morning, which was indeed a blessing when the stupid things started going outside. Anyway hopefully things will start to work out for you and if not you can always tell hubby you let him out to go to the bathroom and he ran away lol :) Good luck

Answer 7

First let me say you have my utemost sympathies honey. Housebreaking any animal is a long and messy process as you already know.lol. I have a few tips for the dog training. Try taking it out at regular intervals say every 1hr or hour and half. This may sound like more work not less. But eventually the little bugger will get the idea OUTDOORS is where to do his business. Also limit how much you give him to eat in the evening. Hey if there isn't anything to poo or pee clean floor in the morning. I'll keep you in my thoughts mam.

Answer 8

I TOTALLY understand how you feel. I'm 5 months pregnant, (just starting to show!..very excited) and before I got pregnant, my job was handling the cat's litterbox. Well, I've already had two kids, and have been told many times about the dangers of e.coli in cat/dog poop. But we didn't have a cat then. We got him a year ago. When I got pregnant with this one, NO WAY was I going to handle the poop. So, at first, I tried leaving it there. My husband couldn't care less. It was awful. I had just learned I was pregnant, and not taking any precautions, but it began to STINK. My 12 year old had to clean it up when it smelled. Finally, one night, when she was cleaning the litter, I grabbed my husband off the couch, and showed him what he was making her do. Now, he cleans the litter. My advice to you: show your husband what you have to do, espically with that belly! By the way, I LOVE the belly! I think it's so sexy!

Answer 9

Kenneling a dog works great and they actually learn to enjoy the security of it. The dog will probably get worse unless he is fixed or your husband is willing to get up during the night to let the dog out. He is almost old enough to be able to not go to the bathroom all night. Be patient and make your husband take some responsibility- very soon you will be up to your ears in baby poop and pee!

Answer 10

i was just pregnant a few months ago, so i'll say this first....
the pregnancy feelings are still fresh with me, so i can relate....
having that baby will be the most amazing experience in your life and that little baby will immediately become the most important thing to you and your husband (he just doesn't know it yet:).

that being said....
--GET RID OF THE DOG AND CAT.
i would pack them up and take them to the shelter. here's the thing. they are still young so they are hyper and untrained, which is the LAST thing you need around a baby OR when you are so very pregnant.

what is your husband's plan for them when you go into labor and he is with you at the hospital for 2 days??

he will eventually forgive you for taking away his pets b/c you will have the baby and maybe he will get a new perspective on things.

besides, if he was taking care of them, then he could talk, but this is your life too and you should have a say in the matter.

since you are the one taking care of the little buggers, then you should decide on what to do! to the shelter they go!!!

take care!

Answer 11

First of all, you shouldn't be handling cat feces while pregnant. Your husband is, to put it politely, completely crass and I would question his affection for you. The cat needs to leave the home -- you won't have time once the baby is here!!

Second of all, tell him if he can't handle the dog, you're taking it to the pound. Then mean it. You have a baby to handle and won't have the ability once the baby is here.

Third of all, he cares about the dog more than you and his child. This means when the dog hurts the baby the first time, he will act like it wasn't anything. When the dog realizes it's okay to hurt/kill the baby if you do nothing, then you won't have to worry about the baby any more -- you'll have to worry about the police and social services coming by about child neglect and abuse.

Pets should never be brought in during pregnancy, despite your desire to take care of these fur-wearing "babies".