2006-12-12 00:18:32 · 11 answers · asked by curious 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Wow, I'm shocked at all the ridiculas answers... so it's time for a bi-girl to step in and give her insight.
You wife may or may not be bisexual. She may just be what we call "bi-curious," meaning she thinks being with a woman would be awesome, but either never would do anything with another woman or if she did find herself in a situation with a woman, not enjoy it as much as she thought.
Whether she's bi or just bi-curious, don't you DARE approach her with, "Hey baby, let's find you a girlfriend and have a threesome!" Nothing could be more hurtful than that. Instead, talk to her about it calmly, mentioning things you've noticed that make you suspect she's bi. Don't be accusing, but just talk about it, have her open up to you, and discuss your feelings about it.
Now, how she handles her "coming out" to you is a whole other story I won't even touch upon. She may want to experiment and find out if she is bi/curious, she may or may not want you there, or she may not even want to see if she is and just keep it to just fantasies she can share with you in bed.
Be kind and understanding, because chances are, you've stumbled upon her deep dark secret and she may not be ready to share it yet. Just let her know you love her and you're always there for her.
2006-12-12 02:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by serena_dee 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Generally, she will be spending more time away from the house. And then other signs are new hobbies, perhaps working out more, a dramatic change in grooming or appearance, a lack of interest in you and/or sex with you. As for confirming your suspicion, you'd really have to talk it out with her. But if she's seriously not cheating, it could really hurt her feelings that you don't trust her. Just try to be absolutely sure before you walk that path.
2016-03-17 21:28:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... I think that.. you could tell by her choice of DVD's.. is one way to do it... does she have a strange obsession with Angelina Jolie?
Another is Drew Barrymore, GIrl action movies, Girl movies in which a straight girl wouldn't let you watch because the girls are either naked most of the time or are way too hot?
OK.. does she watch lesbian porn OR does she allow you to rent ALOT of lesbian orientated movies starring lesbians...
Does she have a real thing for "The L word" ?
Hmm.... that was me and my ex was just too blind to notice that I was Bi.
In fact sexually... does she make you go down on her more often than other girls would usually like???
Why don't you just ask her, it may not be a secret!
2006-12-12 01:17:38 · answer #3 · answered by valley_storm 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
When you've got her hot and heavy, ask her questions and see what her answers are. That will give you information about any fantasies she has.
But REALLY watch her reaction, don't just take her words as her answer. She might be buying into the fantasy of the moment because of the heat but not really be into the idea of reality.
And I should bear one other warning. Be careful of realizing fantasies, because that may change a lot more than you expect...
2006-12-12 00:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by jeffedl 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
im bisexual and i check out boyz and girls, and flirt with them. but if she doesn't do that why does it matter? she chose you didn't she. if u really want to know, bring it up in a conversation and ask her if shes ever been attracted to another woman, or something.
2006-12-12 01:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hire a sexy female stripper for a private show at your house. If your wife looses her damn mind, drooling & what not. She's bi. If she looks at u with disgust in her eyes. She's not.
2006-12-12 03:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Well, what makes you think she is in the first place? There has to be something to get you going?
2006-12-12 00:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
while being bi is unacceptable (here anyway) this could lead to some of the wildest excitement any man ever experience. if she is still affectionate to you why do you mind as long as her 'friend'is healthy?
2006-12-12 00:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Her, in bed with another woman, is usually a dead give away.
2006-12-12 00:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by buldawg 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
great stuff, I'd love such a woman. Just ask her, isn't she your wife???
2006-12-12 00:36:45 · answer #10 · answered by b94897p8 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋