My husband looks (or trys) to look at womens webcams on the net and in the past he has looked at them and done some pretty hard core things with these other women. I hate it that he does this and when he is caught he is of course very sorry and won't ever do it again, but it always happens again. Other than this addiction to the internet he is a wonderful husband and a great father. I still hate it that he shows women things they shouldn't see and sees things on other women. What should I do? Is this cheating?
2006-12-12 01:40:17 · 25 answers · asked by Kat 742 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes it is as well as an bad addiction.I would block any adult content on your computer or just get rid of it.When someone goes to that length to get off then after a while that could bore them n they might even try something else cuz that is no longer exciting them.Ask him to get some counseling with you to help mediate.Men seem to think that as long as they r not touching the other that it's not cheating.To do anything or show your body is a private thing and should only be shared with your mate and know one else.Well good luck n i hope i could be a bit of a help.
2006-12-12 01:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don`t distress to much, its almost common place for men to be curious about other women fantasies are more prevalent in men then women.A man thinks about sex every 20 minutes women ever hour so there's a difference right there. This doesn't mean women are less sexy then men, but remember in the wild males seek out females.
To answer your question: ask your husband to include you in his voyeurism, this will make you part of his fantasies and ask him what he likes tell him your fantasies Guaranteed when he sees what he has in the flesh things will change
2006-12-12 10:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by tonyflorida2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't consider it "Cheating" per se. For me, "Cheating" or infidelity, is sharing something initmate -- even conversation, with someone other than your significant other. I would suspect that your husband is looking for something a little more exciting -- probably never intended to be hurtful to you in any way, shape or form. I know that for me, if and when I look, it's to see something someone else is doing that I would NEVER ask my wife to do -- knowing that she wouldn't even if I asked , or she would but wouldn't enjoy it.
I have to admit, I'm a little concerned that he's "showing" things to other women. No defending him on that one. If he truly loves you, he will find some other alternative to get his "fix." But not harming you should be his number one concern.
I'm not big on getting conselling, but if it would help, maybe the two of you should try finding someone you can both confide in that will mediate and help you to each come to an understanding. Best of luck!
2006-12-12 09:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by Doc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The e-mail exchange per se isn't a cheat (depending on exactly what's exchanged, of course). But, for many people, any contact beyond a few truly platonic and innocent "just catching up" messages is a relationship-killer-not because of the act itself, but because of the potential act that may follow.
2006-12-12 10:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it all depends. Normally, I would say your husband is just having fun with an interactive playboy mag, but, if he is actually making plans to MEET any of these women, there might be a problem. You also must remember that you could be on a slippery slope. If he is showing his penis to women today because it is fun and exciting, what happens when that excitement wears off?
2006-12-12 09:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
if i was you i would do it myself or roll play with him there is an excitement he is missing in the relation figure it out do something new, and yes it is a way of cheating next step is to meet this women and do things but if i was you i would join him at the webcam
2006-12-12 09:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course this is cheating. You need to come straight with him. Tell him how it makes you feel. If he can't stop it them move the computer to a place where he can't have privacy. If this doesn't stop him then let him know it will affect and possibly ruin your marriage. He may be addicted to it and he needs some professional help. Good luck.
2006-12-12 09:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Do a self analysis as to your role and act in your sex life with your hus. Compare it with the ones your husband's viewing interest and try to be a little more involved in the activities.Always remember the Indian saying that a "wife has to be like a prostitute in the bed" and do your role well. Definitely its not cheating!!!
2006-12-12 09:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Of course it is. You need to tell him to stop doing it as you don't like it. It doesn't matter that he is a good father and wonderful husband he is totally dis-respecting you. I need to cut the wires on his web cam so he can't do this sort of thing.
He says that he is sorry but he can't be that sorry considering that he keeps doing it. Sit him down and tell him that you don't like it and you don't want it to happen again, because it is NOT fair on you or the children
2006-12-12 09:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Of course this is cheating, what did you think it was? a sport? no. Dump him cos he has gone too far and unfortunately he has done it more than twice and if he is serious about stopping he could go to a psychiartrist or he could be castrated. Bloody men and stupid women putting up with mens nasty disrespect. You are better than this.
2006-12-12 09:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by Change is gonna come 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋