I have a big confession. I started dating my best friends ex cos she two timed him and now cos i am going out wit him she says i aint ever gonna get away with it and now she wants a fight. All me and my bf want to do is get on with life and hope that one day she will forgive us and understand our feelings for one and other. But she is trying to get both of us in trouble as she started sending me hate mail and stuff and so i replied and now she is getting the school and the cops involved! I need some serious advice here so please help!
2006-12-12 00:20:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Also she is getting my other two friends involved aswell but they didnt do anything. Oh and its not him she hates! Its me! I need advice plz i am begging you as i am worried slightly. More about the police end than hers!
2006-12-12 00:23:01 · update #1
There is a little problem. She sent the messages through yahoo mail and i can't get em back! I didnt realise that i would need them till now.
2006-12-12 00:32:38 · update #2
All I can say is I hope you didn't respond in a nasty way and my advice is to keep all correspondence....texts, emails etc just to keep your side of the story too!
She's just hurt that she's lost what she can't get back through her own stupidity!
She'll get over it!
2006-12-12 00:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by pinead101 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he was her ex when you started seeing him? Maybe he thought he was ex but she thought he wasn't hence why she's being so nasty. Also are you sure that she two-timed him or is that what he's telling you? You need to tread carefully here as you are perhaps looking at it from your boyfriend's side and you need to ask yourself is this really how it was.
If she is/was your best friend, perhaps you should ask her what her side of the story is and then you can work out why she is behaving as she is and if she has a point. You at least owe her that much. Maybe that's all she wants - for you to acknowledge that she still has feelings for the guy you are now hooked up with and that maybe it wasn't quite as over as he thought/made out to you that it was.
If it turns out that she was two-timing and had dumped him already, I would still speak to her, not a slanging match, just a civilised talk, explaining that things move on, she'll find someone else, blah, blah, blah. I would also keep every bit of mail she sent me, a record of all texts, the time and date and what she said to you or did. If she really has got the school and police involved, you will need all this information as evidence that she is the bunny boiler and you are the victim.
2006-12-12 00:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried about the police involvement? Have you broken any laws? If not, they won't get involved at all. They will actually get a laugh out of your friend's actions. Hey, you can't make everyone happy, so you concentrate on your own happiness. Same with the school's part - this is a personal matter that does not involve them. Sounds like a WONDERFUL (sarcasm intended) friend to have. Losing her as a friend may be the best thing that ever happened to you. Friends are supposed to support each other and be able to talk about stuff like this in a mature manner if they are truly friends.
2006-12-12 00:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only have one best friend and you did the big no no, sacrifice and give the bf up, because he is no good for getting between the two of you. Make up with you girlfriend and get a new bf. I know it is hard, but you will understand it after you guys start taking again. The key is to back away from all of the drama.
2006-12-12 00:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well usually that would be a "No-No" unless you talk to your friend. thats one of the cardinal rules of friendship is not dating the "EX".... but your way past that, shes been writing you hate-mail what exactly did you reply with, where she is getting the cops and your school into this.? Aslong as you said nothing where "im gonna kill you" or something out like that your not going to get in any trouble. as the friendship goes, i think she will still hate you even if you did break up with your boyfriend.......... Best of Luck. hope everything turns out well... just stick with your boyfriend, keep your chin up.
2006-12-12 00:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The damage is done, there is a line that friends shouldn't cross. And you have crossed it. Deal with it and hope that things will die down. If you haven't done anything wrong such as unlawful then don't worry. Explain to important parties exactly what is going on. Her goal is to bring upon enough grief to where you guys split up. Now it depends on how thick your skin is. Avoid her and situations at all cost. Good luck!
2006-12-12 00:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by starchild_kisschild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you wrote, you sound like around the same age as my daughter (I'm a young mom,42) but I don't know what kinda hate mail you wrote back. Was it something bad enough that would get you in trouble? Just keep calm and know that this kinda stuff that seems so important to kids your age are not that important to adults like the cops unless you can be precieved as a serious threat to her wellbeing. In the future, no matter what anyone does or says to you, keep yourself blameless and you will have nothing to fear. I know it's tempting to fire back but don't. You are free to date anyone you choose to. It's not like she was married to him. Even then, it's not illegal, just not moraly acceptabale. Don't worry anymore. This will all blow over. Applogise if you can.
2006-12-12 00:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by LQQK2U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to ignore her. You need to decide if having him as a boyfriend is more important then having her as a friend. Why would she two time on him if she cared about him in the first place though? I say go for it girlfriend however remember it is costing you a friendship. However, there is nothing cops can do because you were just trying to cover yourself from her offensive emails.
2006-12-12 00:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie G 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell her,it's not your fault she broke up with her ex,
don't be afraid of the cops coz u didn't do anything wrong
if she starts to confront u
tell her to be friends again and forget the whole thing
if she doesn't want it that way
tell her to stop being immature and grow up
hope this helps!
2006-12-12 00:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by silverwater92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop replying to her ignore her and talk to the school and police putting your side but ex boyfriends and brothers etc are a no no if you are her friend and she'll be annoyed at you friends are important
2006-12-12 00:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by julie t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋