My 12-year old drops to the floor when she is upset. Sometimes she throws a fit.
She has been tested when she was young and there is no disorder. She can be high-strong, but passionate about life, witty, charming, spontaneous, caring, adventurous and creative.
I say to her, "I see that you are upset, but please stand up and let's discuss this".
Any other suggestions how to curb her intense emotions?
2006-12-11 23:35:05 · 15 answers · asked by cmachiela 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
She's doing it to get a response out of you. The whole purpose of it is to gain your attention or the attention of anyone around. When she throws fits everyone stops and looks at her, she is the center of everyone's attention. Simply ignore her. Tell her she is being immature and you cannot talk to her when she acts like this and ignore her. Do not respond any further after saying that. She will stop. It will take several times but she'll get the hint.
2006-12-12 05:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can kind of relate to you. My oldest son is 11 and when he gets in trouble or things don't sometime go his way he flops on the floor or will kick stuff around and whine like a baby. And like your child he has been tested for disorders like ADD and ADHD. He is normally a wonderful child very laid back, charming and so so sweet. I have just noticed that around other kids his age he doesn't act their age. So I just think he has just not matured for his age and they may be the situation with your daughter. I think you are doing great, don't let this get you down and don't evert think that you are doing something wrong. We do the best we can and love our child no matter what. Just let her know she's only embarrassing herself. She will eventually grow out of it, or atleast let's hope they do. Goodluck and Happy Holidays!
2006-12-12 05:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by sweetme35 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she has the fit just walk away. Then after she has calmed down talk to her about it. Tell her that it upsets you when she acts like a 2 year old. When she wants something deny it to her and remind her about her fits.
Another option- this may sound extreme but it could work... next time you ask her to do something and she say no... throw yourself of the floor- embarrass her so she can see what her actions look like.
2006-12-12 01:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jenks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying to find out what the cause of this problem is.
If there is anything that you have to do that is not very nice for her; try to find another way, try to come to some agreement and then accomidate.
Anything you have to do that she does not like that you cannotr alter, say why you cannot alter it.
Is there any bullying at school, abuse in the family such as spanking and sexual abuse, any problems that she find hard to discribe.
Then there is the issue of ensuring that she done not do this with positive feedback for trying to do things in an adult fashion.
That is about all I know.
2006-12-12 01:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so she throws a have compatibility. The dwelling room is not any situation for sleep. The bed room is for quiet time and napping. She is appearing out, considering she thinks she is accountable for the divorce. Have a talk with the teenager! If she does now not obey the foundations of the residence, there;s the door!
2016-09-03 07:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by dassler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell. She's 12 and throwing tantrums like a 2 yr old? She does have a disorder - spoiled freaking brat disorder. "Please stand up and let's discuss this???" Are you kidding me? She needs some discipline, not a frank grown-up discussion.
2006-12-12 03:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her not to act liek a 2 yer old. i wold throw fits to but wouldnt drop to the floor. my mom always told me stuff liek that, it made me stop and realize i wasnt being mature about things.
maybe try tellign her not to act like a 4 year old or something?
worked for my mom and i
2006-12-12 06:38:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she acts like a 2 year old treat her like one and walk away. Ignore it she's just looking for a response. When you ignore her she may realize how ridiculous she looks.
2006-12-11 23:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by pnutallergymom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DID THE SAME THING WHEN I WAS LITTLE (youngest of 8) MY GRANDDAD TOLD ME TO LOOK AT MYSELF IN THE MIRROR WHEN I WOULD THROW A TANTRUM. WOW, DID NOT LIKE WHAT I SAW. ALSO, WHEN MOM WOULD GET UPSET WITH ME, SHE WOULD THROW A SIMILAR TANTRUM, JUST TO SHOW ME HOW RIDICULOUS IT WAS. SHE LIKES THE ATTENTION SHE GETS WHEN SHE DOES THIS.
2006-12-12 00:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by anna s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants attention ignore it and she will see that it isnt working anymore and will stop.
2006-12-12 01:51:04 · answer #10 · answered by --; cookie. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋