my husband work offshore.our marriage is great but my in laws are bothering me.they keep on calling me to check what i'm doing.u see,i'm not the kind of person who flirt with other guys or do things which will destroy my marriage and my husband trust me.this is stressing me up..help me.what should i do.
2006-12-12 01:46:09 · 7 answers · asked by polaris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have gone through this over and over again, with my own in-laws too.
and i had enough if it so i told them to stay out of me and my husbands business and let us solve our own problems, so we as a married couple can learn the ropes our selves.
it works very well.
2006-12-12 01:52:16 · answer #1 · answered by DENISE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you tell that their calls are to keep track of your activities, and not due to a genuine desire to see if you have any problems when your husband is away for long periods?
If you are sure they are spying on you, then you can tell them politely, over a period of time, that you have married their son knowing fully well that he would be away for long periods and that you love him a lot?
If you are in regular touch with your husband over phone/e mails, gently put it across to him that his parents have called you so many times last week or so. He would get the hint and you can start a discussion with him on the topic - he surely can tell his parents that he has complete trust in your fidelity towards him.
This situation needs to be tackled patiently.
2006-12-12 09:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in-laws are just checking that you are okay which is a nice thing for them to do. Chances are if they totally ignored you and didn't ring to check that you were okay, you'd probably think that they didn't like you.
Maybe they shouldn't call you as often but its a nice gesture on their part. I don't think that they are doing it to check up on you, they are just doing it to make sure that you are okay and you aren't missing your husband/ their son too much
2006-12-12 09:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe their not busybodies, maybe they feel you are lonely and need the company or just have the urge to know that you are ok, and can count on them if you need them.
Give them a break- one day you'll be in that position.
2006-12-12 09:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't' answer the phone to them when they call....
it has sometimes taken my in-laws 6 months or longer to get in contact with us, ever since the wonderful technology of caller ID...:P LOL
2006-12-12 10:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to but out. Or change your phone number....or get an answering machine.
2006-12-12 09:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by C S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be patient...one day they'll realize that you're not as bad as they think
2006-12-12 09:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by 'popcornz' 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋