Here's my situation. I was dating a woman a few weeks ago. We hung out several times over a month or so and everything was going well. She stopped talking to me after I made a couple of dumb, insecure comments to her. I connected with her probably better than anyone I've ever dated and I made those comments (about her possibly being a player) because I liked her a lot and was afraid of getting burned. I really miss talking to her. How do I maintain or gain friendship with her now that she has not communicated with me for the last 4 weeks? I feel that she would be a GREAT friend even if we never date again. Is it possible to gain her as a friend in this type of situation? Should I just wait a while and then try to contact her again?
2006-12-12 01:13:08 · 9 answers · asked by mu 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Take action! You know her; think about her objectively, then send her something you know she would adore. Also, you have to understand that your goal is NOT friendship; your goal is romance and you require security, just as she does. Make that clear! And do NOT let her money, power or social standing deter you. We're all just dust in the wind, anyway. You need to make her understand that you have learned your lesson. If that doesn't work, then trust me, it was an accident waiting to happen.
2006-12-12 01:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by Lightbringer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing..she obviously was into you in one way or another if she had continued to hang out with you!! That's a good thing for you...but your comments have pushed her away. Think about it like this...she was more than likely feeling the same way about you that you were for her...and probably just as scared and anxious as you. The best thing for you is to be honest with her. Maybe write a letter...it's personal and she won't feel as though she is pressured to give you an answer at that moment...(sometimes in talking in person about these things makes people feel as though they have to answer a certain way). She will have time to absorb your appology and think about whether she is ready for a friendship or more...the ball is in her court...it's her decision. You sound like a nice person...and I'm sure that she knows that...good luck...I hope that everything works out for you.
2006-12-12 01:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by KristinDouglas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 05:20:34 · answer #3 · answered by sashi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her casually as if in passing and then give her a hint that you'd like to catch up on things with her personally. Try to sound like the most sweetest guy on earth before you pour your heart out about what you really feel... that could scare her off. Save that on your date.
If she's not interested to meet you, give her more time before calling her again.
2006-12-12 01:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by TOTALLY CONFUSED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the reason you said those things, and then offer a sincere apology. You sound prety sincere! She'll sense you're speaking truth and want you back. Harsh words can never be taken back, but they can be patched over. Oh, and if you'd like her as more than a friend, say it! Tell her that you want her, just maybe not in those words! :)
2006-12-12 01:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by Sillycat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her just everything you wrote, you are being authentic is the best way to be in this situation. If I was that women, and you told me all this, I would change my mind about you regardless of what I had decided. Go for it. Good luck!
2006-12-12 01:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by Михайловна 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her that you are sorry if you said anything to offend her and that you said stupid things that werent true and you didnt mean to do anything that would upset or hurt her feelings. Tell her that you dont want to lose such an awesome friend and person and still want to talk and hang out with her whenever.
2006-12-12 01:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone and give it some time. She'll let you know if she still wants to be friends.
2006-12-12 01:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by ropemancometh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a shot. you never know what could be if you dont give it a try.
2006-12-12 01:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by you know who 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋