Specifically, at the cost of my relationship, being validated by girls finding me attractive.
2006-12-12 00:34:20 · 4 answers · asked by SgtMessiter 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, of course I don't know why YOU feel that need... I can only say it is a need frequently linked to something like low self-esteem or to being very self-critical. We all need validation. The problem starts when we need a whole lot of it because we can't give it to ourselves. I guess to know why you feel that need you may like to find out whether you invalidate yourself, and if so, you may like to find out why? It can be due to not receiving the love you should have received at some point in your childhood... Healing those old wounds can help you feel whole again, and when you feel whole, you love yourself and know you're wonderful. People will still tell you, but you don't need them to.
Good luck!
2006-12-12 00:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by charmme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get stuff out of people is to adulate them so what does that tell you? that everybody does, to an extent. The difference is that most people do not even know it while you do. Basically I'd say you are living in a place where there are many people who bottle their emotions/feelings and you feel left out because you are aware of your own feelings while they don't.
Be careful as many will try and make you feel like you are weird for even posing such a question.
2006-12-12 08:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by b94897p8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person that can answer that is you. Might I suggest that you write down how it makes you feel to know that other women find you attractive? How it makes you feel when you are in a relationship. You might want to speak to a professional about it as well. If you love the person you are with and don't want to loose them you'd better get to work on it. Good luck.
2006-12-12 08:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you were not nurtured enough when you were young. You weren't complimented enough, appreciated enough or given enough positive attention. Now, you need others (girls) to give you that. If you have a good relationship that you don't want to lose, learn to be flattered by girls attention, but do not respond to it. On the other hand, if you are young and just dating, go for it, bask in the attention and enjoy the admiration. You're only young once.
2006-12-12 08:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋