My husband is a workaholic but I always thought if we needed him he would be there for us. My daughter was raped by 5 men and ended up pregnant. When this happened he had just left for an one month business trip overseas. When I contacted him he said he was not coming home and had talked with the police who said there was no rush as they will still hunting down the 5 guys who were on the run and knew where I lived with my 4 children and no husband at home. I would also like to say I am an American woman living in Japan. What do you think of a husband and father like that. Sure would like to hear your opinions. We are now going through a divorce.
2006-12-12 01:47:47 · 9 answers · asked by lefty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
p.I feel sorry for what you went through with your daughter, that is the worst humiliation anyone has to endure, and worse for your daughter. I know that some men, not all, are not supportive when it comes to their families,How could he ignore your plea,when the authority figure which is the father should have been there in an instant when it concerns his daughter,what kind of human being is he, when you are in a foreign country miles from your hometown. I am glad you filed for divorce because if he wasn't there in this catastrophe, he won't ever be there for you, or his family. I will have you and your family in my prayers and ask God to help your daughter cope with this tragic and horrific situation,
2006-12-12 02:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband would drop everything and come home to comfort my daughter and myself. It would upset him to no end, and he would probably want to hunt down the guys himself, but he would not leave us to deal with something like this on our own. I am sorry yours has left you dealing with this. For whatever reason, which wouldn't be good enough, he doesn't feel like there is much he can do at home. He isn't taking into consideration how this has left your daughter feeling. I will pray for your family during this time, and I sincerely hope things get better for you and your family.
2006-12-12 01:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, I am glad to hear that you are in the middle of a divorce. I would never leave my family hanging in a case like that. YEs, there wasn't much he could do for your daughter as far as catching the 5 guys but he needed to be there for her mental health. Something like this is terrible and he didn't help. She needed him then more than ever and he abandoned you guys for his job. Sorry to hear that.
2006-12-12 01:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was ok. Some people look at things logically, some emotionally. If he spoke to your daughter she may have said "I understand daddy if u cant come, I know you are providing for me the best way you can. I'll try and stay strong through this" on the other hand it seems like you are the one agitating here. Now with NO father are you sure you are looking after your kids properly?
2006-12-12 01:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by b-overit 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is a little boy. When you have cancer, he will leave you just like Newt Gingrich left his wife. Hoepfully he will go to Europe and never come back. I would move on more easily had my husband moved out of town. I am praying that he goes away for good. You can miserable alone. You don't need his help.
2006-12-12 01:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have climbed the highest mountain and swam a shark infested sea to get home to you and his family. His daughter will never forget his NON efforts to be with her in this trying time. She will need some professional help obviously to get through her horrible attack. But also to get through the hurt of being abandoned by her dad when she really needed him. I am glad you are divorcing even though it will not be easy on any of you. I am sad to hear of your lifes storm. I will keep you in my prayers. Together You and your family will get through it . Without HIM..............
2006-12-12 02:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's a prick. Bury him in court and take him for all he's worth!!! I'm a father of 6, three of my own, and three step kids. If anything like that happened to the one daughter we have out of 6 kids, I would FREAK!!!! I would find them before the cops did that's for sure!!! I would drop everything for that little girl!!!! And she's not even mine ya know??? Yeah, screw your soon to be X. Have fun with his butt in court. He deserves to have nothing with that kind of attitude.
2006-12-12 01:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were my daughter, I would tell you to be ready to go into bankruptcy as I spend almost every waking moment hunting them down and torturing them one by one.
2006-12-12 01:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope you and daughter are doing better now. it does not matter what i think about his actions or inactions. you are going through a divorce and you should be looking ahead, not back.
2006-12-12 01:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋