i went part time to be her main carer and my wife increased her hours to work. we have split up and she is offering me 3 days a week with her . even though she earns more than me and didnt want children she wants maintanence and benefits.my feeling says i should go to court spend the £6000 as this is my daughters life and future. what do you think ?
2006-12-11 23:38:26 · 15 answers · asked by SIMON T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say definately fight for your daughter. If your wife was the primary money maker in the family and you were taking care of your daughter, not only should you get custody, you should get alimony. Alimony is not just something women get. Don't ever let anyone tell you not to fight for your daughter. She is the most important thing in your life and if your wife didn't want children in the first place she has no business keeping her full time. You deserve your daughter and if it were me, I would do whatever it takes to keep her. Think of how your daughter will feel only seeing you 3 days a week when all she knows is you being there everyday. She will more than likely feel abandoned by you. If the court decides that she should be with her mother, then try to work a different arrangement out while in court where you would get more than just 3 days with her. If you cannot get full custody, get joint custody.
2006-12-12 00:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anytime that you can avoid going to court, do that. You are both adults and if you can't be together, you at least need to work together to show your daughter that you can at least be friends. She'll be way more well rounded for it. I went through the same thing a couple of years ago and my ex is probably my best friend. It makes things go a helluva lot easier. If you take all this to court, it's likely to blow up and turn into angry bouts of sh*t-slinging and hatred. Never good. Also, just to let you know, I do have full custody of both my kids. It is possible for daddy to take over even if mommy wasn't too awful bad. It's all about compromise.
2006-12-12 07:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by D. L. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say give it a trial few weeks to see how things go,you will still have 3 days a week which is almost half,see how it goes...going to court always make things ugly and worse,i would just hold off and see how things go w/ your planned arrangement!
2006-12-12 07:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by molliehollie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of your daughters wellfare. Sounds to me like she would be better off with daddy. She deserves the best life that you can provide for her. No amount of money can compare to your daughters wellfare and happiness. Go to court my freind. Hope you win custody.
2006-12-12 07:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you think your daughter would be better off with you, then yes, go to court and get full custody. i don't know how it is over there, but here in Oklahoma, (or at least in my town) the mom's usually get the children. but you can always try.
2006-12-12 07:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by living_dead_sandra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the decision is yours but also remember that your daughter will be the one affected if it gets nasty children normally are and she is young so she will noy understand what is going on so think long and hard about it if it is the best thing then go for it
2006-12-12 07:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by PASSION 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you....good luck....you have been her main caregiver and hopefully that will count for something....nice to see a dad that wants to put his child first...I will you and your daughter much luck
2006-12-12 07:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it feels right, go for it.This is your daughter's life we're talking about.
2006-12-12 07:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by amandarosallyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think this should be addressed to an Attorney.
2006-12-12 07:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES
this is your child and you need to do what is best for her.
2006-12-12 07:42:23 · answer #10 · answered by betty boop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋