2006-12-12 01:44:12 · 11 answers · asked by DidoDeeDee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best way to give your child self-esteem is to provide them with a stable marriage. Make yourself #1, your marriage #2, and then your children. Easier said then done though.
Make time for yourself, make time for your husband. I try to do a girl's night or go shopping by myself once a week. My husband and I try to create some time for us to have a conversation that doesn't involve children once a day. We try to go on dates once a month. A unified marriage and harmonious life together is the best way to make sure your child has stability.
Same with blended families.
2006-12-12 01:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by avalonlee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There has to be balance as the children need at least one parent until they're adults. If a person can't take care of themselves they can't take care of a child. The most important thing is to bring a child to adulthood, and that job doesn't end at birth. Sure it's good to have two parents, but not absolutely necessary, therefore the children should be number one in the eyes of either parent, while making sure you both are healthy enough to get them there. Once the children leave the nest you'll have more time for yourselves. Marriages often end in divorce, but the mother is always a mother, and the father is always a father.
2006-12-12 01:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by thellord_thighgod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question because people are always quick to say that our kids come first. But according to the word of God, the Divine Order is 1)God 2)Marriage 3)Family 4)Church 5)Government. So it's pretty clear that we are supposed to put our spouses before our children and family. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." -Matthew 19:6 Very powerful verse!!!!
2006-12-12 05:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just my opinion. My children will ALWAYS come first. I have a marriage and I love my husband if I had to chose my kids or my marriage I'd chose my kids without second thought. I also have a step child and when I married her dad I accepted her as one of mine she is treated no different aside from the fact when she pulls her "your not my mom" bit and I tell her if she wants to go live with her mom I'll help her pack her bags. Because even though I am not her biological mom I am taking care of her when she's here she has the same rules as the other kids and is treated no different
2006-12-12 01:51:08 · answer #4 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage should always be considered a top priority....and the love that made those children should be cherished...children however should not be ignored...their needs DO come first...
blended families get stickier...in that aspect....sometimes marriage does come first...if that marriage is going to work...
2006-12-12 02:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by bella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your spouse has some unresolved emotions about her courting with this guy. for sure, she became nonetheless in touch with him at the same time as he became killed, so this is not any longer like the courting ever ended for her--in a experience, this is more desirable like she's a widow. although she became no longer allowed to greive as such, because she became the different lady. by using attempting to contain his children with their 0.5 brother, i imagine she is making an attempt to keep the courting alive. I even ought to imagine that it is very painful to the genuine widow of the daddy of your stepson. i'd inspire your spouse to get some grief counseling to take care of this loss. What she is doing will be a convenience to her, although this is not unavoidably in the finest activity of the surviving kin of her former lover.
2016-10-18 04:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by dmitriev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You teach your children how to take care of themselves by your own example of how well you take care of you.
So ask yourself if your marriage is worth more to you than your own well being.
2006-12-12 01:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well blended families.......are tough anyhow......since each group of kids.......have a normal jealousy that their parent......will not pay attention to them.I think that the families come first.......but you also make time for you and your spouse......one day when ALL the kids are gone.......its just you and them anyhow.
2006-12-12 01:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by purefire41 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your children come first. i always knew this but today i really realized it from one of my own questions.
2006-12-12 01:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by pixie_kisses@verizon.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
after you have children they come first they are your future don't let them down take care of them first everything else comes second even you
2006-12-12 01:46:57 · answer #10 · answered by john 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋