what happens after 5 years, when the spark has fizzled out, and there are no fireworks every time u look at each other? If marriage is not in the near future, then will the relationship die of boredom and end up splitting up? Will appreciate your experiences, thanks :)
2006-12-12 01:11:38 · 7 answers · asked by harnicle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you are asking if a relationship of five yrs,will eventually end up in marriage, when you feel like there is no spark between you and your boyfriend when there is eye contact between you two. You also think that your relationship will end of boredom ,and you both will go your separate ways. To my knowledge of an experience my son passed through I can tell you that he and his then girlfriend of 8, yrs. eventually dissolved because he had met another girl, that became pregnant with his baby. he left his then girlfriend at the church altar, which to us his parents was a shock to endure. Did he really love his girlfriend? we think not, because their relationship, had become monotonous. We still care about his then girlfriend but, we do not meddle with our children's lives, it is up to them how they are going to live their lives. so, my advice to you is examine very well your thoughts about your relationship, and decide if you want to continue being your boyfriend's girlfriend. Do not make a mistake you will regret for the rest of your life. I forgot to add that my son has been married to his wife for 16, yrs. and they have four girls. Did he do the right thing when he hurt the feelings of his then girlfriend, We, his family do not think so. But, who are we to judge?
2006-12-12 01:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok no in my opinion a couple should be together for @ east 5 years before marriage. i have been with my bf for 3 years and i dont plan on marrying him for another couple years. because seriously you never know, people change and the longer you stay with them without going to the big level then the easier it will be if anything does happen. i mean no divorce and splitting everyting up, and if your smart and dont have kids till marriage that also makes it easier when u split! it really bugs me when people date for 6 months and think they REALLY know everything about that person and then one day turns out they wwere wrong and that person went psycho. besides in most states there is a common marriage law, i believe in most states it is 5 years, but some are more. so check that and according to the state you 2 may already be married. and about hte sparks and fireworks, there gonna die anyway, mine lasted for about 2 1/2 years then we moved in together and i mean i love it but they die real fast seeing each other everyday all day, lol. hope this kinda helps you out :)
2006-12-12 09:18:02 · answer #2 · answered by ~*cRaCkNeSs*~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Five years is about two years longer than most women would wait. If you would have had the benefit of marriage, you two would have worked really hard to keep things going and stay together happily. When you are just dating so long, and probably living together, things just get taken for granted.
2006-12-12 09:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. He's probably bored of you because if he's not married to you, there is nothing to work at. Anybody can be in a relationship without real commitment.
2006-12-12 09:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that marriage will bring back the sparks? C'mon,
2006-12-12 09:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by Nile Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you keep wasting your time in the wrong relationship, the right one will pass you by.
2006-12-12 09:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there were fireworks every time u looked at each other, you'd probably go blind...
2006-12-12 09:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by McJables 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋