2006-12-11 23:53:58 · 52 answers · asked by miss cool 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Miss Cool - IF it does not bother his partner and IF he does not spend more time looking at porn than being with her.
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2006-12-11 23:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I looked at your other questions. Your guy is 10 years older than you, and maybe you feel a little 'young' sometimes with him. Maybe he looks at porn, and tells you there is no harm in it, but it bothers you? If that is the case, then dont let him brush your fears away. If something is a problem for one person in the relationship, it is a problem for both. It should be discussed and a compromise reached. If he is looking at porn, then maybe wanting you to do certain things that he has seen, then maybe that is a problem?
All i can do is say you must talk openly to him about all your fears and concerns, and hope he will take them seriously.
I actually think the age gap is rather large. I was married to someone 9 years older than me, and the difference showed at times.
However, its all up to you. If you are not happy about anything - SAY SO and discuss it. But be realistic, him occasionally looking at porn isnt going to hurt you, unless he ignores you to look at it or has unrealistic expectations about what you and he should do in your personal sex lfe.
2006-12-12 00:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think so, but it depends on a couple of different factors.
I think porn is ok, as long as the porn you watch is not degrading to women as this could slowly lead to a change in attitude towards your girlfriend.
Porn can be good in a relationship, especially if your girlfriend chooses not to be sexually active. This can help you unload your sexual frustations (as is natural for all men) without pressuring your girlfriend into something she doesn't want to do.
Even better, she might like it too (stranger things have happened!). This could be a great asset to spice up your sex life. But like I said, only if she is into it aswell. If she isn't, keep it to yourself and never pressure her.
2006-12-12 00:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by Alex C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All guys look at porn whether they are in a relationship, married, seriously dating or what ever. They are guys and they look. Who really knows the male brain any way they just like looking whether it is on the net, magazine, for real or on tv. They enjoy staring at the female body. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-12 00:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends.
Does both parties in the relationship feel porn is acceptable? If your significant other looks at porn and you don't like it then you really need to sit them down and tell them how you feel.
2006-12-12 00:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, Why are you looking at porn, ask yourself seriously.
My partner and I watch porn movies together, and sometimes my mates will show me some, (usual male bonding , lol) but if you feel the need to hide away and not tell your girlfriend then you need to ask yourself why, and should you be in this relationship.
Try talking to your girlfriend about it, if you care for each other than you should be able to talk.
DUH! @ME sorry, re-read the question, and see your asking aboutsomeone else, sorry....
Show or tell him what I wrote, but if he's told you and you accept it then its ok, if you don't like it then you should tell him so.
Try and enjoy it together, get him to get a soft porn film and watch it in each others arms ;-)
2006-12-11 23:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by Sobchak 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well thats one i havnt quite figured out yet. Most ppl dont have a problem with it but i just dont like the idea of my bf getting off watching some other girl. If she was in the same room it wuld be classed as cheating so why does it make a difference on a screen? The only problem is most guys arnt gona change their ways so i guess we just gotta put up with it. as long as he doesnt start prefering it to you then everythings ok.
2006-12-12 01:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they all do it. I dont think they should though. If they MUST, then they should do it casually when at work or out with lads. Porn is ok to enhance sex life but not to take over. If a man knows that a woman is unhappy or uncomfortable with him watching porn then he should not do it. A man should respect his partners feelings.
2006-12-12 00:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by stars 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's OK for anyone ,in any relationship to look at porn.
2006-12-11 23:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think porn is fine, but there can be problems. If the person is so into porn that they aren't paying attention to their spouse, that can lead to problems. There needs to be balance between porn and compassion
2006-12-12 01:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer Lu22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋