I broke down in my su.v last week, and a bloke gave me a tow home, as it wasn't far. since then this man has been round almost everyday, bringing bread or veggies for my animals, hes now booked riding lessons, I've not encouraged him and am starting to feel uncomfortable, help
2006-12-11 23:38:26 · 22 answers · asked by pepzi_bandit 2 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Music
Stalked? Not sure, feeling uncomfortable, very. Tell this caller that although you appreciate his intentions, you have no interest in him on that level. Make sure you have another person with you when he comes to call or for his lessons. Hopefully that will be enough to get the hint.
2006-12-11 23:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by beeotch 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say that this person has invaded your space. It was nice of him to help you out when you needed it but unfortunately that is how most crimes are started. He found you in need of help then he got the chance to find out where you live and a lot about your lifestyle in a short time. This could be innocent to him but if you feel uncomfortable then you need to tell him that this is not right to you DO NOT be alone with him or in a area where he could have control of your space. If this continues and you start noticing that he is showing up at all the places you are then I would call that stalking. Talk to someone at work or to the police to just let them know what is going on.
2006-12-12 08:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by rockerchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, it does sound a bit odd. Maybe he's just being a nice fella and helping out what he views as a damsel in distress.
Perhaps next time he comes round you could thank him for all he's done but have a brother/cousin/male friend/colleague occupying the sofa so you can say that you have to get your partner's dinner on the go or something which will gently tell him you are not interested but without actually saying it outright. Then get a colleague to give him his riding lessons.
2006-12-12 07:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to report him for stalking, why in gods name would he book riding lessons, did he even know that you did lessons before he towed you home, if not, then I say he is stalking you, be very very careful and just make sure you are always with someone when he is around, can you check his name in the internet or with the police. Just be on guard ok, and god bless and be safe.
2006-12-12 07:45:53 · answer #4 · answered by Just M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he really really likes you ,it does a sound a small bit weird that he is constantly around ,My advice talk to him and ask him to stop if he dosent back off involve the police but for god sake make this a last resort and also have a friend in the next room when you talk to him just in case he is crazy (sorry i dont mean to scare you by suggesting he is crazy). My sister had a similar problem with this guy from her class she ended up going out with him then they broke up after a month (her case is not exatly like yours by the way).
2006-12-12 08:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by nivekyesac88 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him.
Tell him that you thought it was nice of him to help you with your car, but that you are getting uncomfortable with him showing up around you constantly. Chances are that he is just not clever about approaching a woman and not a mean stalker.
Ask him why he's doing it - and possibly tell him afterwards that you prefer he stopped. This way the cat and mouse game (potentially him waiting for you to take a step) ends.
2006-12-12 07:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by Der Koelner 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This dude sounds pretty strange. If you were giving him encouragement to come around that would be fine but if he can't or won't pick up on the rejection signals something needs to be done.
Woman are quite intuitive re: "the creep factor"
2006-12-12 07:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does sound dodgy. Why don't you refuse him riding lesson. And if he keeps coming round, ask him why. Maybe say you don't want him to come round anymore. If he continues after that tell the police.
2006-12-12 07:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by interestiblez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah either he's stalking you or he is overly aggressive. Sometimes guys see a woman in distress and turn it in to opportunity. You should tell him you got somebody, not so many words. I white lie doesn't hurt nobody.
2006-12-12 07:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Bubba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS WELL WEIRD! U COULD MABEY SAY TO HIM THAT HE CANT COME ROUND ANYMORE, IF HE ASKS WHY SAY YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND THAT IS AWAY AND HE IS COMING BACK SOON AND HE WILL GET THE WRONG IDEA! IF HE DOESNT LISTEN, XPLAIN THAT YOU WILL GET THE POLICE INVOLVED, HOW COME YOU HAVENT SAID ANYTHING TO HIM BEFORE? IS IT BECAUSE YOU DONT WANT TO UPSET HIM BECAUSE OF HIS KINDNESS? IF SO THATS A TRICKYONE ~!~ GOOD LUCK HUN X
2006-12-12 07:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋